My husband and I had a ver good marriage. But over the years we gew apart. I care for him but not in love. It is time for both of us to move on. I don't know if this is a right decision. Divorce is a no no in my culture. Help!
2007-06-19 11:29:33 · 21 answers · asked by East & West 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe your afraid your not going to meet anyone better or fall in love with anyone. So best off to stay with the one your with and live up to your cultures rules. Or you could be afraid that you might not meet anyone at all and sometimes someone is better than no-one.
2007-06-19 11:36:40 · answer #1 · answered by 24Special 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Cultures aside, If its time to move on, then its time to move on. You fail to mention just how he feels about this. If this is a mutual thing then whats so hard about it ? At least when its over, you both could still be friendly. If its just you thinking this way, then I would guess that you are feeling left out or maybe time has just put the blahs into the relationship. Openly discuss this with him. Dont surprise him with an attorneys paper. This will only tell him that you were unable to discuss things openly and possibly lead to a very nasty conclusion. Maybe speak to your clergy?
2007-06-19 11:41:13 · answer #2 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And what r u going to do with next husband? what will u do when the passion fades again? I bet you will care for him as well before divorcing, the whole "in love" excuse is a typical excuse for women to get out of marriages when they are bored,but you will be surprised to find out that the grass isn t greener on the other side, and by then how many marriages would you have ammassed ? you ought to think about these things.
2007-06-19 11:38:35 · answer #3 · answered by ericktravel 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi
Divorce is a NO NO ??
I know some cultures are really bad with this but if you two have grown apart yet can still talk about stuff try to see if there is a way to do this that won't get YOU into trouble....Better to move on than be forever unhappy
2007-06-19 11:35:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to work at marriage. When you fell in love you would spend time with each other and take interest in what each felt or thought about things and your love for each other grew. If you grew apart it is because you probably didn't work at staying together --the key to a happy and healthy marriage is to stay in love and make your spouse the priority over anything else, just the way you used to when you were dating. It is easy to fall in love, but if you really care for someone you have to stay in love.
2007-06-19 11:39:19 · answer #5 · answered by dimplez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is too short. You need to be happy! Firstly, I would definitely recommend trying to mend your marriage. It doesn't sound like you guys are on bad terms, but just fell out of love. If you have already tried marriage counselling and all other options to fix the marriage (romantic weekend trips, dates, etc)... then try separating for a bit. If you are a happier person then, perhaps it's time to get a divorce.
2007-06-19 11:35:22 · answer #6 · answered by Cochy 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
it might have to do with not understanding why the love is gone...unless you already know that reason there is no other reason to fear being single...because you can be assured that if you don't want to be and would like to be in another loving relationship then you will be...however, if your walking away from this relationship just because and have no real reason there could be reason to fear..how can one have a better relationship than before if you don't know how to fix what is broken....make sure your reasons are understood and then you can look forward to actually being single.
2007-06-19 11:38:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You had better be sure, the grass is not greener, and you are not thinking about the practical aspects of what you are considering. There is the matter of a new residence, cutting your budget in half. Do not be stupid, get counseling, and think it through (both of you!!!).
2007-06-19 11:44:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does he feel... I suggest counseling to see if you can fix your marriage.. then you stand a chance of having it all.. You might not get divorced and you wouldn't be doing anything against your culture
2007-06-19 11:34:44 · answer #9 · answered by SexySandy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you asking if divorce is the answer? Or are you already decided in the fact that's you're going to get a divorce and need support in that?
Details, more details.
2007-06-19 11:34:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋