Not to be mean or rude, but since my husband and I have been doing everything by the book for nearly a year and still haven't been successful conceiving...it's hard to be happy for people who ARE pregnant. Even if they may have gone through the same thing... Grrr... Anyone want to vent? Any advice on how I can be less resentful?
2007-06-19 11:21:53 · 16 answers · asked by WonderingWanderer 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Wow! i am going through the same thing, we have been trying for 6 months, and i am so depressed that it is not happening, and then everyone i know and everyone i see is pregnant, its haunting.
I have so many baby showers to go to and i am not motivated to go to any, i want to cry everytime i go, i am angry and getting really negative thinking i cant get pregnant. it really sucks, and its sad because some of the people who are pregnant are my friends and i want to be happy for them but it is so hard, because i keep thinking what happens if i cant have a baby.
Well thanks, i was just talking about this the other day, i am glad that it is not only me noticing this.
2007-06-19 12:10:28 · answer #1 · answered by jelly_bean_19_69 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard. My husband and I tried for almost 4 years and everytime I saw someone pregnant or found out someone I knew was pregnant, it broke my heart. Unfortunately for you, there seems to be a huge baby boom this year that must be making it worse. The only thing I can say is keep trying and try to stay positive. You'll get through it. Remember - what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. BTW...I got pregnant in February....see...there's always hope :) Maybe go see your OB/GYN to see if they have any suggestions. I went through a bunch of tests and was prescribed clomid (which I filled the prescription and got pregnant before I even started taking it). Good luck to you and be gentle on yourself!!
2007-06-19 18:41:51 · answer #2 · answered by bebemama 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I am. It's not so much tired as frustrated and jealous ( I can't help it) I got a new niece and nephew in the past six month and 2 friends are pregnant now. It's just hard to see them being where you wish you were (i couldn't hold back the tears when one of my best friends told me she was pregnant, it really just hurt). Take a couple breaths and think when you are there you don't want the ones around feeling that way towards you. Karma.
2007-06-19 18:41:29 · answer #3 · answered by Mama B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, my husband and I tried for 5 years, then we just stopped trying (not sex, but stopped paying attention) THEN we got pregnant. I will happen when the time is right, just be patient.
But during those 5 years I was really annoyed every time I heard this person or that person was pregnant. Especially my husband's little sister, who got pregnant at 16 and then again at 18. Towards the end MY MOTHER said she would be a surrogate for us. That was the absolute worst. That's when I gave up trying.
2007-06-19 18:34:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel, I'm trying for baby #2 and I feel the same way. I just say to myself, that'll be me in a few months, and that makes me feel a little more positive. What's even worse for me is seeing all the questions on here from teenagers who are pregnant, and people asking about aboritons. It's sad when others who dont want a baby get pregnant so easily.
2007-06-19 18:34:10 · answer #5 · answered by Melissa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to feel that way because you want a baby but did you ever think what they went through to get pregnant? Probably the same thing your going through and it was just their time to conceive. Keep trying eventually it will happen don't give up.
2007-06-19 19:19:21 · answer #6 · answered by lovely 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been ther done that...I hated pregnant women...even more so after a miscarriage. Its hard I know...but I came to realize that it wasn't their fault that I couldn't get pregnant. It does fade. After a year of trying...maybe you should try clomid?? Might make the process a little easier for you??
2007-06-19 18:40:31 · answer #7 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for the problems you are having. I feel bad about getting pregnant twice without trying, and there are people who have to try. God has his own time for everything, keep on trying!! I am sure youll be a great mom.
2007-06-19 18:31:02 · answer #8 · answered by cherrie022 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I feel the same way! If I hear one more girl say, "oops, it just happened, we werent even trying!" Im going to scream my head off. We too, have been trying for a year, and its so hard to see all the preggo ladies waddling around. I just don't understand why everyone makes it look so easy.
2007-06-19 18:26:23 · answer #9 · answered by captain9901 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I went through the same thing-only it took us 12 years! It was worth the wait!
2007-06-19 18:32:16 · answer #10 · answered by Urchin 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋