Should I tell My husband that his Friend is.....?

Question

My husband's friend has been after me for 6 months now..I have said No over and over..he keeps sending me flowers when they husband is at work(of course i throw them away)..My husband and I are newly weds(married for 1 year)..He (my husband friend) attended the same college with my husband and they play golf and hung out together a lot.

He has even sent me a diamond bracelet that i returned to him...Last night at a business function..while my husband was chatting with other people..His friend came behind and pressed against me so hard I could feel his pensis..I walked away..

Later he asked my husband and then me if he could dance with me..I said No but my husband insisted I dance with him..so i did..He was talking dirty and pressing against my breasts, he then squeezed my butt..I'm sick of this..

Should i tell my husband? and if so how do i approach my husband without making him feel like i'm trying to break their friendship..I know his friend will deny it?

Answer 1

Absolutely you should tell your husband. This is a friendship you WANT broken; this man is no good. Chances are, your husband is going to believe you over his friend.

I would talk to him right away. The longer you wait before you finally do tell him, the higher the chances of your husband thinking there was something going on between the two of you.

Good luck.

Answer 2

i think you should have told your husband from the beginning. But you still need to tell him about this now. This man is not a good man and you shouldn't be around him in the first place. I would first start by telling your husband that you are uncomfortable around this friend of his and if he asks why tell him, and of course he's going to be mad with this friend. He may even ask you why you let this go on for so long just tell him you wanted to be sure that you weren't just making a mistake! besides this friend of your husbands is not as good of a friends as your husband thinks if he's doing this to you in the first place!!! also keep some of the evidence that this man gives you and while talking with your husband show these things to him it will help. Good luck!!!

Answer 3

First of all, don't pay too much attention to those answers that suggest you are sinful and have done wrong by not telling your husband already. No one can understand the reasoning unless they have been in the same situation themselves.

However, I do think that you should tell your husband as soon as possible, and I also think that it would be to your advantage to keep some evidence to show him to prove that what you say is true. And while this is a really wacky suggestion, you should also think about the consequences in the event that your husband might have put his friend up to this in the first place. I know that is very, very unlikely, but nevertheless, still a remote possibility.

The best advice anyone can give you is to trust in your husband, and trust in yourself, and tell him what's been going on. And don't give a second thought to coming between your husband and his friend. His friend isn't really much of a friend after all.

Answer 4

Tell your husband already. By hiding it so long (as it wasn't a one time deal) you look guilty. Show him the flowers (or ask the florist for a listing of deliveries to you). Should have taken the bracelet and asked your husband to return it for you.

If you don't want to tell your husband flat out, just tell him that you feel uncomfortable around his friend. That he can continue to be friends, but you don't wish to have any more than the casual hello with the guy. Your husband has got to respect that. Your husband will eventually find out what is going on and then wonder why you didn't say anything.

Answer 5

Seriously...your husband deserves to know one because you are his wife and two because the guy hitting on you is his friend. If your friend was hitting on your husband, wouldn't you want to know? Perhaps the best way is to keep one of his gifts..so the next time he sends you flowers, you can show them to your husband so there is no possibility that he won't believe you. Not that your husband won't believe you...but the guy is his friend, and I think that your husband might think that you are simply overreacting or something like that.
There really is no best way to tell him, its going to hurt no matter what. Just make sure you tell your hubby that its not that you want to break the friendship up, you just don't know what else to do to make this guy stop from hitting on you. Hopefully if your husband is aware and he talks to his friend, this friend will take the hint that you are really not interested (otherwise you would not have told your husband) and stop hitting on you.
Good luck...

Answer 6

Yes, you should tell your husband. The truth always comes out and if you don't, it will look like you were hiding something from him. And do you really want your husband to be friends and hang out with someone like that? Just start from the beginning. Maybe wait until the next time you recieve flowers or a gift from this perv, so you can show him. Get a log from the flower shop of all the flower deliveries made to you with him as the sender. Good luck!

Answer 7

I would tell the jerk that if he said or did one more thing you are going to tell your husband. If he does do 1 more thing then I would tell my husband. Your husband doesn't need a so called friend like that, that is Certainly no a Friend. I wouldn't give a S*** about their friendship. I would also stop the jerk from coming over to my home.

Answer 8

Well, if you think he is cheating then you should go see a divorce lawyer and find out your rights, do not have any kids either. If his friends cheat and he is joking about cheating, he is likely cheating, too. He's just testing the water to see how you will react. 1) Does he hide his cell phone from you? 2) Dos he hide the credit card bill from you? 3) Does he have new clothes? 4) Has he joined a gym? 5) Is he gone for unexplained time or goes on an errand and doesn't come back for hours? 6) Does he have new friends? 7) Is he indifferent to you? 8) If you accuse him of cheating, he says that YOU are the one cheating? One thing for sure, a cheater isn't sorry he or she cheated. They are only sorry they got caught and will be more careful next time. Go talk to a divorce lawyer.

Answer 9

You should have been told your husband a marriage is built on trust and that means that you guys must share all even through it my hurt the other person you tell because that is how you two will build a bond that one can brake, and if you do not tell him now he will think that you are leaving room for you to change your mind and date the jerk, or just the fact that he is still this guys buddy is bad because this guy is bad news and your husband doesn't need to be with a jerk like that.

Answer 10

Tell you husband.
Your husband's friend is not only being disrespectful of you AND your husband.. it seems to have excalated and could very easily turn into something dangerous.
IF your husband doesn't believe you then (that's a problem that you can solve by insisting you don't want his "friend" around you under any circumstances).
I truly hope that your husband isn't encouraging this WITh his friend.. telling him to do this hoping to turn it into something kinky.

Answer 11

This man is not your husband's friend. Tell your husband. If your usband doesn't believe you then he is not honoring your word. Record the guy coming on to you if you need proof. Honestly, you won't be breaking up a healthy friendship.