right i am 31weeks and was talkin bout my labour plans i only want my fiancee in with me if hes not then i dont want anyone other than him and the staff that are meant 2 be there now people are gettin at me because i dont want my mum there looking up me etc and family are sayin that my mum should be there etc if my man isnt but i am entitled 2 my opinion and privacy arnt i?
2007-06-19 10:06:04 · 19 answers · asked by mummy of 2gorgeous boys 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Yes, your entitled to your choice of who you want in the delivery room. Your mother could be there but she can wait for you in the recovery so that she can see the baby right after it's born. Don't listen to family members, they only want to stir things up and you don't need that right now. Good luck!
2007-06-19 10:10:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is your choice not your family's or anyone elses. I hate it when people try to force to do something you don't want to do! When I was pregnant with my 1st child my mother tried to guilt me into having her in the delivery room instead of my daughter's father! I've hardly seen my mother during my life so why would I give her the honor of being there when my daughter was born?
You should choose to do what you feel is right and leave it at that. Any hurt feelings will go away after the baby arrives and everyone gets a look at that beautiful bundle of joy!
Good luck!
2007-06-19 17:13:59 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion no one but the father, mother, doctor and staff should be there. Tell mom you would venture to guess that not even your dad was in with her (well depends on her age) This is a special moment that only you and fiance/husband should have together. The ONLY time I think a mom should be there is if husband is perhaps far away on military duty OR the delivering mom is way underage.
2007-06-19 17:14:57 · answer #3 · answered by Mickey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely your decision. You might have a battle on your hands with your Mom but if your Mom knows you she should understand your want for the privacy.
I would however counsel having someone with you though. Staff may not be in the room constantly and you may need someone to run for you. Also if you are in a lot of pain you might need someone to answer the questions for you, someone else who knows what you want to happen. Nothing worse than being in the middle of a contraction and the doctor saying is it ok to cut you (episiotomy) and it's not what you want only you can't answer him.
2007-06-19 17:12:04 · answer #4 · answered by babybugs1980 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are entitled to have whoever you want in the delivery room with you. If you only want your fiancee in there with you, then inform the nursing staff of this. They will keep anyone else out. If your mom really wants to be there, you could suggest that she be with you during your labor, but not while you're in delivery.
2007-06-19 17:10:36 · answer #5 · answered by thereligiousrightisneither 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's up to you! My husband probably won't be here for our little one due to deployment, and I didn't want anyone else there but him or my mom. He's mother offered to be there, but I didn't want her there looking at my female parts either. You could always ask them to be there until it's time to actually push, and return after the baby's out. That way they are there to help you, and you are happy because they weren't there to actually "see" any thing! ;) It's personal preference and if they don't like it then tuff, they will still love you and the baby! Good luck!
2007-06-19 17:47:33 · answer #6 · answered by AshReneeM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can have anyone you want and restrict everyone else. Most hospitals make you give a list of people allowed to be there or have information about you and your baby. The hospital will and must protect your privacy.
2007-06-19 17:10:03 · answer #7 · answered by artillerywifecq77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, it is what ever you feel comfortable. I personally agree with you in that I don't want people staring between my legs. Just me and my husband will be in there until right after. Then everyone can come in. I think that gives you and the father a brief family bonding moment first.
2007-06-19 17:09:49 · answer #8 · answered by Cash, Gage and Jax's Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your decision ultimately. However, you may want to reconsider having your mom there. Mine was supportive in ways my hubby couldn't be, it' s not that he didn't want to be supportive it is that fact that your mom has been in the same situation and can be of better help because she knows what you are going through. When you are in labor you won't care if there is 100 people there watching you, you will be focused on pushing, so what does it matter if your mom is there to see her grandchild being born? Like I said, it is up to you though.
2007-06-19 17:17:31 · answer #9 · answered by Busy Mommy of 3 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Trust me when the time comes the last thing you think of when your legs are wide open is who is looking at your p*****.I was blessed to have my mother there the first time.It was the most painful experience but mommy made it bearable.My husband ran a little late so it really helped having mom there.The second time it was just hubby, mom was with my first born.I think either one will do.Lets just say their faces said it all,especially for my mom holding her baby's hand who is having a baby of her own.
2007-06-19 17:15:32 · answer #10 · answered by somswe 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋