im 23 dating a wonderful guy although he's 40 divorced with an awesome 7 yr old son. i am wondering what the

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ex wife must be thinking.. in general, how do they ex-wives feel about their ex-man dating a younger and pretty female???

he's italian and finds me to be very mature..i sense hostility ladies, let's try to have some class...

their marriage broke off cuz she was having sex with a guy on the side...lol and no i am not a gold digger...lol, i am an occupational therapist and make enough $ for myself...

Answer 1

I'm an ex-wife, I don't care what my ex-husband does. My son on the other hand that's different, as long as he and the girlfriend or wife get along and my son is happy that's all that matters. I wouldn't want my husband to have a new girl every week and expose my son to that but a good stable relationship..why not.

Answer 2

well- what makes you think ur mature enough for him?? you don't have the same kind oflife experiences has he has. There's many reasons why he's now divorced u've only hear his version of the story & not hers yet. I have nothing agains italian guys i actually find them very attractive and romantic but they also happen to love the ladies. I've dated like 8 guys in my life i'm 24 now and 3 happend to be italian and they were really flirtatios people. I thought it was only them but even when i met their family i was comvinced that this group of people like the "happy" life. His age has nothing to do with him being mature or not. He has a 7 yr old and divorced so that tells you alot about him. I dont' judge people but- he's not divorced at that age for no reason. Trust me- you being younger than his ex has nothing to do with weather or not ur better competition or a better woman than her just because ur younger and "better looking." There's a whole lot she can do that you probably don't (in bed) because she's lvied longer than you so- dont' make it seem like because ur younger ur better than her. I've met women in their late 30's or 40's that look extremely great and cook really good and are professionals etc. if they are divorced there's alot of reasons for that doens't always mean it's her fault or his fault so don't judge. As easily as he can be with you that ur younger he can turn around and say that he rather be with someone more mature in bed etc and drop you for a 35-40 yr old just like women. My man is 28 and if i found a guy that is 40 or 50 that absulutely rocked my world i wouldn't hesitate to leave my man for another guy no matter how old or young he is. But- in ur situation- you got guts. I dated a 43yr old man when i was 20 and i couldn't do it. there was so much difference between us from music to clothing, hobbies, etc. It didn't work for me his physique along with other things dind't help. Nothing like having a young guy to experiment with & learn new things without feeling like i'm being critized if i want to watch the SMURFS (my favorite cartoons when i was a kid) or going out in really tight clothes or little shirts etc. Older guys are more conservative & they expect you to be too. Good luck and don't hate!!

Answer 3

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder she may think she is more attractive anyway...
Be respectful to their child and about her and she will have nothing to complain about. It is not a competition about age or looks. Relationships are so much more than that. she is probably starting her own life and really will just want her child in a good environment . Even if she shows some concerns at the beginning, if you show her you are there for the right reasons she will get over it if she is a mature person.

Answer 4

First off, don't take any notice of what people say about the age difference, or the money grabbing thing. I was married to an older man, (25 years older than me) and my sister is married to one 23 years her senior. We also had to hear the remarks of others about him being a cradle snatcher, immoral, etc,etc, etc. and were called money grabbers . Being married to an older man was wonderful for me, and I was devastated when he died from cancer, after only 4 years. My sister is still happily married to her older man, and now has three sons with him. Okay, now to answer your question about the wives! Boy, were they bitter! Both were already divorced when we met the men, so we had nothing to do with the break up of the marriages, but they both HATE us. They both said there was something wrong with their exes, and my husband's ex said that I must have tricked him into marrying me somehow, and that he was disgusting. (She later married a younger man, but I guess somehow in her mind, that was okay!). Enjoy your relationship, and don't worry about the ex wife, it's all sour grapes on their part anyway!

Answer 5

You like older men, I like older men myself , they make better lovers than young men. They know just what to do and how to do it. I don't think 17 years old should make that much difference. They treat you real good and they already have their future planned out and usually they are already set up in their own business. But, I will only date a man that is owner of his own company, wealthy able to take me to nice places and is not a cheap or stingy with that money, some rich man are tight , they tell you ,"Times are getting hard, you gotta learn to tighten up that belt buckle, cause a dollar saved is a dollar made. I would check it to him and let him save that dollar. That is what you call a old miser., not me.no way.
I wouldn't date a person that told me lets buy a pizza and will split the price in half, I'd tell him yeah I'll go get the Pizza you can pay me your half when I get back. I'd be long gone never to return . I just like a person already set for life, go on vacations in the Islands and just all over you can do what you want without worrying about money. Gold digger maybe so but to marry a poor man ,no way. Because when starvation comes walking in the front door, love goes running out the back door.

Answer 6

I guess the real issues here are two; and not what his ex-wife is feeling about you dating him:

1) Are you willing to do what it takes when his child grows up and becomes a teenager? Being a stepparent is NOT easy...

2) What will happen when you marry him, and in 10 or 20 years he cannot give you the sex life you will want? You will be in your prime then, and he will be an older man.

Think about this....

Answer 7

You're nuts for wanting to go out with a 40 year old man. What happens if the two of you fall in love and decide to get married? Guess what? When your 40 something guy turns 60 years old, guess how old you will be? You'll be too young to be tied down to an old man changing his diapers.

He's only going out with you, because he's excited by the fact that he can still attract a younger woman. Dump him and go with someone closer to your age.

Answer 8

Maybe she will be fine, if she feels nothing for him she will not care. Remember there is a reason they are not together. just because she is 40 does not mean she will be jealous. Many older women are much happier in that time of their lives and would never want to be 23 again.

Answer 9

Hopefully your not just doing it to play a game with the ex!! see how jealous she gets! She probably wouldn't be jealous anyway, because she'll know that someone your age won't stay with someone that much older than him, it's only a passing thing to see what you can get and if you don't get what you want, your young enough to move on. Why wonder what the ex is thinking? what does it matter? sounds like a game.

Answer 10

How do you know if she was cheating or not? All you know is what he told you? For all you know, he could be the one who cheated. Trust me when a marriage breaks up it's rarely the fault of just one person. As far as what ex-wives think, what does it matter? It sounds as if you're trying to rub it in his ex-wife's face. Worry about him and not what she's thinking.