We just got married almost a year ago. He works alot and gets tired which I can understand. Is it too much to ask to have sex with the person i love more than 1-2 a month? He doesn't want to go to the doctor or get counseling again. What else do I need to do? I want to have a family with him.
2007-06-19 10:00:39 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Spice it up a little. Strip for him. Do a little role play. Bring some toys in the picture. Look before he gets home put on something nice. You know like the little booty shorts or a thong something. Jump on the couch doggy style or what ever you think he might prefer. Start masturbating right as he's walking in the door. Let just me tell you, he will be so excited he will forget that is was ever tired. As far rest I don't need to say but I'm sure by now you get the picture.
2007-06-19 10:14:35 · answer #1 · answered by hunting4u 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Immediately tell him how your feeling and if he's just working hard. Break the monotony and spice things up. Demand he take a day off for the two of you for only romance. Realize that honeymoons are sometimes quickly over and it's time to work on all areas in your marriage. Whatever the issue, it has to come out. Make sure your
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2007-06-19 18:32:23 · answer #2 · answered by SexyandSensual.net 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He might be suffering from a lot of different things...Health issues, work issues, stress...to mention a few.
I think that lack of sex in a marriage is really just the tip of the iceberg...You have other serious issues you need to address with him in order to fix this situation. If he refuses to go to a doctor or to counseling....Perhaps he is already seeing someone else outside. Good luck....
2007-06-19 17:15:36 · answer #3 · answered by Nena S 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What you don't need to do is have a family with this man why bring a child in to a loveless relationship (on his part) a sexless or almost sexless marriage is not a marriage built on love it's a marriage of convenience you need to get out before you have too much invested like i myself have.
2007-06-19 17:07:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have the same issue! the same exact issue. I know my guy isnt gay, i know he loves me, its just 1-2 a month as well. Maybe with some time it will get better. Try and talk to him about it. tell him you need to have these needs fullfilled and you think it will help your marraige as well. Maybe set the mood when he comes home, hop in the shower with him, maybe offer a massage and make it a bit more kinky than he is expecting.
2007-06-19 17:18:19 · answer #5 · answered by missadvice411 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Here is what you do:
COMMUNICATE
Lack of communication is one of the main reasons marriages don't last. Are you telling him what you need? Are you demanding it? If he doesn't want to have sex with you then there is something wrong with him. It could be stress, it could be fear, I don't know - but something is wrong.
If he refuses to communicate on this matter you may need to consider if this marriage is going to work. If you don't have children it's not too late.
FP
2007-06-19 17:06:30 · answer #6 · answered by F. Perdurabo 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My husband did that ****.I went to someone else and made it very known.Once he realized how quickly I could be gone, he was more than willing to cater to my every desire.The other guy is out of the picture.Long since forgotten and my husband and I have a much richer and stroner marriage.
2007-06-19 17:10:32 · answer #7 · answered by sunkissed299 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
either he's having an affair (sorry to say that) or he's having libido issues.
tell him truthfully and wholeheartedly that it's really affecting your marriage and you're not happy. and if he doesn't fess up or do anything about it, it may seriously hurt your marriage
2007-06-19 17:04:40 · answer #8 · answered by Shrimpboat 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
WELL LADY THERES SOMETHING WRONG? GUYS LOVE SEX!!!!!!!!!!EITHER HE IS 1) GAY 2)CHEATING ON YOU 3) HAS ISSUES WITH HIS BODY PARTS WORKING . I DON'T CARE HOW TIRED I AM I WILL HAVE SEX THEN GO TO BED ..REMEMBER MEN LOVE SEX
2007-06-19 17:35:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
No, you are not wrong. Communicate your desires with him. I hope that his libido issues are not a result of adultry. Barring that you should know what turns him on. Push his buttons.
2007-06-19 17:14:49 · answer #10 · answered by southern_border_texan_70 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋