and she is wanting her daughter to marry the guy (he's 18).
I didn't know people still thought like that . Anyone have an opinion either way??
2007-06-19 09:52:16 · 18 answers · asked by Amy K 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
No need to marry! What they need to do is do whatever they can to support this baby ($$$ and LOVE). He needs to work full time since he's 18! She needs to finish school then go to college or get a job. They can marry later once they are ADULT enough to make a clear choice and not force.
2007-06-19 10:03:52 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some people think that's its best to marry in this case. This could be because they are already in love and have a child, so might as well, right? But when incidents like this come up, I can't help wondering... could their reason to marry be more superficial then it seems? It might sound rude to judge, but could it be that the Mother is simply worried what other people think of her and her daughter? It's plausible, because alot of people consider having a baby before your married (Let alone before you're even 20) bad. That's just the way I see it though...
2007-06-19 17:19:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my son at 16 and me and the father were going to get married bc his mom said it was the right thing to do, by my mom would not allow it, and i am glad because now 3 years later we are no longer together, and we didnt have to go through all the trouble of a divorce.......I think the mother should let her daughter grow up some and then decide for herself whether or not she is wanting to marry this guy. If not they may make the biggest mistake of their lives.
2007-06-19 16:58:21 · answer #3 · answered by Over and Over 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
She probably just wants to have some assurance that the guy will stick around for her daughter and granddaughter. It's a conservative notion, yes, but truth is that fathers play an important role in a child's upbringing. In the end, it's up to the 16 y/o.
2007-06-19 16:59:06 · answer #4 · answered by Kelsey H 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on if there is TRUE love involved. If they were only using each other for sex partners, or if it is silly "high school" love then they should not get married. They are too young, and probably won't be good parents. Unless they come up with a way to support themselves and be good parents then I don't think they should get married.
2007-06-19 17:50:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My cousin had a baby at 17 with an 18 y/o....they are not getting married...but are still together.....i don't think you should push them into marriage...they are planning on getting married further down the line.....but i would wait and have them decide if they want to get married...
2007-06-19 17:02:47 · answer #6 · answered by marcirae18 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope she doesnt force them, it most likly wont work out. People should never marry just because of a child. And that young you shouldnt marry because you ahve some much of your life ahead of you. I think it would cause more grief later down the road if the marriage doesnt work. It will diffently be worse for the child.
2007-06-19 16:59:10 · answer #7 · answered by Cassie V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's true that they are both rather young to be making a life-long commitment, and that it would be really hard for either of them to get through college and become professionals with a child on hand.
It's also true that if the kids are mature for their age, and they're responsible young people really in love with each other it might work.
You want my opinion? Adoption.
2007-06-19 17:01:46 · answer #8 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She cant be legally married until shes 18!!!!!
Tell that asshole boyfriend that he should have wrapped that sh it and now he ****** up and has to pay child support! Same thing happened to my friend....Im a guy and I have the ****** brains not to do retarded ****..
its great to screw....its not so great 9 months later.....i like getting laid but dont b an asshole about it
2007-06-19 17:36:21 · answer #9 · answered by John H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THEY ARE WAY TO YOUNG AND NOT READY FOR THAT. IM 18 AND MY BOYFRIEND IS 22I AM 10 WEEKS PREGNANT AND WE ARE MOVING IN TOGETHER BUT NOT BECAUSE OF THE PREGNANCY BUT BECAUSE WE WANT TO BE WITH EACH OTHER AND I AM DEFINETELY NOT GETTING MARRIED NOT BECAUSE I DONT WANT TO MARRY HIM ITS JUST THAT IM NOTREADY FOR MARRIAGE I LOVE HIM BUT MARRIAGE IS SPECIAL AND I WANT IT TO BE A SPECIAL DAY. I JUST FINISHED HIGH SCHOOL AND IM STILL GOING TO GO ON TO COLLEGE. WHAT SHE NEEDS TO DO IS CONTINUE GOING TO SCHOOL THE MOM NEEDS TO MAKE SURE THAT THE BOYFRIEND WILL BE ABLE TO TAKE CARE OF HER AND IF HE CANT AT THE TIME THEY BOTH NEED THE MOST HELP THEY CAN HAVE BECAUSE WHAT THEY NEED TO DO IS SAVE MONEY.
2007-06-19 17:42:49 · answer #10 · answered by cutie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋