Why do women pull stuff like this?

Question

This is something that happened recently in our house and is a good example of what happens probably once a week....

We recently changed our TV service from cable to satellite. I made the arrangements and set everything up. I got a copy of the list of channels DISH Network offers and e-mailed it to my wife, per her request. I asked her to review and make sure everything meets her standards.

Two weeks go by, I don't hear a word from her on the service, so we get it installed. Sure enough, the next day she starts complaining because we don't get ONE channel that we were getting on cable, and she doesn't like the new service and wishes we didn't change.

I gave her everything to review two weeks before installation. She clearly said "f" it, didn't read it (which I asked her to do), gave her a chance to reject it, and now she gripes.

Why do women do this?

Hey -- I've read posts up here from women generally categorizing men as lazy and that they don't do anything around the house, etc. Obviously it's out of frusteration. I'm in the same boat and am venting!

Answer 1

dont argue with women, just do whatever they want, coz women dont need to making sense

Answer 2

I don't think this is strictly a woman thing; it's annoying, whiney behavior. Both men and women are capable of complaining about things they had ultimate control over. People can be quite stupid sometimes; it's a fact of life.

Remind your wife that she had the opportunity to review the material, and that if she's that distraught over the ONE missing channel, that she can arrange to convert back to cable... but that you'd like to read all the info before she makes the switch; you want to make sure (ESPN2, or some random "guys" channel) is included. That should get the point across.

Too funny!

Answer 3

As much as I'd like to stereo type all wifes as being that way, (Mine was too.), it's probably not as the 1st answer put it, gender specific.

Anyway it's best to "byte the bullet" and deal with it. See if there's a package that includes the channel that you wife is missing. Try to spend some orientation time with her. Set up a favorite channel list for her. Basically try to soften the change for her. Then take out for dinner with the money you're saving with Dish service.

Answer 4

First of all, do you and your wife not reside together? Why in the world would you email something to her and not just sit down and show her the list, then ask her opinion...the same way my husband did me 2 weeks ago when we switched from Directv to DishNetwork? That way seems so much more NORMAL than emailing a channel list to the person you're married to and then bitching b/c she didn't read it. She would have read it and you could have talked it over with each other if you had done this in person. Get a grip, dude.

Answer 5

Because you didn't sit down with her to read it.

Instead, you should have said, "Darling, I need you to sit with me and go over this channel list to make sure you'll be happy with this new service. Let's make some time say, tomorrow or Thursday to go over the list before we say "yes" or "no."

Even if she says 'No, I don't care." you say, "Darling, this is your TV too - and I want you to be happy with it. So it's important to me that we go over this together."

But NOOOOOO. You just emailed her and said "here it is - Read it, please." You then expected her to study it and put it on a higher priority to than all the rest of the things she was trying to accomplish and get back to you as though she was nothing more than a servant.

Even the condescending tone of your message - "per her request. and make sure everything meets her standards..." is pretty holier-than-thou.

So apologize to your wife... and together reach some kind of solution to this.

Answer 6

That is what women do it generally comes from some other thing she is not satified with. Back home we call these women tw*ts pardon the term but it generally applies. Let me ask you this? Why do nice men who set things up for cruel women marry these ingrates to begin with leave good natured nice women like me to rummage through the muck that is the single pool? It's a catch 22 baby we all feel the heat not just you.

Answer 7

Sounds like a power struggle has emerged. I have witnessed this many times. Did you suspect she would not have read the email? Did you see this coming? Would it have been better to sit down with her to discuss the issue before the decision was made?

Sometimes wives are better Monday morning quarterbacks than the men huddled around the water cooler.

Answer 8

Well from the way you phrased your problem your treating your relationship like a business. A relationship is any thing but hell a woman is for that matter. sometimes you have to try something before you know if you like it or not. If mama isn't happy isn't nobody happy. Get over it men will never figure woman out.

Answer 9

"You can please some of the people some of the time, but you can't please all of the people all of the time."

That's an old saying which is very appropriate, even in a marriage. Some people just are not happy unless they have something to gripe about. You gave her the opportunity to review the information, now she has to live with it. Don't get ticked off at her, just accept that she has this flaw, and hope that she accepts your flaws as well. It certainly isn't worth fighting about is it? As frustrated as our spouses make us at times...we didn't marry them because of their TV viewing habits....right??? (Hopefully you get the point...don't sweat the small stuff)

Answer 10

Sounds like she likes to make you miserable...lol
Can you add her channel that she wants? Your not in the wrong, she is but some women (not all..lol) are never satisfied or happy with anything and complain just to complain. Call your Dish company and adjust the package you have to satisfy her. Good Luck

Answer 11

Did you do all of this on your own? Does she normally make the decisions in the house or do you share that? Maybe she feels upset because you didn't give her more say so in the decision making process. You know sometimes women don't like things that we weren't a part of making happen. She may be feeling un-needed.