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this place is for questions---reguardless if it's about pregnancy or abortion---why do people get so bent out of shape about the "A" word?? I'm a mother of 3 and I have my 4th on the way, Never had an abortion--it's simply not for me--but i'm sure not going to judge anyone that has had or is going to get one. I understand it's a living being with a heart beat---but everyone has there reasons---what's the deal??? just wondering??

IT'S A PREGNANCY AND PARENTING FORUM!! for someone who's pregnant and is asking about abortion it shouldn't matter---they're still pregnant and have every right to ask a question that they are honestly concerned about!

AND another THING I'm 23 and going on # 4!! I have my own home my own truck--and i've been on my own since my first---keep judging and bringing down teen moms--because they thrive and feed off of it and it makes them grow into strong productive women and mothers and wives--i've been with my husband for 6 years and still going strong....

Answer 1

For the record, I am neither pro-choice, or pro-life. I fall into this grey area... I am 100% against late term abortion. In fact, I am 100% against any abortion taking place beyond the 12th week. I will not get into the whole "beginning of life" debate because it is upto an individual's own beliefs as to when life "begins" in a pregnancy. For me, abortion has never been - and never will be - an option. But I believe that for some individuals, an abortion is warranted. Sometimes it is best if the child isn't brought into the world, especially if the mother has a substance abuse problem, homeless, cannot support the child or herself, etc. But even in these cases, something can be done to avoid the abortion.

Having said that - we live in a society where political correctness has gotten out of control. A classic "I say tomato, you say {tomatoe}" scenario. Too many people have become hyper sensitive to the actions and words of others. In my opinion it is some of these people that should be paying more attention to their own lives, instead of minding the lives of others. I honestly respect the pro-life point of view. Abortion is horrible. The thought of my child going through that breaks my heart...however, if I decided to have an abortion, I have my own reasons. And these reasons are my OWN...and not subject to debate. My reasons do not have to be explained to anyone. I must live with my decision. I know why I made the decisions I made. I do not see how a pro-life supporter can tell me what is in the best interest of my child, my body, my life. These pro-lifers do not understand that if I had a minimum wage job and was barely getting by, and I got pregnant because the condom broke, only I know what I would be bringing a child into. By having that child, I could be adding to the ever growing welfare problem. They say we should have the baby and put it up for adoption. Again, economic hardship comes in the form of prenatal care, missed work, and then there are those individuals with health issues...

On the other end of the continum, we have pro-choice, telling us we should have the abortion if we wish. They tell us that life doesn't begin until such-and-such time. They preach to us that no one can tell us what to do with our bodies...yada yada yada. Meanwhile, some of these individuals are using abortion as birth control. I say some.... not all. I am not here to judge. I just know a few folks who have done this....and I am completely against it.

Taking the life of a child is a very emotional debate. One side believes we are torturing these fetuses when we abort them. Some of pro-life's supporters are ladies who suffer the memory of their aborted babies. Perhaps they do not want others to endure the painful memories they do...the regret...the remorse. Then there are the pro-choice folks who scream "You will not tell me what to do" in rebellion, defiance, or perhaps, they are truly angry that someone has an opinion against theirs. I do not know. Abortion will never be an option for me, but I still must step back and allow others to make their own decisions. I will say, peacefully, that I do not agree with abortion and I feel there are other options both before, and after a woman becomes pregnant. We should be responsible adults so that these children are not born to women who are not prepared to care for them. I do not see an easy way to resolve this debate, for there will always be folks who abuse the system. For now, I must stand firm on my belief that late term abortion is unacceptable. A woman should be responsible enough to realize she is pregnant within the first 12 weeks. There are some extenuating circumstances to this, but for the majority, a woman typically knows she is pregnant by week 8.

I am your classic ride the fence person on this issue. I see both sides, and both have valid arguments, but unless they can agree on a single point, this debate will continue to be heated.

My CHOICE was LIFE. I am for both.

Answer 2

I think this is just a hot button issue that people feel strongly one way or the other on. Before getting pregnant I was far more pro-choice than I am now. I'm still pro-choice ( I would rather a child never be abused because they are not loved and wanted than tell a woman she has to have a child). I know that I for one could never have one and live with myself. A lot of people throw around the word adoption but yet the truth is most people wont adopt and especially wont adopt a special needs child. It is not my business to judge someone. I'm sure they have their own demons they face when having an abortion and don't need me to treat them bad.

Answer 3

i agree people need to understand that this is how some people want deal with the pregnancy as they feel they could not give it every thing the baby needs and they are another baby suffering already and to many kids have baby ,i have 3 kids and I'm 9weeks pregnant my last baby was born a 25 weeks what a night mare and i mean it ,i was using the pill and it has not worked I'm think of having one cause i cant go though all that again which i will and my daugther still needs so much care so my point is every one has different reason and we all need to stop judging as thing can happen anytime and maybe its not right time for you which is what happens alot and i thought i would never do it but when it really happens to you your mind is changed about the whole [a] word,about time some stood up and said what they thought you go girl

Answer 4

Your very right all of you up there!! People have nothing better to do but drag someone down! WHY??? If someone askes a question it's because they don't know!! I have found that a lot of older womenare very judgmental especially about young people having babys. I have a daughter trying for #2 and I am 22. I am proud, like you said abortion isn't for me but everyones situation is differnt who are we to judge. I think that on here if oyu dont have something nice to say then peopl should keep there moth shut I have asked seriuos ?'s and people have been so mean I think they should all look at thier own lives and the judge. thank you for bring that up though. Its not there choice heres and example.

a 14 yr old girl is raped by her father and is now pregnate, if she has that baby it is going to be incest and not be alright, maybe physically but defenitly mentally.

What do these smart *** people think now common sence you know I just say screw um I dont care abouyt there opinion if they really dont have one its harmful they hurt people feeling poepl try the best they can and what they were taught.

Good Very Good Point

Answer 5

The question is whether it's a fetus or a baby. Some of the late-term abortions actually are children who could have lived if the mother had chosen to just deliver them early.

I would never have an abortion, but like you, I think it's a woman's own choice what to do with her body. But if the fetus is viable and could live away from its mother, it kills me to think it's being killed when it could have lived and been adopted.

Answer 6

I don't think people get bent out of shape so much about the topic of abortion when it is broached as part of a true question personally involving the asker. This is not the forum to discuss your personal moral beliefs. Its seems like everytime I see a "question" that involves abortion it also seems to include some kind judgement on the rightness or wrongness of it.

Answer 7

I think that people get a strange sense of anonymity being on the web, and therefore feel more capable of revealing there true feelings. Most people have a strong opinion about abortion, and don't know when to keep their mouths shut or respect other people's privacy.

Answer 8

Imagine this- you've just gotten home from your ultrasound appointment and found out you were having a baby girl. You've gotten photos of her, complete with face, arms, and legs. You go on your computer to ask a question about how your little one is growing, and you stumble across "I want 2 get an aborshun wat do u think?"
How would you feel?
THAT's why.

Added- I don't judge teen moms. I think they're actually some of the strongest people I know! I'm just saying that when you put expectant mothers together with women who are aborting, there's a real emotional component there, and I totally understand why abortion questions bother people.

Answer 9

Have you ever read the newspaper? People KILL eachother over the issue of abortion. To say that it's a hot button topic is an understatement.

Answer 10

Abortion is just one of those things that easily gets people worked up because there is not real in between line. Either you are really really for it or really really against it. It tends to spark a nerve.