This is unusual. There's not much violence in my town, but Saturday night, my friend saw a man hit someone in the head with a baseball bat. He jumped in a car with some other guys to follow that man in order to get his license plate number. They got the number and then the man pulled his car over on the side of the road. The car with my friend in it pulled in behind the man. I don't know what they were thinking. Maybe they wanted to be heroes and confront him. As they were arguing, the man stabbed my friend in the neck and chest. He died on the way to the hospital. The guys with him gave the police the license plate number and they got the man in custody. I'm going to the funeral home tonight and I don't really know what to say to his family. It would be easier if his death had not been so sudden and horrific. Should I just remain quiet, or should I say something?
2007-06-19 09:36:17 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i would give them ur gratest gratitude and blessings and do anything u can to make them feel betta
2007-06-19 09:40:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
My recommendation is to just be there. There is nothing you can say at this point to make anyone feel any better about it. Be sure to keep from saying anything controversial or negative, but if you have something nice and supportive to say, go for it. Hug his parents, his siblings, and be there for whoever needs a shoulder to cry on. Your presence will say more than words can. I'm so sorry for your loss, and I hope that his family eventually heals.
2007-06-19 16:48:42 · answer #2 · answered by autochik1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for your loss. But, he died being a hero, and this in itself, says alot about him. He died trying to do the right thing, and no one needs to try to question this, he was a man with strong convinctions. You might say, that he was a very good friend, and you will miss him. It's never an easy thing to express ourselves, but just to let them know, you were one more person, he made a difference to, means alot to them now.
2007-06-19 16:46:08 · answer #3 · answered by Emerald 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetheart. This is awful. Go to the funeral home and when you see the family, let them know he was your friend and that you have wonderful memories of him. Tell them of something kind that he did for her, or a particular time when he made you laugh. Anything funny about him is going to be a much needed light-hearted moment that the family will probably desperately need.
2007-06-19 16:42:01 · answer #4 · answered by Marianimal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should just tell them that your sorry for there loss and that he was a good guy. there really isn't mush to say about stuff like this because there is nothing you can do or say to bring the person back but as long as you say something they can know that you care instead of saying nothing at all. and also tell them if they ever need anything at all that they can feel free to call you and let you know. well good luck and i am sorry for your loss.
2007-06-19 16:53:54 · answer #5 · answered by Adina B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard time for everyone. Of course you should say something. For all you know, they don't know how to handle this, and they're thinking i should keep all of this in. If no one is saying anything (and if that's why you're not) then you should be the first to step up and say something. Walk up to them and say "I'm sorry for your loss." as lame as that is, if you're truely sorry, then they'll get that say "I'm so sorry for your loss. I really don't know what to say. This is just so . . . I'm sorry." and that's all you really can say (unless you think of something else). I'm sorry you lost someone that obviously meant something to you.
2007-06-19 16:49:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them you are sorry for their loss and offer to help them in any way you can. There is not much more you can say than that. Just show them love and support. That will mean the most.
2007-06-19 16:40:06 · answer #7 · answered by atlantaboi3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for the horrible loss of your friend!
You don't have to say anything to his family -- Just be there to show you care, make sure you go up to them, Hug or shake hands, . there's not much you can say, but anything you can say good about your friend will feel good for them to hear, even tho i'm sure nothing can really make them feel better.
:(
I will keep you and his family in my prayers
2007-06-19 16:51:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry for your loss.
You can do either. Just being there will make his family feel the comfort of knowing how much their son was loved.
If you want to say something, you can simply say "I'm sorry for your loss. (Your friend's name) was loved by so many. We'll miss him." Or a simple "I'm sorry for your loss" will do, too.
Good luck during this difficult time.
2007-06-19 16:40:17 · answer #9 · answered by Courtney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be afraid about what to say. If you know them well, just speak from your heart. Your presence there shows that you care enough to not let your own discomfort stand in the way of supporting them.
2007-06-19 16:42:29 · answer #10 · answered by lunatic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let his family know that you cared about him. They will feel comforted if you let them know how much their son meant to you, all of you are suffering a loss, it's ok to express it to each other. I'm sorry about your loss. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
2007-06-19 16:48:03 · answer #11 · answered by snappygirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋