Husbands, porn, and the wives that think it's wrong?

Question

At least once or twice a day I read questions from angry wives complaining about their husbands looking at porn on the computer. Ironically, these are the SAME wives that think that sex once every 6 weeks for 10 minutes while their hair is in a ponytail, no make up, flannel pajamas, and with horrible morning breath should be enough to keep their husbands happy and satisfied! If that's the case then what do YOU care if your husband whacks it off to internet porn? Clearly YOU'RE not up for it, so what do YOU care if he takes matters into his own hands?

All very interesting answers. Sounds like many of you agree. I am not blaming everything on the woman, but I think I speak for a lot of husbands that it shouldn't take candy, flowers, expensive dinners, and vacations to get some love from their wives. We husbands work all day to support our families, stay loyal, deal with our wives and all their nonsense, and STILL figure out a way to wake up each morning and do it all over again. I think you wives would be absolutely AMAZED by your husband's change in behavior if you gave him a BJ 3-4 times a week before he went to work! Unless you're also one of the types that thinks you have no influence and that it's up to HIM to work, pay the bills, help take care of the kids, help with the housework AND romance you too?

Answer 1

I suspect it has something to do with the material value a woman has for her sex. I always read "Romance her more" or "date night" or "weekend away together" as the answer to get a wife in the mood for sex. These answers appear to me as material bribes for sex. I guess the idea is that if a many wants sex bad enough he will do anything or buy anything to get it. The problem with porn would be then be that it would lessen the man's likelihood to give in to a woman's demands for "romance", "flowers", "date night" ...etc. In short porn lessens the control wives try to have on their husbands.

Sex and love should be freely given and therefore bribes like "date night", "flowers", "jewelry" ... etc are wrong.

Answer 2

That is a great question. I do not want porn in my hubby's life unless he's watching it with me. In 8 years of being together I've never told my man no. There are no other people allowed in our bedroom, but other that that we are very inventive. He has always been patient after the births of our children, and after my surgery, so I see no reason to say no. I think that all woman, married or not should have to get the book, The Proper care And Feeding Of Husbands, and read chapter 6 on sex first. It will enlighten woman on the issue about thier man, or soon to be man. Your husband should see you take care of yourself. Woman need to quit thinking that since they got their man, they do not have to do anything to keep him. Everyone gains weight after the years too, but you can make sure that you're not gaining too much and keep yourself healthy. Hope that was a little helpful.

Answer 3

Well I am a wife of a hubby that I dont really care if he looks at porn, as long as it doesnt leave the tv, internet, etc. I do happen to think sometimes it can be a tool for new ideas, but however, looking like moms and everyday wives shouldnt be the excuse for husbands to look obsessivly at porn and ingnore their wives. We dont turn men down because they come to bed in underpants that might not be attractive, or for not wearing a tux and looking all spiff, no, we screw them even if they are sweaty from a hard days work, but You think we cant be moms and basic wives?? Sex is not about apperance it is about being with the one you love.Plus, being up to "porn" statis isnt something I think most GOOD girls want to be. Plus there is a thing called RESPECT in a marriage, and the lack of that is what we complain about when men cant leave porn out of the bedroom and turn us on!

Answer 4

Newsflash for you Drew--

Some women work all day just like her man, pick up the kids (or haul them to activities, appts etc) come home, make dinner, do the laundry, clean the house and feed the pets. Then the hubby comes home, pats the kids on the head--eats dinner and parks his behind in the recliner in front the game du jour while his wife cleans up the kitchen, bathes the kids and PRAYS tonight she will have a chance to shave her legs.

Ignore your wife and wonder why YOU'RE not getting 'serviced'? Go ahead and surf to your hearts content. Your wife needs the rest--but Kudos to you respecting your wife and marriage enough to keep it at home! And IF by chance you show her a little bit of attention (other than, "can you get me a beer before the next inning") and actually give her a 'night off' you may find she has a bit more time for you.

Answer 5

I hate to break it to you, but there are wives that do not have a problem with giving it to thier husbands more then once a week and make things special for them because they are the bread winners of the family. Try thinking of that one.

Answer 6

Insecure,lacking confidences and immature ladies who become comfortable,out shape, nagging wife's are the worst.Any reason on why they don't have time for them self,Kids,work,laundry,and to busy,and involved in marriage life;however,if they separated and became single both husband and wife will clean up real fast!!! first low weight,new look, and buy lingerie,shave the bread and mustache,she'll wear make-up,and perfume...just to attract a new lover,just always look good for each other if not for him,then for yourself.

Answer 7

I'd rather him watch porn than cheat on me, besides they all need a little play time!! Men are like dogs they think and need it twenty four seven and women only want it when their in the mood. So come on give them a break and let them be satisfied!

Answer 8

Why not let him whack it off to a picture of his wife dressed up, with make up on. That would be better than finding him jerking off to another woman. Seriously, if he can't find his wife attractive enough then he's not a fit husband.

Answer 9

I have never caught my hubby looking at porn. It is something we do together. Maybe it is because these type of women don't want to be held accountable. What they are not admitting is that when he is gone to work, they take matters into their own hands too. Don't LIE! They should be so lucky it's that and him not screwing someone else.

Answer 10

Sadly I see these posts as well, the only thing I suggest to them is either to spice things up in their own bedroom to get his attention or talk to him about it. Either way couples need communication, he needs to let her know what he needs out of the relationship and if she can't change, then it's her fault and she has to deal with him "whacking it" to online porn.