Last night my boyfriend and I agreed to go his Papa's house for an hour cuz I was sick but I really wanted to come. Well we ended up staying outside for 3 hours while he talked to his friend who he talks to on a daily basis. He happens to work right next to his grandfathers house. Well it got really cold cuz it was getting late. After standing in the cold for 2 hours, his friend left for a second he said we'll go in a minute cuz i was getting cold, not feeling good, and really tired from being sick. so i waited another hour with him so I ended up going inside the house and talked with his Papa. But deep down I was really mad because we agreed to an hour and and he stayed till 10:30pm knowing i was sick and i have to get up early for work the next day. It somewhat felt like he didn't care. I didnt say anything cuz I hate arguing and sounding like a b*tch. Was i wrong for being upset? should I of said something? What would you of done in that situation?
2007-06-19 08:20:04 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He should have seen you were ready to go and not feeling well and left within the first hour or not gone at all. To complain about his behavior now will only cause more problems. It's always better to talk about things when they are happening. It's not your fault but you could probably have got him to leave if you would have reminded him again that you were feeling bad and would like to go home. Try communicating more with each other. That way you have done all you can and it leaves the ball in his court to take care of you properly. Good luck in your relationship together.
2007-06-19 08:35:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should have said something..
You were sick and he should have considered that and tried to offer to take care of you and not leave you in the cold for so long without even appologizing.
I dont know what his relationship is with his grandfather and maybe its important to him but if he could sit there and chat with a friend and leave both his grandfather AND you hanging then he had no excuse for what he did.
He needs to get his priorities in check and if he gets mad for you being upset then he isnt worth your time.
You have every right to be as pissed as you want to be.
2007-06-19 08:33:25 · answer #2 · answered by Blessed_Sinner 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's understandable why you would be upset. I would have said something to him about it, in a nice way though. If this happens again you could always say, "I'm so sorry, I'm not trying to be rude but I really don't feel good enough right now to be out for this long of a period of time. If you want to take me home and come back that would be fine, I'm just feeling really sick right now." It's not always what you say, but how you say it and if you say it in a nice way, I'm sure he would be understanding.
2007-06-19 08:27:01 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ Rachel The Great ♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you were totally right to be upset. For serveral reasons. You were sick, tired, had to get up early for work, and he kept telling you that you all would leave in a minute and he never did. he didn't care about your feelings, so you have every right to be upset. I would have given him the silent treatment in the car and expected an apology from him.
2007-06-19 08:25:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
After forty-five minutes I would have said, out loud, "Honey can we get going soon? I really don't feel very well." That way he has 15 minutes to wrap up the conversation and his buddy would know why he needed to jet. You should have spoken up!!! He probably did lose track of time but he was also a jerk about it. Speak up for yourself next time, don't let him run the show!!!
2007-06-19 08:42:00 · answer #5 · answered by Kristy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't have went or I would've asked him if he was ready to go b/c I'm tired and have to go to work in the morning. Nope, you are not wrong for getting mad but he also need to understand that when you are not feeling well, he need to respect that by not staying out so late knowing you have to go to work too. If it means I have to sound like a b****, oh well. I would just have to sound like one.
2007-06-19 08:25:32 · answer #6 · answered by jetta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I do think that your boyfriend should of been a little more considerate.... but you could of always said something to him during his conversation with his friend.
Like.. "Hun, I'm cold and not feeling well, can we go inside now?, please"..... something like that.
And also, if you weren't feeling that good to begin with then perhaps you should of stayed home and rested instead.
But, if you are upset about it then I would mention it to him nicely.... but don't start a fight over it though.
2007-06-19 08:56:37 · answer #7 · answered by M.O. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would I have done? Sure as heck wouldn't have stayed outside in the cold for three hours, that's for sure!!
Why didn't you just go and sit with his Papa in the first place?
In my opinion, you made yourself upset.
2007-06-19 08:24:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well gorgeous you have every right to be upset. He was only thinking of himself, without any consideration for you at all !
Instead of hanging out with his bud he should have told his friend that you weren't feeling well and he really needed to take you home and take care of you.
You have every right to be upset, and shouldn't feel guilty at all.
Hope you are feeling better.
2007-06-19 08:29:53 · answer #9 · answered by Cabrõn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What would I do? I'd get me a new boyfriend. The one you have only cares about himself and no one else. Pretty bad when his friend is more important than his girlfriend who is sick. Leave now. It will only get worse.
2007-06-19 08:28:17 · answer #10 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋