I'm 26, have a 5 y.o. and a 7 y.o. I'm divorced and doing alright for myself. I support myself and my kids. I don't depend on my parents or social assistance. I've wanted to have another baby ever since my last baby was born. I've been seeing this new guy for a few months, completely in love, have been talking about moving in together soon. All I can think about is having a baby! He wants a baby also, several actually; but he says now isn't the best time. personally I don't think there is a 'best time' My kids were both unplanned surprises, and I've never had any regrets. I'm so tempted to start flushing my birth control pills. I know that it would be 'wrong'... but people have surprise pregnancies while on the pill all the time. And this guy really does want a baby.
Anyone want to share some food for thought?
2007-06-19 08:06:48 · 17 answers · asked by kayla 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I want another one too, and my husband is giving me the same excuse, "Now's not a good time. Let's wait 6 months and reevaluate the situation." Well excuse me, but how are things going to be markedly improved six short months from now when they're not even bad to begin with??? It really irritates me becuase I know six months from now, it's going to be the same thing, "Well, we're doing better, but let's give it another six months." By the time he's finally ready to have another baby, I'll be friggin' 40 years old!!
I'd say if you really, truly love this guy, why not flush your pills? The worst that could happen is that he stops dating you. Then again, if something as silly as a pregnancy scares him off, maybe he's not worth dating anyway.
2007-06-19 08:23:53 · answer #1 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 2⤊ 5⤋
That isn't the best way to start a potentially great relationship based on a lie! If he ever found out he would have major trust issue and probably a difficult time forgiving and trusting you again. I woul be patient, you may not have regrets about your surprise babies, but he might, and you never know you may find that you have and even better time planning the next one with a totally supportive spouse because you supported him when he was honest with you about wanting to wait. If the roles were reversed how would you feel. Having an unplanned pregnancy could really stress out your spouse and make your relationship worse not better! You really need to respect his wishes and try to compromise...Like ask
"what is the soonest you would want kids...because I really want kids now but I want to respect you too, so if we could come to an agreement on a time in the future, so that I could have something to look forward to while not pushing you to do something you are not ready to..."
Honestly wait until you are BOTH ready!!!!!
2007-06-19 08:38:23 · answer #2 · answered by Boppysgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I got pregnant with my first son right after stopping the pill. I never went back on because I was trying to get pregnant again and it took over a year the second time. I have a six month old now and I went on the pill after I had him. I stopped the pill due to headaches and got pregnant that month, so I am expecting number three now! My doctor told me that a lot of women are very fertile right after the pill, which is not what I expected. But you also need to be having sex between 9 and 15 days after the first day of your period. Thats the most fertile time. It worked for me.
2016-05-19 22:31:53 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are no such things as "unplanned surprises" If you CHOSE to have sex then you CHOSE ALL of the consequences that come from having sex and one of those consequences is pregnancy. Your boyfriend does not feel he is ready for fatherhood, HEED his warnings. He has the RIGHT to decide when he becomes a father and you have NO RIGHT to make that decision for him by trickery. You say you love this guy, IF you did then you wouldn't even think of tricking him. Obviously you have no clue what love is.
2007-06-19 08:44:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How would you feel if someone you trusted went behind your back and lied to you about it? Wait for him to make a joint decision and because if he found out down the road it could cause major problems. Get to know this a guy a bit better also.
2007-06-19 08:42:57 · answer #5 · answered by Jamie S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Selfish, selfish, selfish. What a great gift to your unborn child. And how about your other two kids? I think you need to grow up and realize you need to focus on raising the children you have and not focusing on your love life and keeping yourself happy.
Stop "dating" this person and any other "men" until your kids are grown. I know, it cramps your style and of course you "deserve" to be happy, BUT you made your choices, don't make your kids pay anymore for your refusal to grow up.
BTW, is this the guy you think you got genital warts from? Are you still searching the singles scene for some one else better to dupe?
2007-06-19 08:36:14 · answer #6 · answered by What? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this troubles me on many levels...
where's the trust? how could you trick your boyfriend like this? you should have an open relationship where you can discuss important decisions.
you are only 26. give your relationship some time, get married and then think about a baby.
don't just think about what you want. you may send him packing.
2007-06-19 08:39:05 · answer #7 · answered by sep 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would be very wrong of you, and so dishonest. He should not be forced into having a baby. How would you feel if you weren't ready and you found out that while you were sleeping he was making deposits to get you pregnant. Think about it.
2007-06-19 08:26:04 · answer #8 · answered by Melissa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew a girl who secretly stopped taking her BC to get pregnant and her boyfriend put her in a coma. Wait until you find someone who wants a baby with you!
2007-06-19 08:11:20 · answer #9 · answered by Queen 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that's lower than low. And just think...you can live with that on your conscience for the rest of your life. Gee wiz - all this after just a few months of dating.
2007-06-19 09:16:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋