With the recent fad in society feeling more attracted to the older (sometimes MUCH OLDER) opposite sex, do you think AGE matters in a LONG-TERM relationship? I once new a kid (19) who dated, had a baby, & married someone old enough to be their parent... In time, I see the problems that COULD occur.
So what is your opinion? And what are some problems that YOU can see happening when dating someone that is MUCH MUCH older than you (lets say 15+ yrs older)???
2007-06-19 06:07:28 · 6 answers · asked by *Fickle Pickle* 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I think that although most people say that age shouldn't matter when it comes to who you love, I have noticed a few problems. (my best friend just got out of a relationship with a man 16 years older than her, and then got into a different relationship with a man 15 years older than her). and my sister (age 24) is dating a man who is 14 years older than her, and as a son who is 13 (we have a brother who is 17 right now). Some of the problems that I have seen, especially in my friends 1st older boyfriend was that he said that the age didn't make any difference, but then he would call her immature (she's now 21, at the time she was 20) and would in many ways put her down for her age, and treat her like a child. Then there was always the problem that he would want to go out to the bar, and bring her with, but he couldn't because she was under 21.
With the new relationship, so far things have been going a lot better, but I think that is because the guy she is with now is more established in his own life. the only thing, is that even though she should be trying to learn how to support herself in this stage of her life, he is paying for a lot of her more trivial expenses (eating out, cigarretes, lotto tickets) things that she wouldn't be able to afford if she were living on her own (she's still living with her parents) if this turns out to be a long term relationship, that might be OK, but he is from Canada, and is only in MN (where we are) for the summer. Then he's off to the UK, then other random places in the US, and probably won't end up coming back to MN.
With my sister's current relationship, I think that everything has worked out really well. It has been long term (over a year now, maybe a year and a half) and has even survived it being mostly long distance (she's in Japan in the navy, and he's in VA) but she is finishing her tour, and will be stationed in VA very soon. From what I have seen, he doesn't imply anything about her age (even though she is closer to his sons age than she is to his). and they are both self suffiencient on their own. Our family has mentioned a bit of discomfort (especially our father) about the age thing, but are mostly ok with that issue.
My step brothers mom and step dad are about 20 years different in age, and that has (as far as I can tell) gone pretty smoothly. but now that he is 70 and she is 50, he is nearing the end of his life (male life expectancy is only late 70's early 80's I believe) and she still has another 30 years. So if he dies, she is probably going to end up alone for the last 20 years of her life (which isn't too bad all the time) unless she remarries again. or what if she has to be his full time caregiver because he ends up with dementia, or others common end of life problems? they aren't really "growing old together" anymore.
2007-06-19 06:22:35 · answer #1 · answered by im_csquared 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that it's okay to have sex at your age, to love someone, and don't care about all the random people's opinions that are seeing your question right now then you wouldn't even ask the question you are asking right now. If you felt that you are so right about your opinion about sex, etc. even though your freaking 15 and people older then you don't know crap in your eyes then you wouldn't being second guessing yourself. I'm not saying your a bad person or anything and neither should anyone else, it's your life. The whole pregnant, safety, and all that other stuff isn't exactly the point it's about self respect for you and her. Oh yeah and just because you get good grades, have a job, and great social lives doesn't make you a good kid or bad kid. That's kind of mean when you think about it. So if people don't have a job, good grades, or social life means they are bad people? Your wrong about that. Well obviously you already know what you want to do .... let your parents know... your not really asking more like lecturing. good luck. Your parents did a great job with you. (sarcasm)
2016-05-19 21:39:43 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not for everyone, I'll tell you that much. The problems mainly lie in beliefs and maturity, as those two things are due to change over time. 25 is young compared to 40 for example, and the 25 yr old will be less mature and won't have the same level of practical judgment as the 40 yr old spouse.
15 years older than me would be someone that's already into their career, whereas now I'm just about to start college. Its just very awkward to put msyelf in that place.
Heh, all I can say is they'd have to be damn hot in addition to everything else if I was looking to go for something like that.
2007-06-19 06:14:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some of the problems occur later in life. For example, if you're 55 and you're partner is 70, you may end up being a full-time nursemaid.
2007-06-19 06:11:17 · answer #4 · answered by la buena bruja 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Old + money = sexy
It is OK just that one runs out of breath faster..
2007-06-19 06:12:25 · answer #5 · answered by metoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeesh, GROW UP!!!!!!!!
Friggin teeny-boppers.....
2007-06-19 06:11:50 · answer #6 · answered by bobemac 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋