i'm i a friend to her or a lover? or what i'm confused...it's a long one?

Question

I work with a girl that I like a lot she just broke up with her fiancé not to long ago and he is still trying to work things out with her. She tells me that she dose not what to get back to together with him. So anyways she likes me but she’s not sure if she wants to go out with anyone. We have slept together a few times now and I love being with her and she loves being with me. We are always hanging together. My mother just passed away not to long ago and she has supported me so much. I could sleep after my mother passed for some time and she came over to be with me in my time of need and helped me sleep just by being there. I’m at odds with what to do with our relationship should I just give her space? What is our relation ship? I have asked her this and her response confused me more she said she is taking one day at a time..and that throw me off balance witch is unnatural for me. Dose anyone have any advice or maybe another view point that they could share with me to clear things up

Answer 1

I really feel that she needs some time.
You really have to get over one relationship before you get into another, otherwise it won't work out. Not saying that she isn't over him, but she just needs to put closure on it.
Plus she's probably afraid to get into another relationship, doesn't want to get hurt again.
You will gain more if you just give her time.
Yes, you probably want more but just remember...."Good things come to those who wait". Anything worthwhile doesn't come easy.
Give her time and she will love you for it.

Answer 2

Put your friendship first. Understand that the first relationship that comes after the end of a long term relationship is OFTEN not The One, so she is likely not ready for anything serious with you beyond friendship. However, I don't want to discourage you, because the best long term relationships grow out of friendship! So be the very best friend that you can be and let her work through her situation.

Answer 3

Isnt it great when you can be a persons best friend and lover? Sounds like you have both been thru a lot. B her friend first. Some of the best relationships have formed out of friendship. Good luck!!!