Why are white men sooo possessive of white women?

Question

I had a problem at work with a black guy who after several weeks of casual conversation he asked me for my phone number. I was discussing it with a friend when a fellow co-worker heard me, and later confronted the guy. He told him I was a good girl--a virgin and he should not be trying to screw me. I was upset he had no right to do this. In addition, the guy resigned, he said that a friend, who is a long-term employee, told him he should b/c he would eventually be fired, since previously things haven't work out well for those black men at the job who "mess with their women." This really pissed me off, I don't feel like I am anyones PROPERTY! Especially not all the loser white guys at my job. Who are they to confront my friend and harass him, or make comments to him about my sexuality.

For those who accuse me of being a racist or turning it into a race issue, I am merely reporting the facts of what happened, nothing more.
I did not create this problem nor encouraged it. I am simply trying to figure out what gives the white men at "my job" the right to outracize black men who approach the white women "at my job" that is it. It is not a generalization about the "whole damn world" Just a situation at my job. So I reask the question "Why are white men 'at my job' sooo possessive of white women?" Now do you get it! Just answer the question or don't bother at all with the personal racism attacks.!

Answer 1

It is just due to remaining racial prejudiced. 100 years ago a black man would be lynched (hung) for just looking at a white woman. It has died out a good deal but still lingers. Will eventually disappear altogether. It isn't so much a matter of you being a possession as it is the prejudiced within the white guys.

Answer 2

First I don't think it is fair to assume all white men have the same attitude about white women, some white men could care less and even prefer to date outside their race also.

However, for the ones that are bothered by interracial relationships with white women, they choose to be hung up their shallow beliefs about racial stereotypes, that were probably passed along from their parents and/or environment. It is sad to say, but their insecurity, hatred and jealousy for the black man keeps them small-minded and limited.

Unfortunately there is not much you can do to change their way of thinking. This has been going on for centuries and wont stop now.

If you attempt to try to educate them on how you feel about their ignorance it may be a wasted effort and it may make them more resentful of you and your friend. Which can cause more problems.

Just do what you feel comfortable with and pay no attention to what they think.

Answer 3

Did you see the "confrontation"? Maybe, just maybe, the co-worker knew the black guy better than you do, and just wanted to suggest that maybe you weren't just an easy-to-get sexual partner. Yeah, maybe it was none of his business whether or not you might want to go to bed with the black dude, but then again, the confrontation (if it was really anything more than a quick hallway exchange) wasn't really any of YOUR business.

An I can virtually guarantee that his resignation was predicated on much more than him being caught "messin' with the white women."

Most certainly you are not the property of anyone, but don't for one minute think that guys at work banded together on anything, let alone on driving off an employee.

Answer 4

You're absolutely right to be angry but be careful you don't stereotype ALL white men. My husband is white and he's not like that at all!! I think the guys you work with just over-stepped their boundaries and it's YOUR job to put those boundaries in place. People need boundaries - they will treat you the way you LET them treat you. I would let them know that it wasn't cool for them to do that and it was not their place to tell that guy you were a virgin. That's private and honestly, I'm wondering how many people YOU'VE told.

seems it's a little late for the black guy who asked for your number but just take this as a lesson learned. Set boundaries early on and people will have more respect for you.

Answer 5

Perhaps you should address the issue with them then (the white guys who upset you). I've not seen white guys in general behave this way, but I'm sure they do sometimes...any male (or female for that matter) of any color has the ability to be possessive. It's not exclusive to caucasian males.

Definitely stand up for yourself though...odd workplace behavior to day the least (re: the men toward each other)

Answer 6

Because they are freaks. Its not just white men, it can be any race. Its not really talked about a whole lot but i'm hispanic and i pretty much only dated black and white men all my life. Needless to say i married a Hispanic guy and he too is just about his race. Hes dated other races but he said he wanted to marry a hispanic women. I really don't know what the deal is. Maybe its a guys thing.

Answer 7

this is out and out racism, if the comment you said about the guys saying black men messing with there women is true and you need to report it.
if you let it go on then the next coloured person will no doubt go through the same thing.
the worst thing is a bet those guys don't have any desire to date you or they would have made there feelings clear long ago. bullying racism are wrong in and ourtside of the workplace do the responsible thing and report them.

Answer 8

Possessiveness is an familiar instinct between adult males and girls folk inspite of caste, creed or shade.the utilising rigidity in the back of possessieveness in the two adult males and girls folk, is lack of self assurance. people who're self-beneficial and delighted with themselves do no longer fall pray to such psychological worry of abandonment . So possessieveness do no longer solely belong WHITE or BLACK.. ''' Feeling possessieveness in direction of yet another is according to emotions of shortage and lack of self assurance '"

Answer 9

Not all men are like that. Guys tend to do that if they like the woman. If you don't appreciate it, talk to your co-workers in a FRIENDLY AND NICE way and explain to them that what they are doing is not appropriate and that you do not appreciate their behaviour and you want it to stop.

Answer 10

Maybe he was right to resign. It isn't fair but why should he stick around a place like that? Not every place is going be be racist and I'm sure he deserves better.