I don't know if this is common or not but here it goes. For some reason I have lost interest in my husband everything he says or does just annoys me. I don't even have the urge to have sex with him anymore. Any one have some suggestions?
2007-06-19 04:34:38 · 33 answers · asked by Monica V 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If I were you, I would try to identify when you first noticed that you had lost interest. One of the most common causes for this is repressed anger. He may have done something for which you have neither forgiven him nor adequately expressed your anger. However, anger may still be there, clogging up your positive feelings.
The other most likely thing to cause this is physical. Many women feel as you do after childbirth. If this is the case, see a doctor to have your hormone levels tested.
2007-06-19 04:40:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Do not give up I am sure you had good times in the past and you will have good times in the future. Life is not easy and sometimes we get bored, but that will pass. Ask your self do you really want this man out of your life and if the answer is no then start looking for positive things about him. Talk with him spend time doing things with him I suggest Vegas it is a wonderful place to get lost in one another if Vegas is to fare then try somewhere exciting. If this does not work then tell him you need some space and separate from each other. This will be a test that will let you know if you will miss him or not. Also it will make him realize the he needs to work on your guys relation ship. Remember it takes both of you guys to make it work.
Good Luck
2007-06-19 05:13:24 · answer #2 · answered by gotanswers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does happen, you get bored, reach a point that you feel like running and not looking back, but dont. I have gone through this faze. It does get better. You need to get creative and find something new in your lives. Sexually,emotionally, and everything. You need to re- meet your hubby all over again. Just tell yourself that you married him for the long haul, and you are gonna get it back on track. Remember the good things you do and did love about him, that will help you work on this. Ask him too, who knows maybe he feels the same way. It wont be easy, it will take you being the hero in this situation to make it work, but it can. If after trying it doesnt(give it a 3 month try) then think about other alternatives, like therapy, seperation, divorce. But really try first, you might fall back in love with him for a whole new reason. Remember people change, time goes by, and if you are living on what you used to have, you need to start living on what you have now. What you want in the future, the past is gone. Start and add new memories and moments. Good Luck
2007-06-19 04:44:07 · answer #3 · answered by How can I help? 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go away for a few days and reclaim your feelings for him.
Is There something that has made you start feeling this way? Did he do something that has hurt you?
I find that when my hubby and I aren't communicating things seems to go wrong. Even if we agree to disagree we still feel a lot better just talking it out.
How long have you been married? If ya'll are in the early stages of your marriage give it time being married is not easy and they say the first year is well I found that the 2nd and 3rd year are even harder.
Do ya'll have children? Children put a lot of pressure on a marriage.
Pray and go to church. Go talk to someone that has no idea who you are and your husband so they can give you an unbiased opinion like a priest or marriage counselor.
Hope everything works out and Good Luck
2007-06-19 04:45:19 · answer #4 · answered by letigutierrez77 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The problem is people constantly grow and change throughout their lives, but don't always change together. You may feel like you are the smarter, wealthier, more attractive, ect. person in the relationship, which may make him seem inferior in your eyes.
You have to realize its not something he has done wrong, its just you both change. You may have changed into someone who doesnt like his antics.
My best advice, try and start things up again. Try something new together. If you have a nearby lake or river, buy a nice water float and spend a day floating down it. Go to the beach, or a theme park. Take some type of classes together, cooking, dancing, anything.
Dont go into any of it negatively. Have an open mind and remember at one point in your life this man gave you butterflies, this was the only man you wanted to be with, this man got down on one knee and asked you to love him forever. Get those feelingsd back!!
2007-06-19 04:45:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think after you have been with a person for a while you get sick of seeing and doing the same things over and over so everything they say and do will get annoying after a while.
My advice is to take at least a week's vacation from him, maybe u and ur girlfriends can go somewhere fun like a cruise, or a spa! You can designate a day out of the week just for self, that means no interferance from husband, kids, no phone calls! just go somewhere queit have a drink, take a bubble bath and listen to some music.
Good Luck!
2007-06-19 04:47:41 · answer #6 · answered by Jasmine 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How long have you been together? What you describe isn't uncommon but it's not good for the marriage either. Work on putting the spark back into your relationship...talk to him about it (don't tell him you've lost interest but that things have gotten mundane between you).
It's possible your relationship has run its course, or it's possible it just needs some life infused back into it. Think back to when you were crazy about each other and what was different then as opposed to now...then try to put some of that previous stuff back in the relationship.
2007-06-19 04:39:50 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to find the root of what went wrong its something that has cause this , this is just not common you know little things sometimes add up to a big great thing. Does he feel the same about you I wonder. If you want to be happy and stay with your husband you need to start rebuilding your relationship just simply doing the things you did when you met him if it was all good then if it was trouble! Seems that you have lost your happiness in him you should have your happiness safe and secure in you. change what you can and that is quess what YOU! you are very emotional and thinking with your feeling stop and get in the real world with the rest of us be blessed
2007-06-19 04:41:36 · answer #8 · answered by tellthetruth 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Obviously, the reason why you lost interest in him, is because
your probably both cheating on each other and won't tell each
other. And depression and anxiety can also be the cause of
lost of interest. Believe me, I went through that and found out
that I was very sick with a medicine called Coumadin, which
made me have very thin blood, and a infection as well. So
depression and anxiety is the main key to lost of interest, if
you don't have any other reason why. So if you are having
an issue with this, sit down and talk to another female about
your problem, because it helps, or go to a psychiatrist!
2007-06-19 04:45:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
I think all marriages go through periods of time when you look at your husband and he annoys you so much that you don't even like how he breathes. It usually passes. If you keep feeling like that, then there must be a reason. You're probably really mad at him for something and keeping it all bottled up inside. Maybe when you come to terms with that, you'll start feeling more loving toward your husband again.
2007-06-19 04:38:54 · answer #10 · answered by cynthiajean222 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋