where is the line between '2 young to have a baby and not 2 young to have a baby?'?

Question

i am 18 and 6 weeks pregnant, i am really happy about the pregnancy and so is my boyfriend. He has a secure full time job which pays well and im going to do one of them open uni courses from home. I'm not particularly bothered about the answer to this question, just more curious. As an 18 year old - 19 by the time my baby is due, will society in general see me as being too young to have a family of my own? there are 14 and 15 yr olds out there who are having unwanted pregnancys so im sure as a 19 year old mum, who wants her baby very much.. will society accept me?

Answer 1

i think that being to young to have a baby means, when the child lives at home and their family supports them. When you are mature and support yourself and your child then all you can do is your best! the crazy thing is im 25 married, my husband is a firefighter and im a flight paramedic and his mom doesnt accept it, because we havent been married "long enough", dont let the world bring you down, if you can provide a safe and loving home then dont worry about it! good luck!!!

Answer 2

The line is wherever you make it... I know that seems vague, but here's the way I see it. My sister was 17 when she got pregnant. She had her son at 18 and she is now 19. She is one of the best mothers I have ever met. She truly puts her child before herself. Now on my husband’s side, he also has a sister who got pregnant at 15. She kept the baby and now his niece is 12 years old. She is a beautiful girl. Her mother is also a wonderful mom. Now 3rd situation; I have a friend who is 28 years old. She had her son at 22. He is 6 years old and just started kindergarten this year. He wasn't able to go to preschool because she couldn't potty train him. She didn't even enlist the help of a pediatrician... He has a VERY limited vocabulary and poor social skills because quite frankly she doesn't teach him ANYTHING. Here's the moral of the story: You can be a GREAT mother at any age. It just depend on how bad you want to be good at it, because no matter what anyone tells you, it's a full time job... It's more than a full time job - it’s your whole life! I think if you're ready to commit your life to this little one, and teach it everything you can about life and this world you'll be a great mom no matter what age. Society will accept you as long as you are making a life positive. And if you ever feel like someone doesn't accept you for your age... forget about him or her... you are making an honorable decision to keep a baby, devote your life to it and raise it right. Congratulations and best of luck to you. You'll do great!

Answer 3

First off, Im sorry if this runs long. I think that in todays day people (usually older like your parents or grandparents age) believe that 18 is too young. But, ask them this, how old were they when they had babies? Back in the 60s and 70s and 80s most women were married and pregnant by the time they were 18 or nineteen. The divorce rate for these women is fairly higher, higher than ever before. So, I think when you hear older people say you are too young to be pregnant its because they dont want you to make the same "mistake" they feel THEY made. Now that these women are going back to college in there 30s and 40s they look back at their life and think they lost out on alot by rushing into marriage and babies. So, I think they dont look at YOU as too young, they look at the opportunities THEY lost and dont want you to lose those opportunities also. But BE HAPPY!!! Your going to have a beautiful baby soon! Nothing in life is better so If your happy DONT let anyone spoil it. Have a great time being a mom and congrats :)

Answer 4

Believe it or not some people do believe that at your age it is still to young. Most people look at it that parents should be married and stable before having children. I was 19 when I became pregnant with my first child and I got strange looks and people would say "Oh her poor mother", like she was going to have to be responsible for my child. That was so not the case. I think some people mature faster then others and are ready for parenthood before others. Some people are never ready. I have a friend that is 30 that doesn't want kids because she says she is too selfish and doesn't want to give up her life. Under the age of 18 is too young though, after that they are an adult and free to do what they like.

Answer 5

Society will accept you. I am 35 years old with a 16 year old son. I was pregnant at 18 and had him at 19. He has many friends with young moms too, surprisingly some younger than I am. Good luck with the pregnancy you will be just fine.

Answer 6

Well, you're an adult, so to me it's fine that you're going to be a mother, provided you and your boyfriend are ready to take on the emotional and financial responsibilities of being parents. I think there is a huge difference between a 19-year-old and a 14-year-old having a baby. Besides, when you're 36, your child will be all grown up just as many of your friends are just getting around to having their first babies, so you'll get to have a lot more fun when you're older. I think society should and will accept you. Don't worry!

Answer 7

Absolutely. I think it all depends on how you present yourself and your child that decides whether or not you are socially acceptable. I was married at 19 and shortly after we had our first child but I would say that we were socially acceptable because of how we presented ourselves as parents. Besides this is your time, and your baby. I wouldn't worry at all what others think I would just enjoy the fact that you are now carrying the most precious person in the world to you and that person is all yours. All the very best to you. Now is the time to relax and beam with the utmost pride. Society will always come second to what you will have.

Answer 8

well...society get upset when irresponsible teens have unprotected sex and babies that will eventually be supported by tax payer money. However, if you and your boyfriend are mature, have full time jobs (not min. wage), a roof over your heads, food and clothes to support baby then who cares!?!

A good age to have a baby is in your mid- twenties. I ay that because most people have thier partying and wild phase out of thier system and are geniunely ready to settle down and be responsible parents.

Whats done is done now though. You cant cry over spilled milk. Love your baby and try to give it everything you never had. Good luck to you.

Answer 9

Of course society will accept you. I my self had a child at a young age(17). It is very common to be a young mother. I will say one of the benefits to being a young mother is growing with your child and you will be able to be alot cooler than most moms of his peers. One of the challenges i faced was feeling like i didn't enjoy my youth. I wouldn't change it for the world but things were difficult expecially when my friends were clubing and i was mothering. Now I am older those feelings are gone.

Answer 10

Society as a whole is pretty fickle. Even though you sound very mature, people will honestly judge a book by the cover if that makes sense. It is unfortunate but it aslo doesn't matter. As long as you provide a stable loving home, who cares what everyone else thinks. Congrats!