what would you do if you were married, your husband had cheated on you and you liked someone else?

Question

i would like to see how does it feel to have an afair and then be forgiven...

Answer 1

Don't cheat, you will never be able to undo it and who says you will be forgiven?

Answer 2

Even Bible wise, adultery is the only solid OK for a divorce. It would be safe to say that most people will say, yep, I'm gone. However, the other person is eying someone else. In a way, THAT is adultery as well. Again, the Bible talks about this. If your thoughts are aimed at someone else, and then your other goes off and sleeps with someone else, ever think that maybe it was you, concentrating on someone else that drove him in his time of loneliness and weakness to that other person? I say they both are doing it. If you come home and hang on your hubby and hubby is so dot da doo towards you and acts like "yeah, whatever" cause his thought is on another girl, dont you feel rejected, unloved, unwanted? Most women will start seeking what they want from their husband elsewhere. So I say it could have been either one of them that started, but my bet is on the one that was thinking of another person first.

So, I say no running off, if you love the person who cheated on you, catch and confront the lover then meet at home and lay down the law, hound the other till they say, I cant take it, I'm gone or they see that you are fighting to make the marriage work and begins what he/she started

Answer 3

Never start a new relationship with someone else before your current relationship is over. It will make you in the wrong position. Though you can defend your self by saying that it`s your husband who had the affair first, but you are still doing something wrong. Just don`t play a fire ! If you feel that you can`t stay in the marriage, you better get out, before it`s too late.

Answer 4

Well if you plan on having all this extra marital sex, then you need to see a divorce lawyer. If you didnt like what was done to you, why would you try to do it to someone else?? Two wrongs dont make a right. You will not feel better about yourself if doing this. It will only complicate things. In my eyes I would wanna be the one to stand proud and say... "I was faithful and I loved you through this". You better think twice before doing this. How is sex with someone else the answer?

Answer 5

First I'll say the obvious; two wrongs don't make a right.

However, if you are determined to get revenge, I guess you are going to do it. So if you go ahead and have your affair then remember these words of wisdom: you can't be forgiven if you haven't been caught.

Answer 6

Having an affair to get revenge, will only make you like him. Do you really want to be like him? I wouldn't. I would cut my losses and get out of the marriage. It doesn't sound like you have forgiven him anyway. If you want your marriage to work, then make it work. If not, then get a divorce before you start dating.

Answer 7

You are playing games, just because you forgave him, it does not automatically mean he has to forgive you. If you want someone else then leave, end the marriage now, don't be two timing for some little revenge plot, it could backfire BIG syle.

Answer 8

Two wrongs don't make a right. I would wait intil the current relationship I was in was fully over before moving on to someone else.

Answer 9

Sounds like you both need to be smacked upside the head. When you decide to marry someone...you should LOVE them...and they should be your best friend. Why in the world would you want them to hurt you or you hurt them? That isn't normal. If you want to be with someone else it sounds like it is probably time you both went your seperate ways and found someone you could truly love and respect.

Answer 10

Wow, you two have a solid relationship. You clearly haven't forgiven him, you're considering hurting him to even the score.

Get away from each other, you're poison together.