my b/f just proposed 2 me the other day and i said yes but only bcoz he was on top of me at the time and not in a sexy way and i was rely scared!!! he even got me a ring but it DOESNT FIT!!!!!!!! i have 2 wear it on the wrong finger and it sux... wat shud i do?????
2007-06-19 01:34:03 · 19 answers · asked by Richard S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you are scared of this guy why would you consider marrying him?
2007-06-19 01:37:51 · answer #1 · answered by Lynnae_1969 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey there. 17 is really young. I was a little older than that when I got married..... the first time. Ultimately the decision to marry is yours, but as someone who has married young I can tell you that I wished I had waited for the right guy instead of rushing into something that just wasn't meant to be, proposal or not. I know that at 17 I felt like I knew everything I needed to know about love and feelings can be intense, can't they? I couldn't have been more wrong. Please enjoy your youth and don't rush into marriage. If you really love this guy and you do want to stay with him, tell him how you feel, maybe you can have a long engagement. However, the proposal sounds a little" heat of the moment" to me. It's sweet that he gave you a ring (maybe he didn't know your size) but don't accept a marriage proposal based on that. Speaking as someone who has made that mistake, it would be much easier to turn him down now than to wind up married and miserable. Marriage is sacred and if you're careful and smart about it, you'll ony have to do it once.(have a lasting, meaningful marriage that is) Good Luck!
2007-06-19 08:55:39 · answer #2 · answered by desert wind 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My first wife was 17 when we got married. We were young stupid, and our hormones were in overdrive. Noticed I said "1st wife". It lasted about 2 years.
Many young people mistake sex for love. Sex is not love, nor is Love sex. You may have a love for sex, but not a sex for love. It never works.
I hope this sounds like advise from one of your parents. YOU both are to young to even be thinking about marriage. Especially when they jerk scares you. You should be marring your "BEST" friend. Not the bully down the street. Before getting married you need to take a good look at the person you wish to marry. Not from the outside-In, but from the Inside-out. Take a good look at the persons soul, and personality. This is where you'll see who they really are.
Marriage has become just a throw away adventure that you get rid of when it no longer fits. You should be finishing school to include college, get a good start on a carrier, then look at marriage. That doesn't mean not date. Just not marriage.
My suggestion is to break off what is not really there. Get rid of this person, and find who you are, and what will make you eternally happy.
Life is to short to settle for less than what you need to make you happy from the start. Remember it was the turtle that one the race. Take your time!
2007-06-19 08:55:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would not get married at 17 if i were you especially if you are scared of this guy. if you are not usually scared and this for some reason was a freak thing then if you want to stay with him and love him then fine take the ring and get resized to fit properly, but do not get married right away. stay engaged for awhile and make sure it will work out. my husband and i were engaged at 17, but we did not marry until this past december and we were both 21 at the time. and i can tell you people change very much between the ages of 17 and 21. i know for a fact that my husband or myself are not the same people we were at 17 when we first started dating. we have both changed in many ways and some of the changes that have happened in both of us have been a real strain on our relationship. we love each other dearly and we are currently trying to work through a very rough time in our marriage, but because we love each other we both believe we will get through our difference but in order to do so we both have to make changes in ourselves. it's not easy having a young relationship let alone a marriage. you have to make sure that if you stay with him and do marry that you are doing for the right reasons and not just because you were high school sweethearts. that is why i say if you love him and at this point to want to spend the rest of you life with him then say yes and take the ring, but just stay engaged for a few years and embraces the changes that you both will experience over the next few years and see if you can get through them together. and if not then at least you didn't marry to soon and end in a divorce a year later.
2007-06-19 09:03:35 · answer #4 · answered by Nicole 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
find a way to get away from him and don' t get married at 17.
i got married at 17, no college, didn't work till had been married 20 years, now in process of divorce after 30 years. husband had affair with the company tramp where he worked, at least i had worked for the last 10 years so i at least could support myself with what i get from him. i can't say i wouldn't do the same thing again because i would not have my son probably, but really think about it 17 is really too young and doesn't sound like the relationship is the best now, and he won't change after married.
2007-06-19 11:41:21 · answer #5 · answered by tannerlady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are way too young to get married, trust me. Agreeing wtih a couple other people, I can tell from the wording in your question that you are far from being mature enough to enter into marriage. Wait a few years and make sure he's the right one... my experience a guy you like at that age is usually not the type you want to spend your life with.
2007-06-19 09:18:56 · answer #6 · answered by Katie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married at 17. I had six children. Now I am divorced alone. At 17 you know many things... do you know that you will change a lot between now and 25? Your likes and dislikes will change... your goals and ambitions will change... the best thing to do is to end this relationship all together if you are strong enough. The best way to do that is to tell your parents you need help with this guy. Can't imagine talking to your parents? Well, guess what? They can't imagine you talking to them either. Yet, they love you unconditionally and will do anything to help.
2007-06-19 08:42:00 · answer #7 · answered by Ranger D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bad idea.
He doesn't sound like the guy you want to be with.
If he's scary now, how will it be when you are married? How will it be in 5 years? How about 10? This is a long, long, road, and people don't really change. If that's how he proposed, you are going to have a terrible marriage.
Get out now.
2007-06-19 08:44:11 · answer #8 · answered by nicolemcg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youa re 17 live a little, by the time your 21 you will be a different peron & again by the time your 25 you will have changed a bit. Let him down & easy - keep dating if you want, but do not get married.
2007-06-19 08:38:26 · answer #9 · answered by pittpenguins71 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take the ring but put off the wedding for about 5 years or so . get your life started and get your career started before tying your self down to marriage.. you are way too young for that. live a little first .see the world some. experience life for all its splendor and get your wild oats over before they even start
2007-06-19 08:39:57 · answer #10 · answered by road runner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From your words I can understand you are not matured enough to handle a marriage yet. So my suggestion would be wait till 22 or 23 yrs.
2007-06-19 08:41:42 · answer #11 · answered by Upal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋