How many of you really believe that Marriage is Forever?

Answer 1

Let's see I'm on my 4th try of forever, and this one isn't going so good neither. Does that answer the question?

Answer 2

Marriage is meant to be forever, whether we believe that or not. What is the point of getting married if somewhere in the back of your mind you are thinking of a way out? The down side to this is that whether we stay married or not, how many of us are TRULY happy in the situation that we are in? I would venture to say <1%.
Every relationship goes through phases. The first 6 mo is the honeymoon phase, where neither partner can do any wrong in the other's eyes and, also, where they can't do enough for each other. This stage is fun, exciting and almost like a fairy tale!!! The second stage is the comfort stage. This is where you begin to feel more at ease with your partner, so much that you start to let those little irritating faults you have emerge to the surface......not to much at once though, you haven't reeled them in quite yet, wouldn't want the bait to turn sour to soon.....they might let go (this goes for men and women). The last stage is the sedentary stage. This is the stage where almost all married couples fall into and the ones who have reached this stage before marriage have decided not to proceed down the isle. This stage is where selfishness prevails and the typical attitude of "I've got papers on you" commences. During this stage couples tend to become more like brothers and sisters and less like lovers. Quarreling about who does what, who gets what, and so on. This is also the stage that birthdays, anniversaries, holidays and other important events are forgotten or demoted. As far as the sex, well...like I said you become more like brothers and sisters.
Things change no matter if we want them to or not. The only way a couple can make it is if they have high religious standards and refuse divorce under any circumstances or they really love each other and are very compatible and both work hard to keep the marriage alive.
I think the correct statement is "Marriage is meant to be forever." We all have a choice.

Answer 3

Forever was a lot easier when we only lived to 30. Now that we live so long and over the years we change so much, I don't know if that's valid anymore. I am not in favor of divorce, but its not practical to believe in staying the same for sixty or more years. It would be nice if we married later. But not from a reproductive standpoint since that's easier earlier. We seem to have created a problem between living so long and still needing to reproduce so young.
Realizing that people change so much over the years may be why we have so many divorces, and I'm not sure if that's surprising since in the old days, that is before 1910 or so, women died quite young as a result of childbirth and the fevers that often followed. Then there were the wars that shortened the mens lives and their marriages. Its true that divorce wasn't done as much, but what you won't hear is that the men simply left, they in some cases went west, and weren't heard from again, and in other cases then simply set up another household. But they were still married. Not understanding those things make us think that marriage was a fairyland where everyone worked hard and made it work. That's just not true. We probably put more effort into it now than we did then, but it may not be more than luck for a marriage to reach the long term over thirty years dream.

Answer 4

I beleive that it should be forever, HOWEVER... you can't control what the other person does or feels. I felt as my marriage was forever until my husband came up to me and told me he basically didn't love me anymore and wants a divorce. You BOTH have to work at it... it can't be one sided. I'm thinking if you find the right person it'll be forever and be great but most people just jump in head first without really thinking about it. It is so easy to get a divorce and that is the problem. People think "well if it don't work out I'll just get a divorce" and that is not the right mentality you should have going into a life long commitment. It isn't just a peice of paper... thats what people need to realize.

Answer 5

I do. I believe that to end a marriage, there must be extenuating circumstances (basically abuse or adultery). I say if you "love your spouse but aren't IN love with your spouse", that's tough. These people are bored, that's it. They miss the NEWNESS of a relationship. Instead of splitting, the couple should work together to make some more time together, doing things they did before they were married, re-experiencing what made them fall in love in the first place. They'd get a little bored once in a while no matter who they are with, that's part of life, you have to overcome it, not run from it. Or they have found someone new, which brings us back to adultery.

Answer 6

Society has enabled us to get divorces very easily these days. It no longer carries a stigma as unacceptable, rather, it has become the norm for half the population.
But you probably know all that already...
What I think a lot of people don't know is that people who stay married to one person live longer and live happier than those that go through the sadness and depression and stress of divorce. Divorce and all it's accompaigning stresses takes a toll on the heart, and not just the heart in the head, but actually stresses out the physical heart and does damage.
Divorced people are also sadder. They have to keep starting over, and try to wipe away years of their life. Everytime they start over, the new person never knew them during the years they have spent, and often, lost.

Answer 7

Well, that's the original intent. Those who can't accept that people do change and at times drift far apart are due for some sad times. Adults work through that; those who retain adolescent attitudes rarely do. My wife is NOT the woman I married, but then, I'm no longer the studmuffin she married. We've accepted that we both gots warts and have agreed that we can live with 'em and keep on workin' at being happy. We'll know whether or not we succeeded when we're in our eighties...and that ain't all that far off, dudes and dudettes...

Answer 8

Well I used to think so but now I dont as everything chanes between a couple after marriage. If your statement would have been true then I believe that the concept of separation or Divorce wouldn't have been there. Isn't it?

Answer 9

I do believe that Marriage is Forever.

I waited entire growing up phase to meet the girl i would marry and love and with who i would grow old. We got married four years after we were going together. She left me within 6 months of our marriage.

I am recovering but my belief in the institution of marriage is not so badly shattered. Am strong enough to be vulnerable ;)

Answer 10

depending on if you gave your marriage thought and time. If you just jump into somthing with somone its probably not going to last forever. I believe if your with the right person forever is forever. Somtimes we tend to look over who is best for us and turn to somone else thinking it will only get better when it doesnt.

Answer 11

Happy marriage is an oxymoron. Even back in the 'old days' when no one divorced, they were all miserable. Now 50% divorce, the other 49% are bored and unhappy, and maybe 1% are truly in love and content with each other. Marriage is shark infested waters.