not legally seperated right now.if get legal seperation will answer be different?i live in south carolina.
2007-06-19 01:30:53 · 15 answers · asked by Laura B 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why would you want to make things harder on your kids? Unless she is unfit to be around them why should it matter all that much. It just makes you sound vendictive and jealous. Which are two things you never want to do. Is he a good father? obviously he is since you are focused on the girlfriend. Do you truely believe he would have the kids around anyone who would hurt them? You need to focus on getting your life in order for your children and not worry about the girlfriend. You have to remember how keeping the kids from him because of her is not so much hurting him but it is really hurting your kids. You don't want them to resent you. I have been through something like this. Just lay down some rules and insist on them being followed and if all else fails email the girlfriend like i did and tell her why you have a problem--the true reason and get it resolved for the sake of your children. You don't have to like or even be friends with her. I just dont see the sence in making that an issue unless she was a horrible person. And always remember violence solves nothing.
2007-06-19 14:39:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you legally do it? Probably not. The court is going to give him access to those kids unless there is some type of abuse happening. ANd they won't legislate (and you can't either) what he does while he has those kids.
Having said that.....if he were truly a responsible father who puts their interest ahead of his own.....he would read about how the best way to handle dating relationships as a single dad is recommended....and then do so. And it is consistently recommended that single parents keep their dating lives separate from their kids until such a time as the relationship is serious and marriage is contemplated.
And if you aren't even divorced yet, he shouldn't be in a serious relationship!
Buy him the books and hopefully it will get him thinking with the big head, and not the little head he seems to be thinking with.
2007-06-19 01:38:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not legally separated and your husband has a girlfriend? In most states that's still considered adultery so what is stopping you from throwing your husband out of the house? And you are still the mother and legal guardian, so yes you have the right to say whether or not some strange woman has any contact with your kids.
2007-06-19 01:52:36 · answer #3 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is painful for him to bring his girlfriend around the kids for you. It is probably unhealthy for the children to get attached too. Yet, these are all objective calls. If you raise a stink about it with him, it will eventually backfire because it will further deteriorate your relationship with him. Keep in mind that his girlfriends will come and go - but you are the mother of the kids and will be there forever. Treat him right regardless of how he treats you. He will have to answer for his discrettions later.... and you yours. There is no legal way nor would you want to get involved. Concentrate on doing the right thing by your kids in the things you do control.
2007-06-19 01:36:38 · answer #4 · answered by Ranger D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would have to go to court to do this legally. Then you would have to have a reason on why. Which would simply be "it is too difficult for the children since you and him are still married" If he has set visitation then the answer is no unless you take it to court.
2007-06-19 01:34:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can, but you have to be legally seperated, and it has to be stated in your seperation papers...once you are divorced, if he marries her, you cannot have any say so about her seeing the kids then...why dont you want her to? do you have a good reason, besides jealousy? make sure you do, dont ruin the relationship between your kids and the dad, and dont make him choose, he may surprise you by just not having as much to do with the kids, if he cant have them around her...
2007-06-19 03:07:57 · answer #6 · answered by poodle mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is not a divorce pending or if your not legally separated then yes you need to contact friend of the court or whoever they have there that handles child support issues. Try to get an attorney too, even if its a free one.
2007-06-19 01:36:24 · answer #7 · answered by Lynnae_1969 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know about the cheating part as I've heard that its a none issue in courts now adays, unless there is alot of $$ at stake.
Unless she's harming them you may have a hard time keeping her away from them. You'll have to fight for full custody.
2007-06-19 01:37:35 · answer #8 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You can ask that a clause be inserted in your divorce or separation agreement that prohibits him from having overnight guests of the opposite sex while your children are present. It is, however, hard to enforce this. I know it is hurtful to think of them being with her - but he is an adult and no judge will prohibit it without a valid cause.
2007-06-19 02:12:33 · answer #9 · answered by arkiemom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why be so petty and try to brainwash ur kids. they know ur their mom and u love them. what about the day when u finally move on and have a new boyfriend would u want the father to keep them away from u ? be the bigger person, its not soemthign worth fighting about theres bigger things out there. (unless shes causing harm to ur kids but thats a different story)
2007-06-19 01:35:02 · answer #10 · answered by spadezgurl22 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋