What do you think of people who marry into money?

Question

It is so easy to resent people who marry into money because they haven't done any work for it, other than having sex with the right person. My husband's boss married some lady with a large inheritance, and he used some of that money to buy rental slums, and now all he has to do is sit on his butt, collect money money money and make rules for everybody. So since the Mrs. had an inheritance, and he married her, neither one of them really had to work for the money they have. They don't understand what it's like to be in the working man's shoes. The wages and benefits they pay are a joke, but they just get to be millionaires for sitting on their butts making arbitrary rules. Should people who get large inheritances have to actually prove that they are worthy of the money before they get it? And what do you think of gold diggers who marry into money?

Answer 1

It seems that this person to whom you refer has poor character, if his lot in life is to be a slum lord. However, his wife apparently condones this activity, so they're made for each other. Western culture is all about money, youth and beauty, not that I think it's honorable, but that's the way it is. Fortunately, or not, I work for a living; so I really don't have to worry about any gold diggers trying to separate me from my money. For that matter, 99.99% of the women I meet find me repulsively honourable, so I don't think I have to be concerned about ever getting married. The other 0.01%? I've already been married to her and she ran off with a 16 year old, left me with our son and doesn't pay any child support. Hooray for women's lib!!!

Answer 2

You sound pretty bitter about your husband's boss.
The inheritor(sp?) should learn not to squander money and how to invest it before they get the inheritance. Since your husband's boss is able to buy "rental slums" and make money from that, they obviously know how to invest, which is much better than just spending it on useless items. Some people are just luckier from birth, so there's not really a way to judge whether they are worthy of their inheritance or not.
Similarly, it is difficult to judge who is a gold digger, and who is not, unless the person is blatantly showing signs of it. Marrying someone richer and older does not mean that that person is a gold digger, it could simply mean that there's a lot of chemistry between them.
And to be honest, if the gold digger is capable of tricking the other person into marriage, then he/she deserves to marry into money, because the other person is either very stupid or lonely, or the gold digger is very smart.

Answer 3

Some people are just born rich,and that's that.
It is fortunate when a person is born into a wealthy family that has a sense of decency and duty,that has a core set of values of commitment,respect for learning,respect for accomplishments and respect for the feelings of others.Some wealthy families do good for the communities while others are greedy and selfish.
I do not think that a family member needs to prove anything to receive family wealth--it's the family property and the family earned it!Let's not be spiteful and excessively envious!I've learned from experience that it takes work to properly manage an estate---lawyers,bankers,
financial advisors are constantly kept
in contact---if the person is wise.

Gold diggers are by definition,people who marry only for wealth and social position.That's not a positive definition for a person.But there have always been and will always be, extremely greed people in the world.

Answer 4

In some cultures this is why people marry in the first place. And to them, it seems just as weird that we marry for love and other less logical reasons.

In fact, throughout history EVERYWHERE marriage was a business agreement. Period.

This idea of marrying for love is very new.

Personally I'd only marry for love but that's just me. I don't need someone else to make my money for me. Gold diggers are a very scummy lot because rarely are the upfront and say 'it's your money i'm after, not you" The problem isn't the motivation, it's the dishonesty in making someone believe they are loved when in actuality, just their money is. THAT' s what bothers me about marriage for money. The lack of honest communication. If everyone is honest and knows the score, let them do what they want if they're happy.

Answer 5

Well my uncle married a woman who had inherited 5 million plus interest from her father. My uncle helped her by investing it. He met her when they were 18. He was a stock broker before. He is definatly not a gold digger.
There is one thing i can tell you that I always worry about. My dad earns a lot, unfortunatly my mother died (she had a good job too) and my dad is now re-married to my step-mother who is 20 years younger than him. I was just thinking would she have married him if he was poor!

Answer 6

The person who marries into money must prove themselves to the spouse, and then put up with that spouse, so they are doing something to get the money.

I guess it is preferable to stealing it, or cheating people to get it. In the US, huge fortunes are usually eaten up by estate taxes and inheritance levys, but the government is trying to pass laws to let people inherit obscene amounts of money for no good reason.

Answer 7

some people take the easy way out, they are just like you and I who work hard for their money and decide that they dont want to do it anymore. who should they prove their worthiness to? why does people with no money want to tell people with money how to spend it? live and let live.

Answer 8

I always think "what is their secret"..they are lucky..I don't look down upon people that marry into money....

I say to the girls.."you go girl"..

Answer 9

Some people are just born lucky, that's it! It's their life, it's not their fault, it could've been you. Would you object it then?

Answer 10

gold diggers!