She put a retraning order on him by manipulating everone into thinking he raped her but the truth of the matter is that it just didn't happen. He is trying to work with her for the kids sake but she is suceeding in getting the kids to belive that he is a horrible person, and won't agree to anything, but in the meantime she is now dating this other guy who is 24 years older than her and basically living with him and the kids are there for everything, the father only gets to see the kids every other weekend which is not good because the kids give him problems because of her. he feels that the kids are in a volitale situation at her BF house and wants to get them out of there, does he have any rights to that? The order for protection is just between him and her but she pushes that its for the kids when he doesn't have them, which is false. And now that I have realized what she is like she has turned the kids against me too. Anybody have any suggestions?
2007-06-19 01:00:13 · 6 answers · asked by Jason M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Three words for your friend my dear---PARENTAL ALIENATION SYNDROME
I have attached a few sites for you to view, I hope they help. What your friends wife is not only damaging to her ex but it is harming the children to a far greater degree than she cares to realize
I wish you the best, have your friend read the articles, take the knowledge to his lawyer with him and see what can be done.
2007-06-19 01:28:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you shouldn't be in any part of it. stay out of it because all it will cause is more unneccessary drama. You do not want ot be known as the nosey friend for life do you. what you think may be helping could be making everything worse. The 2 people who have the kids are in this and they both need to act (or start) like adults.
He has rights! he needs to get a copy (if he doesn't have it by now) of the restraining order and read it in detail. If it only says stay awayfrom her than he has full right to see his kids.And if he can see his kids , there is no order against him and the children. He can also go online and look for support programs that help single father's for child support. google it or do a local search because they are out there but you have to look.
if he feels the children are in a bad situation the only way to get them away from the situation is to prove without a doubt that they are in unhealthy, unlivable and unsafe situation. Rearely would a court grant sole custody for only 1 parent unless the other parent signs away there rights willingly. The courts right now will only see that the mom is a coniving and bitter witch, also they will say that the kids are acting out as kids to in these situations.
the only way to resolve this is by going to court . you need to stay out of it unless you want to be as bad as she is . You are not a neutral person since you know both people so it's in your best interest to stay out of it .
2007-06-19 01:39:56 · answer #2 · answered by whijess03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is a evil thing , I know I'm going through this after 30 years of being someones slave. And the kids are stuck in the middle of this mess, and this will effect the kids lives forever. Stay away from this person is the best thing to do, it's going to hurt but what she's doing to you is very hurtful, I have nothing nice to say about a person who messes up other peoples life's.
2007-06-19 01:09:08 · answer #3 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats just plain out mean and wrong..those kids are going to be messed up in the head . I hope for there sake they dont believe what they are being told . Is this going thru court if so let lawyers know what she is doing and have those kids talked to with someone that helps kids in dealing with parents who are divorcing . She has major issues with herself if she has to do that...I feel for the kids..speak up and let someone know what she is saying to those kids and them tell someone a child psycholigist or something or it wont be good for them in the long run
2007-06-19 01:06:29 · answer #4 · answered by tiggerme20006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow i hate a woman like that sad part is when kids grow up to make their own decisions and what they honestly see will make them hate mom instead of dad. the only suggestion here is get a lawyer. depending on state is where you go from there
2007-06-19 01:05:55 · answer #5 · answered by glenn h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay completely out of it. Too much damn drama that you don't need in your life.
2007-06-19 01:04:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋