What the hell is so special about marriage?

Question

Why do we do it?
Is it a must?

And why do people wanna get married even though the divorce rate is america is so high?

Answer 1

Marriage goes beyond a piece of paper that the state or county issues you. It is a committment to the person that you love that she will be the most important thing in your life. That you will work out frustrations, disagreements, and even arguements with love and compromise. It is being proud of the ring on your finger and showing it to any who wants to know, not just because it means you are married but, because it means you are married to her. It means being together with her doesn't bore you 10, 15, or 20 years after that special day and when your apart, thinking about her more than any other person in the world.
It means hard work when everything isn't going your way and hard work when everything is. It means never being angry with her for long because you can't stand the thought of being without her.
If you are religious, you would believe that it is a must because we are taught thisin the scriptures and even many atheists find love and make the marriage commitment.
Yes the divorce rate is high and it really all boils down to one thing. Our inability to stick to our commitments. Many people go into a marriage as an individual and never learn to make the change of thought that Marriage means "we share". Everyone takes into a marriage all of their wordly possessions but, if we don't relinquish those then we lose more than what we had.
I am not an eloquent speaker but I do try to speak from the heart. I had a few times in my marriage when it would have been so easy to go our seperate ways but, we decided that what we had was worth fighting for and now my lovely (that word doesn't do her justice) wife and I are approaching our 20th anniversary.
Was it easy? No. The best things never are.

Answer 2

BULL! All the above answers are CRAPPP!!! Marriage originated when family's simply had to protect their assest by legally being able to keep them in the family or within an organization. LISTEN UP PEOPLE- do your homework!! Marriage originally HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH LOVE!! It was a business, and for many still is. Our questioner has a good question here! TOP Myths about marriage:

1. Marrying someone does not guarentee ANY security, as 56% of all spouses cheat, and more affairs happen between married people than in unwed relationships!

2. The idea of marriage and weddings are often confused. 67% of all women polled that they dreamdt of marriage more for the wedding ceremony than the long term committment

3. Marriage will bring "people closer," as with kids and all. More divorces occur AFTER a child is born than before (to be exact, when the kid turns 2 or older)

4. That marriage is all about LOVE? Uh, no we covered that.

The wedding industry is a 6 billion dollar a year raquet. Tell a banquet hall you are having a sweet sixteen party, you will get a dinner for $15 a head, tell them it is a wedding, that same meal becomes $100 a head. The average American wedding costs $30,000. The divorce rate is 58%, and no less or more in religious marriages. Go figure. Women have a false sense of security with the piece of paper, men do it to please the woman. I am a woman and I think marriage is over rated as well. But then again, I don't believe in taking men as prisoners, nor do I want children, so I am not like most b*tchez.

Answer 3

Marriage is as special as the couple makes it, that's why some go bad, they put no effort in it. We don't have to do it, it's a choice and in most cases not a thought out choice, too many people jump in to it now days. We do it for different reasons, some do it because they truly love and care for each other and the thought of not being married is inconceivable. Some do it as a business deal, like merging two big corporations. I wanted to marry my husband because I do love him and cannot picture myself growing old without him. I enjoy being his partner and being there to take care of him and knowing he will do the same for me. Some (especially girls) want to get married because it's tradition and they want the big fancy wedding and all the attention that goes with it. If that's why their doing it, it's for the wrong reasons and will most likely fail. Many young ones jump into it because they mistake lust for love and had they waited just a few more years would have saved themselves and possibly a child or two a lot of heart ache.

Answer 4

To each, his own, but for me marriage is special because of the level of commitment a marriage symbolizes. There are also good legal reasons to get married; without a marriage, your partner has no legal jurisdiction over your well being in cases of hospitalization. Technically, the patient's closest relative has more say over them (if they cannot decide for themselves) than a mere partner unless the partner has been given power of attorney. Her family can even disallow you from visiting her in her hospital room, if they want to.
If your partner has a child which is not biologically yours, and that partner dies, you have absolutely no right to the child. Again, the closest relative does, unless spelled out in a Will. If your partner dies, and her family does not allow you in the funeral home, you can be kept out. You will have no say in where or how she is buried or if she is cremated. If your partner dies, and she has death benefits from work, you do not get the money unless she specifically designated you as the beneficiary. Again, closest relative get it. If your partner dies you do not get the retirement benefits like a spouse would. You do not get their social security benefits. These are many of the reasons gay couples are so irritated that they don't have the right to get married.

Answer 5

There is no universal answer to what makes marriage so special. Everyone who is married will have their own answers to just what it is. Once you meet the right person, you will have your own answer too. From my point of veiw, it is the fact that we are willing to commit fully to each other, and knowing that there will always be that special person by your side, wanting the best for you. If you both take your vows seriously, you also know that you cannot just walk out if/ when things are not going so well, but that the two of you will stand together, and try to improve things.

Answer 6

Marrige is more than just a few words in a church. I told myself when I was younger that I would never get married. I've seen how hurtful it could be to the people in the relationships. The people closest to you are the one who hurt you the most. Then a few years ago I met a man who changed my life. He is sweet, kind, and makes me laugh like crazy. Later, when he proposed, (we were living together at the time), I said no. When I went to visit my sister later that week, she and I spoke about it. She said to me that she said yes to her husband because he was the best friend she ever had and she still had to smile every time she sees his face. He still makes her heart race at the idea of a romantic getaway. I realised then that marrige is not really about the other person so much as yourself. It's a very selfish decision. You do it because you want that person to stay in your life so badly that you bind yourselves together. Some people get married because they are lonely or because it seems like a good idea at the time, but they don't truly have a marrige. Marrige is making the one you love your family and vowing to work on the relationship and love that other person for life. Don't take into account the divorce rate. If you are sure in your heart, other people not taking their vows seriously should not even factor into your decision. I've been blessed with a beautiful marrige and wish you the same.

Answer 7

What is so special about marriage, the love and commitment you have toward one other, the thought that there is a person that will be your companion through all the good and/or bad times,they love you and stand by you.
We must do it? We don't much do it but we all should. People are generally happier and live longer when they have love in their life.

Answer 8

Obviously you haven't met the right person. I think as a society our values have changed. People give up too easily. I feel tht marriage is really hard work. You have to find ways to compromise love and grow with each other. If you aren't willing to do that. Don't get married

Answer 9

i was going out with my husband for 8 years before we got married we had 2 children also. we got married because we wanted to have that commitment i wanted to have his surname and all of us to have the same name (our children had his name)

we feel closer together now i love being married i think also for legal reasons and also for example what if my husband got sick and was on life support and he wanted to be a an organ donor or he had expressed that he didn't want to be left on life support if there was only a small chance of him waking up . if i then expressed his wishes then say his sister or parents could over ride what i say and say no your not giving away his organs or turning off the machine. they would go with his family over me as technically i wouldn't be family.
now i hope i never have to be in a situation like that but this was a factor also
at the end of the day we love each other and getting married felt right for us

So i think people in general get married for love and to be completely committed to each other.

is it a must i think that depends on the couple and how they feel not what any one else thinks.

Answer 10

it is special if you find the special one. some people never find a perfect person for them and are single and are happy. so its to each his own not everyone has to be married for life to be good.