is masturbation wrong?

Question

when i'm at home i download porn off the internet and masturbate about 4 or 5 times a day, i love it, although i feel that it saps away my confidence, concentration and general well being, am i right in saying this?

Just to get one thing straight too; i'm a gay male with a very active long term boyfriend and sex life too!

Answer 1

it is perfectly normal but its not good if its affecting you it should be pleasurable may be you should talk to your boyfriend or may be its zapping you out because you feel guilty for doing it may be you need to sit and think if there's a reason you feel this way afterwards good luck and have fun

Answer 2

The only wrong thing would be if it became obsessive, that means all of your energies and concentration would be focused on that. You sound as though you are having a guilt complex otherwise you would not ask is it wrong. It certainly depends a lot on your upbringing, some religious faiths frown upon it and then comes the guilt. It is only wrong if you believe it to be wrong, it is not affecting anyone else apart from you I would presume. You are just one of those highly sexed people who needs a sexual outlet and masturbation sounds like it is fulfilling your needs. I would not worry too much.

Answer 3

It is normal, mastrabation is a form of 'selfish pleasure' as in you do not have to please any one else.

4-5 times a day is ok once it doesnt interfer with your life. You say it affects your confidence. Maybe you should look at why you mastrabate, is it to satisfy your need, or is it to escape?

Internet porn is very addictive, and so is mastrabating, if you feel you have a problem talk to your partner, explain you feel this sapping your confidence.

Good luck

Answer 4

Masturbation is completely normal and in my opinion beneficial to a healthy sex life, how can we expect someone else to pleasure us if we cannot pleasure ourselves. I am more curious to how you find the time to masturbate 4 – 5 times a day, if you think that you are masturbating too much perhaps you could try to find a hobby or something else to keep you distracted and help build your confidence at the same time, but if it isn’t encroaching into your normal life what’s the problem?
Have a wee look at this article as well;
http://www.nhsdirect.nhs.uk/articles/article.aspx?articleId=1684

Answer 5

Masturbation is perfectly normal and if you enjoy it carry on. However if it is sapping your confidence and concentration then it may be becoming a problem. Only you can decide about that.

Answer 6

there is nothing wrong with masterbation,as long as it does not take over your normal phyisical relationship.4 or 5 time s aday is a lot..do you go to work..that would increase your confidence.

Answer 7

I love masturbating as well but I don't feel it causes the neg affects that you do. If you feel that its wrong then of course it is wrong. I fail to see why you think masturbation is wrong but you don't question the gay sex life.

Answer 8

Normal - possibly, but you must be tired!!!

Not sure why it saps your confidence - maybe you need to focus on that. Don't think it'll do you any physical 'harm', though.

Answer 9

of course not.. most experts says that masturbating is a normal thing, it's practically safe. but my advice is don't over do it, because you're right it could lessen your concentration when you're thinking of doing it every minute.

Answer 10

oooh never im a women a nd i cant get enough of it its never wrong its a natural thing ! you carry on and have fun as long as its not disrupting your job or your other important things its fine have fun babe ! good question ! star for you and ill blow you a kiss mwah x ;0)