my husband is having an affair with one of our ofismates, the girl was assign in different projects but every afternoon they've seeing each other, and me doing nothing in our house waiting for him. he's always telling me thats why he's always going home late because he'll solve his problems....one day i found out that he has an affair.... and i decided to see the woman... and the three of us when for talking ang i told my husband to chose between the two of us, and he chose me... my husband is laways telling me that they we broke up already when the time ive found out. he's always keeps telling me that he's back.. many of our friends also telling me that he just couldnt get out of the relationship he had to the other woman. now o told him that im giving back my trust on him. but still i have doubts but as i can see he's doing everything to make up with me... the point is if he's really back on me for good?
2007-06-18 20:44:44 · 14 answers · asked by bliss 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can never be sure. Question: Did you ever ask him why he did it in the first place??? his answer could give you an idea if he will do it again. is there something you guys need to work on? or is it just him with the issue. Knowing why is really an important factor as well as what did he get out of it. Example: Did he learn anything from it. Also just let time take it's course. as he countines to prove himself you will begin not to think about it as much.
2007-06-18 21:18:46 · answer #1 · answered by Camille Star 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only time will tell. If he and the "other woman" are still working together chances are he still speaks to her. Have you asked what his reason for cheating was? He of course is going to try and make up, but he should at least take time to seriously explain why and how things happened. Also ask him the reason behind his decision to stay in the marriage. It's a tough decision, one that has to be carefully thought out. When a person cheats it's hard to trust them again. If you are having doubts you may want to seek some type of marriage or couples counseling thru your church or psychologist. Just realize that if you don't let the situation go, and move on it can still cause problems in the marriage. Don't let anyone tell you to leave your husband, because many women give advice that they wouldn't take themselves. Know that you are valuable and can never be replaced especially by some woman your husband had a fling with. Think long and hard, and dont forget to pray. As for your husband & the other woman he should ---> Remember that the grass always looks greener on the other side, but more times than not it gets brown real quick! Trust me. Hope this helps Good Luck :-)
2007-06-19 04:03:10 · answer #2 · answered by Tinkerbell_72 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You truly will not ever really know. So your real decision is, can you live with a man you don't trust. That's a tough one. If there have been alot of tensions in your relationship prior to this affair, then at least you can narrow down what began his straying. However, those thoughts can cause you to feel resentful in how you are able to express yourself in your relationship somewhere down the line. Only time will tell. If you want to stick around.
2007-06-19 04:00:06 · answer #3 · answered by soozemusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I must say for the first thing is that the first time is always the hardest. He has doe this the first time and trust me he would probably do it again but this is not something that I am very sure of. This is something that happens sometimes then again it won't. I would keep an eye out for him playing around when things get better.
2007-06-19 04:10:04 · answer #4 · answered by *Pretty In Pink* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOT REALLY. YOU WILL ALWAYS BE WONDERING IF HE IS AT IT AGAIN. SURE HE MAY NOT BE 'RIGHT NOW' BUT, WHAT ABOUT AFTER YOU RELAX A BIT.
THERE WAS A REASON HE HAD THAT AFFAIR AND HE NEEDS TO TELL YOU WHY. HE CHOSE YOU BECAUSE HE KNEW YOU WOULD TAKE HIM BACK.
BOTH YOU AND THE OTHER WOMAN SHOULD HAVE KICKED HIM TO THE CURVE. THEN, IF HE PURSUED YOU, YOU WOULD HAVE FELT BETTER ABOUT HIS RETURNING.
SORRY, YOU STILL HAVE TO KEEP YOUR EYES WIDE OPEN, NOT HALF SHUT.
2007-06-19 04:14:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never be sure. You have to know his motivation for cheating on you. I am sure that there are none but try may be he will come up with something. After doing that and if he really has reasons, work them out and try not to give him excuses for cheating, though men don't wait for an excuse. But honestly, you have to be careful, don't trust him so much.
2007-06-19 03:50:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no full prof way to be sure. You have to watch him and see if any of the signs return that he's at it again. I hate to say this but, once someone starts cheating, they usually will do it again. They just get better at hiding it. I commend you for trying to make it work. That must have been hard!
2007-06-19 03:54:19 · answer #7 · answered by rklee0122 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the dog is up to his old tricks. You will never feel secure in your marriage cause he probably isn't going out of his way to make you feel secure. I want to say leave him cause I know in the long run, it's what's best for you. I also know it's easier said than done. Good Luck!
2007-06-19 03:55:26 · answer #8 · answered by Nicki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only time will tell. You better keep your eyes open. Don't be sitting at home, find out what he is doing. He will have to prove himself and you will have to keep checking, never take his word for anything. Believe things when you see them with your own eyes.
2007-06-19 03:50:19 · answer #9 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know from my past experance . once this happens it will never stop it might be her or another woman he wont stop once they cheat and get by you have opened the door for him to do it over again i divorced my wife in.2002 over the same think my opion based on fact . my opion move on you can do better than a cheat like him my opion??
2007-06-19 03:55:35 · answer #10 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋