My bestfriend is moving..so I bought her a gift and wrote her a letter,very very hard to do...so anyway I gave her that today and she was like thanks and I didnt expect that from you and that was it...,she said that she was THINKING about doing a letter..,I REALLY DONT mind that she didnt I love her ..
what do you think why didnt she cry..I was about too but ...
this is really hard and..well I put alot af thought and care in that letter because she is what I call a real friend...my friend.....
2007-06-18 19:58:45 · 15 answers · asked by little_kitty 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
thank you all I stopped crying!!its hard but thats life...
2007-06-18 20:50:09 · update #1
I'm sure you had a pre-image of what the whole scenario was going to be like before hand, so technically you got your hopes up-and are disappointed it didn't turn out the way you planned, I use to be like you and can be sometimes-but you have to learn to accept that what you think is just your thought and not a actual fact unless you have proof-meaning, you can't get upset or cry because your friend reacted the way she did because she shows her emotions different or may not be as touchy; feely as you-but at least you gave it to her-you know you didn't have to-it's the thought that counts. You have to learn to take things with a grain of salt and not personal, because not everyone you come in contact with will think like you-so just remember, you did it because you love her, not because you wanted praise, you should remember that when you do things like this-you have to take it well-whatever it is that they or how they chose to act, it was you choice to please them.
2007-06-18 20:21:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Losing a friend is hard, and she is going to miss you just as much. Just take in to consideration that maybe she was trying to be strong so you wouldn't get more upset. And also remember, as cheesy as it sounds, that your memories are going to be more important than gifts, etc. Your letter to her probably meant a lot and now she has something to look back on and say "Hey, my best friend wrote this!" you will have the memories.
Best of wishes to you, everything will work out. I hope you feel better.
2007-06-19 03:38:40 · answer #2 · answered by *Millie* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
moving is probably hard for her, and she might feel a bit more protected by detaching herself from the world. I am going through a move right now that many would consider "rough, as I am leaving behind all of my friends, and really, everyone else is much more worked up about it than I am. When you are moving on, it is most often easiest to just let go, and leave strong emotions to trickle in, to remind you of the days that you once had. So, really, she might just be saving her emotions, rather than trying to just get them out of her system by breaking down on the spot, as her way of remembering you, and her old life.
2007-06-19 03:06:10 · answer #3 · answered by shabushabu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi :)
Smile please. I moved a month ago. My best friend wrote me a beautiful card and got me a gift. She cried alot when I met her last time.
Although I am usually a very sensitive person, I didn't cry that night. I love my friend from the bottom of my heart. I'm sure I love her more than she does love me, but I knew I had to be strong.
I was facing alot of challanges in my life. Missing my friend would be just one of them.
Always keep in mind that the internet will allow you always to keep in touch.
2007-06-19 03:23:37 · answer #4 · answered by maha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey gotta tke it easy.. D same thing happened to me last month. Some ppl can handle emotions but some cant. Probably she didnt cry because she knew dat if she'd cry then dat would also make u cry.It really doesnt matter if she cried or not but I am sure she was upset on the inside.
2007-06-19 03:31:17 · answer #5 · answered by hersheys 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so needy. Not everyone handles situations the same. Maybe she prefers to keep her emotions to herself. She also probably has plenty on her mind, with packing and getting ready to move. I am sure that once she is gone, it will hit her. Don't be so hard on her. Don't expect everyone to feel and act the way you do. If you continue to do this, you will be disappointed quite often in life. Take it from someone that learned the hard way!!
2007-06-19 03:05:46 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she was just trying to be strong. She may have been crying down deep inside. Like you, she may be crying at this very moment. It was a nice thing that you did and I'm sure she was glad that you were thinking of her, and every time she looks at that gift she will think of you.
2007-06-19 03:23:16 · answer #7 · answered by Mark B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people go and life moves on you should find another friend
what kind of a friendship is this friendship is not about living in the same town and studying in the same school its a relationship of two hearts a way two hearts are connected and care a lot about eachother maybe your friend moved away from your town or city but no one can remove her from your heart and maybe she also feels the same.
2007-06-19 03:40:02 · answer #8 · answered by Am1!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, just stop crying and take a breather. It's probably really hard for your friend as well. Maybe she's trying to be strong for the two of you.
2007-06-19 03:03:40 · answer #9 · answered by smexibiotch3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u really think that she is Ur's best friend then don't cry, only pray that Ur's friendship doesn't break & accept the mistake that was created from Ur side & say her sorry[it mite not be Ur mistake but someway or the order U have hurt her]
2007-06-19 03:24:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋