rape baby....what do i do?

Question

i was raped a few moths ago and i found out i am now pregnant. should i keep the baby? i think i would love the baby but idk if i could stand the constant reminder of what happened to me.

Answer 1

I went through the same thing when I was 16 years old. My son just turned 6 and I love him to death. I had to go through a 12 step rape program and was told that I would have to do it either way. I dealt with it for along time but I wouldn't trade him for anything in the world. From the moment I saw him on the ultrasound screen I loved him. And when I held him in my arms I loved him even more. I just don't and won't ever tell him what his father did to me.
He looks just like me. And he is precious!

When I see my son all I see is MY SON and no one else.

Think about it! The child is a piece of you as well but if you decide to give the baby up than that is your choice. I just wouldn't recommend an abortion or anything because you got raped. Most women do that and I think it is ridiculous. Your child has nothing to do with that man just the fact that he/she came from him.

About what illmatic1993 said. Your baby won't find out about what happened if you don't allow it. Your child won't become a criminal just because his father was! That is ridiculous! Your child will reflect on how you raise your child.

One more thing. If you had an abortion and you know that child is alive in you what would make you think that you wouldn't have that greif on your mind? My mother aborted my two siblings and she is still dealing with it. Just thought I would let you know, rape is a hard thing to go through and sometimes horrible situations can make us act quickly and not think about the after effects.

Hope everything goes good and I'm sorry that happened to you.

Answer 2

I wish you could talk to and meet my best friend and her beautiful little boy... Her first sexual experience was a rape which resulted in her little boy.. This is a decision only you can make there is a book I strongly recommend that you read before you make a decision..it is a fictional story it changed my life ..but it relates to what you are going through.. It is called The Attonment Child by Francine Rivers...you can find it at Barnes and Noble..it is a Christian fiction book..The womans story is exactly what you are going through..she has people telling her all different opinions and ideas...All I will say is it changed the way I look at a lot of things it will hopefully bring you the same encouragement it brought me and many others..

My thoughts and Prayers are with you.. I am so sorry for what someone did to you my heart just aches for what some vile man did to you...If you were here I would give you a hug.

Answer 3

I believe that rape is a pretty much universal problem. Sure, there are some isolated societies where the issue is not as pressing, but you really have to search for them. I also would point out that your criteria for a rape free society is very difficult to achieve. It's human nature, sorry to say, that when there is no danger from predatory animals, humans fill that niche for themselves. Humans also have a propensity for tinkering with their own food supply...many a despot has found that starving the masses, and using the savings for weapons is an effective means of control. Humans also rarely share power and control, they take what they can get...and try to get more. If you look at it, changing human nature is about the only way to accomplish a change in the rape rates.

Answer 4

I would keep the baby. Once the baby gets their and you hold him/her in your arms you will forget how she/he got there and just be happy he/she is there. I've been raped and even though I didn't get pregnant from it I still have the constant reminder of it, and whenever I'm around a guy I can't fully trust him. So weather you keep the baby or not the reminder will still be there. That is sad to say and I'm sure something you don't want to hear but that is how its been for me. I'm sorry it happened to you but soon you will have a beautiful baby that you will love no matter what.

good luck with your choice

Answer 5

There have been many good people who have made a difference in this world who were a product of rape. Look it up on Google. Weather you raise this baby, or you give it as the most wonderful gift you could give to someone else you hand pick, just give him or her a chance. I believe every person comes into being for a purpose, and they deserve a to experience life, good and bad, like everyone else.
As far as the child reminding you of what happened, I don't know. But I DO know I love my children so much, I couldn't imagine hating them or blaming them for anything like that. You'll love them so much you won't care how they got here, and you'll look at that precious child and ask yourself "how did I ever live without him?"

Answer 6

Either keep it or put it up for adoption. If God allowed the rape to cause a baby, then He has a plan for that baby. It's not up to you to decide on it's life or death. God doesn't make mistakes. I understand you not wanting the constant reminder, but if you still feel that way after you have it, I would put him/her up for adoption. Chances are though, that by the time the baby is born you will already be attached to it and it will only remind you of the experience every once in a while.

Answer 7

Personally if I was raped and got pregnant I'd keep my child. I couldn't kill the baby b/c it's also a part of me. Yes you will never get over the rape or forget how your child was concieved, but I'd still love my child unconditionally. I am so sorry you were raped and I hope you have someone to help you out dealing w/ this situation. It should be your choice to make. Even if you have an abortion, it will not make you forgot what happened to you. This is your decision to make and something you have to think really hard about. Their is always adoption if you feel that you are unable to raise this child. There are alot of couples who can not have children but would love to adopt. I dont want to tell you what to do b/c it's your choice and your body. I'm only saying if it happened to me, this is what I'd choose to do.

Answer 8

Hey y'all, I'm not trying to be rude....

Wait a sec... your other question says that your bf is 18... soooo are you referring to statuatory rape? Sounds like you "love him" and didn't fight him. Also you said that you are due in a few weeks, now you say you may have conceived a few months ago... stop trolling and please make up your mind. Just because you're anonymous doesn't mean people won't know there are inconsistencies in your "life."

If you really are pregnant as you stated in this question, my original answer still stands (and my heart goes out to you):

There is an awesome story about a girl who was conceived from a rape when her mom was just 16. She is now a dynamic speaker, and reaches out to teens nationwide. You can read it on http://www.pamstenzel.com/pamsbio.asp.

Overcome evil with good... give your baby a chance to be loved, whether by you or into parents eager to adopt.

Please find someone nearby that you can trust to help you through.

Answer 9

I don't know you, or your heart, and this may sound like preaching, but....after suffering the indignity of rape, I think the worst thing you could do would be to terminate this pregnancy. Two wrongs don't make a right. I agree with some of the others who have answered that adoption is a viable option to abortion. I will also tell you that I am a man who is appalled that such things happen to women these days. I have no sympathy for the offending "male" who perpetrated this terrible crime against you and I hope he gets his comeuppance. But to end the life of an innocent child would be a crime in itself when many willing parents would gladly adopt. May God bless you.

Answer 10

What are your circumstances?
Is the baby biracial?
I so admire you for having this baby. What a gutsy person you are!

I think you would forget about the rape part once you had the baby and got used to him/her, especially if he/she looks like you. Now if the baby resembles the father, that might be different, then again it might not matter to you. Whatever you do, though, do it right away after the baby is born, before the baby gets used to you.

You sound brave and sensible. You will make the best decision for both of you. Another family would love to have this baby if you feel it's best to let go.