Can you LAUGH your HEART out though it's BREAKING into PIECES?

Question

Can you smile genuinely though you are grieving?

Answer 1

Laughter is just a reaction to the body going into overload emotionally. I have personally seen people laugh at funerals, and I have seen a loved one smile as they were leaving their family for an extended period of time. Sometimes we hide our emotions (at least we hope) to ease the suffering of the ones we love. Sometimes we temporarily (or even permanently) lose control of our own emotions and exhibit erratic or misleading behavior. This is why it is so important to be tolerant of others when they are going through similar times of crisis. Next time. it may be us!

Answer 2

It's really awesome how one can do that. & I think the reason that no one ever sees the "grieving" is because the smile, or laugh IS genuine. It's tapping the good energy needed for the other, & for myself. Some people think this is very insensitive, but on the contrary, it's just the opposite.

Edit: Great answer from CRA--I idenitfy with every word of it. I've been in "that place" so many times. Also, good onya, shahbarack.

Answer 3

yes we can put up a facade, laugh away but not genuinely
we exist only in a world of our own knowing we are faking happiness, and the only thing in the world that could make up totally complete we cant have so the pieces of the heart never come together again they are lost forever wondering like an uncalm spirit, no direction, no meaning because we will always be afraid to let it break into a trillion pieces again
just cant stand the agony of it , the funny thing is we do this once , and say we will never again , but one day it happens unexpectly and we believe for the 1st time again this is it but boom here come the trillion pieces , so we merely exist lifeless no the pieces cant be put together again unless the two hearts become one again

Answer 4

It's definitely possible....at least for me.

When life just, well, seems terrible, humour helps get me through it. When I'm going through something that is just utterly depressing, no end in sight, I find that I reach a point where I can not get any sadder (if that's a word).....and, I end up laughing my heart out! I'm not sure whether I'm just a big weirdo or not, but this happens to me.

I also make jokes and laugh when I'm really scared or feeling vulnerable. And, I believe it's genuine. I don't believe I'm trying to cover up or fake my way through the fear or vulnerability. It just comes naturally, as if a separate part of me is pushing the sad (or scared/vulnerable) part of me out of the way, trying to comfort me, and help me see things from a new perspective.

When I perceive that things just can't get any worse, I just suddenly see the humour in my circumstances and laughter just breaks through...and I usually feel a heck of a lot better afterwards :-).

Answer 5

Yes, you CAN laugh your heart out even though it is breaking to pieces. Nothing is purely one thing or the other. Grief (say grief for a death) is also about celebration of life. It is figuring out how our lives will fit around the void of the loved one who has passed. I cannot look at any death and only cry. I must laugh, sing, celebrate and share what made that person loved to me. I would not be honouring them otherwise.

And then... some laughter is just distraction from feeling. Sometimes we need that, too. I know I do.

Answer 6

Yes!
You can, although humans find hiding their feelings quite difficult. After knowing somebody well, you begin to recognise certain body language. Hints which enlighten you on the persons mood.
Its possible to hide your emotions, but not genuinely. If your smiling, people don't normally question your mood. A smile symbolises happiness, doesn't it? Well, not always - as we learn from your question! However, if you were to look at the people around you and ask yourself 'Are they really happy?' and just watch them - you might come to a different conclusion.
Although your smiles, and your laughs won't be of a genuine nature - It is possible to use them as camouflage in hiding your truly feelings such as sorrow and anger.

Thanks!
Take care, now.

Answer 7

Yes you can! Just like sometimes when you need to get things out of them, people cry 'their heart out'. It is the same with laughing your heart out as we, humans, in times of grief try to find shelter from our grief. We try to elude from it as far as possible and the only way out that we spot is to engross ourselves in an emotion. We can't fight sorrow; so we either cry it out or in some cases laugh it out even though you are in grief. You can smile over your grief by reminding yourself what the good times you saw in the past even though it won't be the same in the future! It is hard to take grief with a genuine smile but believe it or not, different individuals have different ways of getting over sorrows and some choose to genuinely laugh it out! It does make you feel light and good again!! :-)
Thank you for yet another great question!

Answer 8

Yes, oh, yes, oh, yes you can!
I'm sure you've heard the phrase "laughter is the best medicine." It's really true. In fact, laughter heals us. Truly.

I lost my soul mate 17 months ago. One of his friends knew how hard that would be on me. So the first few weeks he visited me three times a week, always making sure he got me to laugh. He kept visiting for several months, coming a few less times, so I would build my strength. Of course I still miss my man, but I'm so much better, sooner, than if our friend had not done that for me.

So, laugh, laugh, laugh

Here's a silly to get you started -Why did the elephant paint her toenails multi-colored? To hide in the jelly bean jar. Ever seen an elephant in a jelly bean jar? No? Works, doesn't it!? Smile at everyone -it's free, and it gives back more than it takes.

Answer 9

I can.... but just if there is a reason or the need for my smile.... if someone else need to see me as a strong person and needs my help.. I will do my best to smile and give him strengh even do I might be grieving more than him on the inside... sometime it helps to smile to other to help them overcome their insecurity so that at least even though you are grieving you will feel satisfy with yourself because you did what you can to help them... even overcome your own personal grieving...

Hope that helps!

CHRIS

Answer 10

Yes i can laugh and cry my heart out at the same time, even when its breaking into a million seperate pieces...it just has to be the right situation....like when im saying goodbye to a really close friend of mine that i know that i will probably never see again, but then they say something funny, like an insider joke that you´ve had since childhood...something only the 2 of you understand....that would be incredibly funny and so incredibly sad....all at the same time.....