i want to keep my baby but my husband doesnt want the baby :<?

Question

well to start i am 21 years old married for allmost 5 months and i am 19 weeks pregnant and at first my husband said i had to get an abortion i didnt do it then he wanted me to do this adoption i went along with it but i just felt the first kicks and im so scared i dont know how too tell him for us to keep our baby i love him to much and do not want to lose him :< visit my myspace k? http://www.myspace.com/xxkittypissxx

Answer 1

why would he not want the baby? You are married, and are both adults? It doesn't make sense...What he is making you do is so unbelievably wrong and unfair. You have to remember that this is YOUR decision...if he truly loved you he would not expect you to do this..how can he expect his wife to go through pregnancy, and then labour, and then look into your beautiful baby's eyes when you hold him/her for the first time, and then simply give him/her away..My advice would be to tell him that you plan on keeping this baby, and if he leaves then he was never worth it in the first place..

Answer 2

Aww... that sounds so sad. I'm 19 and I'm one week ahead of you. I'm 20 weeks. I'm not married and my boyfriend and i were so worried at the start but, now he loves this child just as much as I do. Try to involve your hubby. If you can feel it kick with your hand have him place his hand on your belly. Bring home sonogram pics. Do anything possible and if he doesn't want that baby still. Kick his *** to the curb. Thats what I would have done. I hope this all turns out in the best way possible for you! Congrats on your baby! My myspace is myspace.com/jessicaquake if you need anything, I'm on everyday!

Answer 3

Tell your husband to hit the road. He is clearly the selfish one. If you feel you can not do adoption- DON'T DO IT. Your baby is more important than him. Don't listen to the first poster about being "a single mom". Too much emphansis has been put on having two parent households. Yes, they can be better, but clearly this would not be the case. You tell him you are keeping the baby. If he leaves you, he was a piece of S H I T anyway.

Answer 4

listen then, my bf just broke up with me and i am 8 months pregnant. i understand u made a vowel to God..but a man is NOT worth killing ur baby..i just sang my baby a song to get her to sleep, i have never done that..(she was kicking me hard in my belly)--i figure shes sleep. u dont even know what ur having yet most likely. Your baby should mean everything in this world to u, or he/she will. a man will come and go..my gma was married 5 times before she found the love of her life. if u destroy ur baby now, i highly doubt God would like that! i think he would understand ur man didnt wanna stay by u with a baby or is not ready, but i dont think he would u having ur baby zapped out of place...he put that baby there for a reason! and u will learn he did someday.u may not be attached to ur baby too much at 19 wks but i guarantee u will when ur holding him in ur arms and crying when hes born!! u wont give a good s*i* about what that man doesnt want. u will care for ur baby more than anything. Good luck !! and Congratulations!!! :) please be smarter than u sound! plz

Answer 5

If you're married, you should be able to talk about ANYTHING, especially something that impacts your future so strongly. I don't know of ANYONE who is married and gave their baby up for adoption, and the only ones who had abortions were because of something wrong with the baby...not saying that it's wrong, just that it's definitely not unusual for you to want to keep your baby. If you love him and want to have a life and a family with him, and he claims to want the same things, I see no reason not to keep your baby. Just explain to him that you love him and want to make a family with him, and like it or not the two of you already got started on baby-making...and you love what you've made together. There is NO reason for you to give away your baby if you don't want to. If you let him push you into it, you will likely build resentment towards him and the relationship will tumble regardless, or you will become depressed at your loss of control and self-esteem. You have to do what you feel is right, and if he is your husband you should be able to talk to him about it and not be abused or left because of it.

Answer 6

"blondecamerawhore" and "Kittypiss" ... hmmm. I sense a troll just trying to increase traffic to her myspace site.

But just in case you're serious...

Let's see. Your loving husband told you to get an abortion. Now he's telling you he wants you to adopt out your child. Is there any discussion there? Any thought for what you want, for your feelings? Honey, your husband is a jerk. I'm sorry you had to find out about it this way. Sounds to me like you've got a choice between this baby and your husband. If you think you'd be able to raise a child on your own (don't hope he'll change), then tell him you're keeping it.

Answer 7

if you are 19 weeks pregnant abortion should not even be an option that is just sick.....i think you and your husband should reevaluate your relationship because it looks to me like you are in two completely different places in your lives and maybe you should have talked about these sort of things before you got married....:( if he really loved you he would be happy about the baby or at least accept it for your sake if you give this baby up for adoption you are only going to resent your husband and it will destroy your marriage anyway....

Answer 8

I think it sounds like you have a controlling husband. You are married and he won't even consider the thought of a baby. I know you love him but if he is really controlling cut your losses now and leave. He will more than likely not help you ever with the baby. I have been married for 11 years and I could never not have my babies. You will probibly have to choose.

Answer 9

Your husband sounds like he is too immature to be married....when you get married you know you are starting a life with somebody...wether a child is planned right away or not...he had sex, he knew the consequences...and its complete crap that he is in any way making you feel like you should not have this baby. I think you need to go to counseling with him....I also think he needs to do some growing up...he sounds very immature. You need to worry about yourself and your baby right now....a man isn't worth it if he is willing to get rid of something as precious as a baby. I think thats just sad. -

Answer 10

It was god's plan to give you a child (no, I'm not going to get all religious on you, don't worry), and I don't see why you shouldn't be a parent if it is in your heart to do so. What you have to decide is whether keeping and raising your child is more important than making your marriage work, or vice versa. Unfortunately, for now, he has put you in the position to choose and that was a terrible, TERRIBLE thing for him to do, especially after making vows to you "for better or for worse" (in this case, "worse" in his mind). I'm so sorry you were put in this position. Good luck to you, and congratulations on bringing as new life into the world.