Your best friend, who lives 1000 miles away, was being abused by their spouse? How would you handle it?
2007-06-18 17:25:28 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
She's already left him but, she insists on staying in the same town instead of coming home to her friends & family.
She may be close to coming home though. I hope!
2007-06-18 17:31:03 · update #1
Yes, the abuse is getting worse. It's more emotional games now though!
2007-06-18 17:33:08 · update #2
Personally I would send my friend a plane ticket and have her come and stay with me where she would be safe.
She would have to be able to leave him without telling him she was doing it or he would make sure she didn't leave at all.
So you would have to arrange it to where he didn't suspect anything and if you think she might just run into a problem leaving then I would take a plane to meet her and bring her back myself.
If he tried anything with me I would tear gas his a$$ and break one of his knee caps and put her in the car and go.
She will need to make sure she takes with her everything that she values dearly and leave everything else behind.
Whatever she leaves she'll never see again.
And if they have a joint checking account then she'll need to take what money she needs out of it at the very last minute before he takes out everything and she can't get to her money.
And have her take him off of her credit cards if she's primary.
He'll want to hurt her any way possible if she gets away from him so hopefully there aren't any children involved or he'll use them to get to her.
I hope she's safe and everything turns out OK for her,but if there are children involved she really needs to get out of there because if they see him hurting her it will traumatize them and scar them for life.
Or he might one day start abusing them too especially the girls.
2007-06-18 17:41:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not trying to insult your friend, but a woman who stays in a relationship where there is abuse is weak and probably made to feel by the jerk, that she actually deserves it. If you are sure and I do mean SURE that there is actual physical abuse, you may want to alert local authorities and/or social services and anonymously report the abuse. In most cases, they are obligated by law not to give names of anonymous reports of possible abuse. Courts and judges these days will not tolerate domestic spousal abuse. As far as being your friend, you may want to strongly encourage her to leave this situation before it gets worse..and it probably will. You might lose some trust in her as your friend temporarily if you go to authorities without/against her wishes , but might save her life in the process (or his), and either way one day she'll look back and thankyou and realize how much of a true friend you were. NO ONE (MALE OR FEMALE) DESERVES TO BE ABUSED!!!!!!!
2007-06-19 00:41:38 · answer #2 · answered by JERRY40 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Download a sherriff looking logo off the web, paste it onto a blank Word document, type a letter that looks all official and mail it to the stupid bast-rd, and in it say something like "the neighbors have reported hearing noises that may sound like abuse. Please note that we will be monitoring the house..." something like that.
Then ask her to come stay with you for a while, and ahead of time ask some wife-battery specialist to stop by and talk to her.
2007-06-19 00:29:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I couldn't afford to go see her I'd be on the phone, emailing and texting her to do something about it. I wouldn't push her to leave if she wasn't ready, it is well documented that this can lead to an escalation of abuse.
I sincerely hope your friend can get through this awful time.
2007-06-19 00:29:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would just try everything I could to make her realize that she needs to get out of there. Let her know that you are there for her and help her to be strong enough to leave. Especially if children are involved. If they are, I recommend calling child protection services.
2007-06-19 00:30:34 · answer #5 · answered by chke17 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly if she told me she was being abused, I would fly to where she was and take her out of the house. She might not like i, but I would talk to her until she understood!!
2007-06-19 00:29:41 · answer #6 · answered by kattsmeow 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Watch "Fried Green Tomatoes" - see how she handles her friend being abused.
2007-06-19 00:28:20 · answer #7 · answered by iluvafrica 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend to get out, tell them to call the police, get a restraining order whatever it takes. But if they won't, there is nothing you can do except pray.
2007-06-19 00:29:00 · answer #8 · answered by Captain Happy Pants 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever seen Fried Green Tomatoes?
2007-06-19 00:28:14 · answer #9 · answered by MISS K.I.A. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call the police there. get on the next flight and be there for my friend.
2007-06-19 00:28:22 · answer #10 · answered by carriec 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋