How come I suck at conversations?

Question

I don't know how to small talk with people. I think I'll probably always be moving around because I never keep relationships with people. I just can't ever think of what to say around certain people I don't really know. I'm the girl that blends in with the wallpaper, but I have so much to say when I'm by myself. I don't like talk to myself, I can be chatty sometimes, but I just don't know anyone that is like me.
I stargazed and smoked gange tonight. I usually get quieter when I smoke though so plaese don't think of me differently just because I have this habit. I will get better with talking though, to new people, I just hate talking about getting drunk, and dumb gossip. I mean there are a few exceptions though, I have a couple close friends, but no one calls me..
Maybe I just need to make new friends. Join the Peace Corps and leave my small town, NY family and "friends" and travel the world. I just need to meet a nice boy that will go with me.

Does anyone else feel like this sometim

Answer 1

I was terrible at small talk until I got hired as a cashier at a grocery store. Since you can only talk to people for five or ten minutes at a time, it seemed like a perfect laboratory for learning the art of the mindless conversation. I'm not great at it, but I can talk to anybody about any damn fool thing now.

My mother used to tell me that the secret to conversation is getting the other person to talk about him or herself. That works, sometimes.

Answer 2

Your problem may be that you have a hard time talking about things unless its specific..

For example when someone ask me how was my weekend, Im apt to just say "good". I come off a little weird but to be honest nothing comes to my head that quick. If im asked something like what are the greatest movies of all time. I can talk for hours b/c the subject is specifically about something.

Anyway I have this problem and from what I understand its genetic so unfortunatly you're screwed. The best thing to do is be a good listener, which is likley your strength. People wont know the difference.