My 16 year old daughter, Deandra, has a VERY (I'm not going to lie) unattractive nose. I am quiet fair colored, hair and skin and am quite attractive. My husband on the other hand, is a great guy, just not much of a looker. My daughter pretty much is average looking, she just has a very unattrative nose. She has been begging for a nose job. She has been taunted about it befre, and I would really like to give her one. At the same time, i want to teach her good morals and that "Looks aren't everything". However, she is an amazing girl, and I am torn. What do you think?
2007-06-18 17:02:04 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Before I read more than the title...my response was hell no. But if you really want to get her the nose job, by all means do it. Just make sure you do your research first.
You don't want her to come out worse than she was.
And please forgive me, but you're making think of an episode on Frasier...when Roz was having a baby and she met the father's parents. They had big noses...and that's whats in my head right now.
Get her the nose job.
2007-06-18 17:08:57 · answer #1 · answered by J Booty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she can (and should) wait until she is at least 18. If she decides at that time that it's something she still wants to do for herself (not for you, and not for her peers) then she could proceed at that time, when she is a little more mature.
Although I can appreciate brutal honesty most of the time, I think your attitude towards your daughter's appearance is all wrong (especially with the whole "VERY unattractive" part). As I'm sure you know, kids at that age are very sensitive and have a hard enough time with self-esteem without having mom contribute to the problem.
One other note - kids are just plain mean to each other. I am 27 now and still remember being picked on for my red hair and fair skin. Kids will taunt and make fun of other kids for ANYTHING and EVERYTHING. They will say anything if they think it will hurt their feelings, because that means they've "won". It took me well into my college years to actually start to realize that my red hair is awesome, not ugly and not something to be ashamed of. I can only hope you will help your daughter make it through these rough years so she can come out on the other side, a strong, confident, beautiful young lady.
One more thing - the fact that you said that you are "quite attractive" and your daughter is "pretty much average looking" is even more disturbing. Even if you don't tell her to her face that this is what you think of her appearance, she's not an idiot and is going to pick up on this. Just keep that in mind, please.
2007-06-19 00:18:52 · answer #2 · answered by Lauren C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, everyone is saying "NO" but do they have or have they had a nose that got made fun of? I doubt it! Getting made fun of is NOT fun at all...poor girl is probably hurting deep inside from all the taunting and teasing. I say, let her do it BUT find a good(and I mean really look hard for a good one)plastic surgeon whom you trust and know will take good care of your daughter. Don't just let some idiot cut up her nose and make it worse. Make sure she knows the entire healing process and maybe do it during summer vacation so she doesn't have to show up to school all bandaged up. Good luck with whatever you choose...
2007-06-19 00:10:24 · answer #3 · answered by Isabella's Mommy Expecting #2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's still growing, so no. She'll just have problems in a few years. My nephew broke his nose when he was 12. He had a surgery then, because my sister didn't like the crooked nose, (it wasn't that bad), but now he has to go in for surgery every year until he finishes growing. By the time he is done, he will have had 10 to 12 surgeries. Even though it's hard to let your child suffer, save her a lot of trouble and pain in the future by waiting.
2007-06-19 00:10:08 · answer #4 · answered by JustDucky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can get surgery before age 16, as everything is still growing until then. I think that if her nose really bothers her, and you agree to pay for it, there's no reason she can't get it fixed. I had a good friend in grade school and high school, a tiny girl, about 4'8", but a huge honker that came out and bent straight down. She had it straighened, and her deviated septum fixed at the same time. She looked AND sounded better. Sometimes you just need to improve on nature.
2007-06-19 00:08:20 · answer #5 · answered by kitten lover3 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know i was gonna say no till i read what you posted...she is 16 and if she is being made fun of its only gonna get worse..cause unfortunately we live in a society that judges books by the cover not the pages...talk to a dr...go for a consult and just weigh the options..and tell her this is what you are doing...and really weigh the options...if in the end its what you both decide would be best..then do that..you give her every other opportunity to be the best she can be then this is only a little more of that in a different direction
2007-06-19 00:32:28 · answer #6 · answered by bailie28 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe you should talk to a counselor about it with your daughter. you are right looks arent everything. Make sure she is ready and not expecting too much to change about her life. If her expectations are too high she could be crushed. Also be very careful when chosing a surgeon. Ive seen some bad plastic surgery. Hope it turns out well whatever you decide.
2007-06-19 00:10:22 · answer #7 · answered by violet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until she's around 18. 16 is too young. Make sure, at 18, SHE is the one that really wants it and not you, and along the way both of you read all the information you can find on it. It's much better when you both know the background info and procedure.
2007-06-19 00:13:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until she's at least 18 or 19 years old and be sure she knows exactly how the procedure is done. It takes a long time to heal after something like that. All high school is drama and full of idiots teasing each other. She needs to wait until she's out of that environment.
2007-06-19 00:05:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Rhinoplasty (Nose Job) is a very common form of plastic surgery, this surgery is normally performed on rather young patients. However, it is not normally done before the patient hits their growth spurt (avg. 14 yrs for girls), as the nose needs to have completed its growth. You will also need to see how your daughter feels about the surgery itself, is she ready to go through the procedure, and the recovery stage. By doing some research and talking about this with her, you should both be able to confidently make your decision.
To start your research process refer to this website: http://www.newimage.com/cosmetic-plastic-surgery/face/nose-job-overview.aspx
2007-06-19 08:33:49 · answer #10 · answered by newimageteam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋