oky we have been married for 4 years and i tell u i can count how many times we made love its sad i know but what can i do?
its always something with him how can i fix this befor its to late?
2007-06-18 16:26:11 · 19 answers · asked by atri m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Try talking to him. If you do not tell him what you want then how is he to know? What man would not want to hear that their wife wants them? You can change things by talking to him. However, if he does not want want things to changes then you should see that there is a problem and then decide if you can live with the way things are or if you need to get out. Maybe there is a reason why he the way he is but if you do not talk things out then you will never know.
2007-06-18 16:37:14 · answer #1 · answered by tami j 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jump him, tell him how much you love sex and see what happens. Really though, if you've been married for 4 years and dating for who knows how long before that and you can count the number of times you've had sex, I'd really worry. Did you know about his non-existant sex drive before marriage? If you two 'waited' then it's impossible to have known. That is so sad!
If you did know, why did you marry the man? He's either not at all attracted to you or has some sort of psychological or physical issues. If talking to him, jumping him and having your way with him doesn't work, I suggest a doctor's appointment and maybe some counselling.
2007-06-18 23:35:52 · answer #2 · answered by qwertatious 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey you love to make love to your husband 3-4 times a week and even count how many times you have done so in your four years of marriage. Really bad. Though you have it in you do you mean your hubby is dull as far as love is concerned. The fault may lie either with you or him. Other than loving to love you need to be seductive in the bedroom, employ a lot of foreplay techniques and really make him go mad. Then maybe your dream of love for loving 3-4 times a week come true. If he does not respond to this, then we have a problem, you need to consult a psychologist and a sex specialist for advice and also get them to tell your hubby about your dream/wish. Hope things settle down in your favor very soon. Happy loving!
2007-06-18 23:38:19 · answer #3 · answered by jagannadh p 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There must be a psychological problem on the part of your husband'. You should have known that from the beginning and you should have doubted that there is something wrong with him from the first year of your marriage. Since making love should be one of the things that you are sharing most often together. Calmly talk to him about it, he might need some help from professionals as well.
2007-06-18 23:48:46 · answer #4 · answered by Zhoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
married 4 years, it may be too late to stoke that fire now. The old proverb says that every time you make love the first two years equals the number you'll make love the rest of your married life. I hope for your sake that's not true in your case. Talk to him about fantasies, find out his secret turn-ons and do them! Maybe if you'll make it a more funtime activity you'll both lose count. Good luck. Let us know what you do and how he reacts.
2007-06-18 23:31:09 · answer #5 · answered by David W 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God you sound like me. Unfortunately, I would love to say just tell him. Most men would jump up and down at the chance, but if your husband is anything like mine and you have told him then get out now because I doubt it will change.
2007-06-19 00:13:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that really is sad, ive been with my man for 5 years and i have no clue how many times weve done it.... i can barely count a week. but my man went through this stage where he didnt want any... and i just let him know that i had needs...and i would walk around with sexy stuff on.... within a week i was gettin it whenever i wanted it.... just let him know he should understand
2007-06-18 23:34:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have sex in the morning on the weekend.That way he won't be tired,and when you done he can go back to sleep and be ready for more later in the day.Better yet,wake him up with sex.It's hard to argue that you can't have sex now if you wake up in the middle of getting it on.
2007-06-18 23:33:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I always like spontaneous. For instance, when he comes home from work lie in bed naked and tell him to do what ever he want to you. This will get the blood flowing.
2007-06-18 23:35:20 · answer #9 · answered by lifescircle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to be crude but learn to be proficient at giving BJs. Not all the way, that wont do you any good, but enough to get him aroused. Try it
2007-06-18 23:36:56 · answer #10 · answered by Saint 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋