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Once that part of you is gone, is it possible to get it back again or is this part of you gone forever?

2007-06-18 16:00:09 · 10 answers · asked by getusedtoit 4 in Arts & Humanities Philosophy

10 answers

For 3 and a half years I dated this guy.

Have you ever met someone, and you have a connection that is so intense, it's like the words that are coming out of their mouth, were simply stolen from your head?

We had a bumpy, albeit deep and loving relationship.

He got onto drugs really bad, cheated on me, told me I could do better than him, confessed he still loved me and died in a car accident, all within a 5 month time period.

Every part of me was dead. I didn't even have sexual urges for almost a year and a half, I was so devastated.

Alot of people will say, ofcourse you can get you back. And you can, but it's a different you. I'm happy and content with my life now, but had that incident not of occured, I wouldn't be who I am. In anyway.

It is sad to say, but that little whole in your heart can never be replaced. It just kind of get's filled in with spackle. The pain eventually stops, and the memories fade, but what's left is like emotional scar tissue. Just because it sounds sad, does not mean it isn't true. There some sad facts to life, and happiness is truely a fleeting emotion.

Depending on who you are, and what incidient occured, and how you choose to look at it, you can return as a more understanding and ultimately with a positive outlook. Or you can let it destroy you more than it needed to, and become an over all negative person.

Luckily, I came out quite positive. But that is easier said than done. When it comes to issues of the heart, "if it doesn't kill you, it only makes you stronger" doesn't quite fit. Sometimes you die emotionally.

It's like a phoenix rising from the ashes though. Beautiful in the end. It really can be.

Nice question. Remember, anything is possible. Never, ever give up. If nothing else, live for the fight. Life really is good.

2007-06-18 16:18:03 · answer #1 · answered by Bored 2 · 0 0

I think that it is gone forever, it has become tainted, or gangrenous. But the truth is that we should then fill that space with something positive. How one does that? I don't know, I am still working on it. Here is my situation:

Well, it is a cumulative of situations. Starting with the dishonesty from my husband in our marriage. A bitter separation, a short-lived reconciliation with more lies about trying marital counseling, his leaving me while pregnant, and then being handed divorce papers during my high-risk pregnancy. I cried every single day. Tears that no one should ever cry, from deep within my soul I wept. I am still trying to cope. I seem to have lost myself. Every day I try to cope. To me, that type of abandonment is one of the worst pains. I feel that this empty space may remain there forever.

2007-06-18 19:27:46 · answer #2 · answered by alimon72 3 · 0 0

I felt this way after being sexually abused by my ex. Over time though, i have healed. I have become a new invention of myself, a better one than i was, in my opinion. I have tried to draw closer to the Lord, and that has helped tremendously. I know i can never go back to that age of innocense prior to the abuse. But I can count my blessings, and focus on the good things in my life.

2007-06-18 16:05:07 · answer #3 · answered by pocketful_of_sunshine 4 · 0 0

Hurt is magnified with the number of times we think about the hurtful action or event.

You can also ask, what part of you hurts. It is likely your "pride", your "ego", your "feelings". Letting go of the ego reduces hurt in any number of situations.

So, no. I have never hurt that badly inside. Physically hurt outside is another matter entirely.

2007-06-18 16:05:10 · answer #4 · answered by guru 7 · 0 0

Yes, when my parents, and other loved ones passed away. It is very hurtful to you,and takes a lot of time to learn to accept it.

2007-06-18 16:05:31 · answer #5 · answered by Lady 5 · 0 0

Yes I have. I don't know if you can ever get it back, still working on that.

2007-06-18 16:02:53 · answer #6 · answered by Judy W 4 · 0 0

i've got been with somebody that i've got faith is my soulmate. we're not to any extent further mutually however as a results of fact we are at 2 distinctive places in existence perfect now and its particularly heartbreaking as a results of fact all we could like is to be with eachother yet we cant. so we would desire to continuously bypass our separate methods and attempt to stay our lives as commonly as we are in a position to. i could desire to be with this individual for something of my existence in spite of the incontrovertible fact that it cant take place perfect now. so its kinda like I would desire to "pass on." i do sense like i lost my soulmate esp as a results of fact it quite is going to be 2 years til we meet returned. yet you will desire to bypass on and stay existence. and you cant bypass finding for somebody to be with reason you will never discover them. i additionally dont desire to get harm returned. the suited is to start loving your self and loving existence. attempt to ignore with regard to the unhappiness and finally each thing would be good in existence returned. perhaps you will even discover your soulmate returned. yet you will never understand till you initiate residing returned.

2016-09-28 01:49:34 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

Yes, i'm still healing from it. Don't know if i'll ever get it back!

2007-06-18 16:13:36 · answer #8 · answered by ~Twisted Sister~ 4 · 0 0

yes....and then I built the barrier higher and shrunk behind it further in hopes that not more would be ripped away.

2007-06-18 16:08:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

IT'S THE QUESTION I ALWAYS ASK MYSELF.

SORROW,AND PAIN,SURROUNDING ME
BUT I CAN NOT LET MYSELF DOWN
I WANT FIND MYSELF BACK
WHERE I FELL ONCE, WHERE I WILL STAND.
BY LOVE ,BY STRIKING,BY HEART

2007-06-18 20:39:55 · answer #10 · answered by Eric 1 · 0 0

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