This is such a close question for me. I'm that guy right now and he's not lying, he does love you with all his heart, but he's looking for some "sign" that makes it obvious that he's ready to devote his life to one person. What I'm hoping for is something that just goes off in my head and says it's right. it's been 6 months for me...and I'm realizing that, every day, I want to be back with her, but it's taken so long now that I'm not sure she even cares about me anymore...if she's not just so mad and hurt by the fact it's taken this long that she would even look in my direction again. If you really want him back, no matter how long it takes, if you still want him back after all that, you have to let him know that you are still there. I'm faced right now with the fact that I'm so embarasses that I felt like such a coward simply because I wanted to make sure I get married RIGHT (guys that really respect marriage don't EVER want to fail at it) that I don't even know if I can show my face to go back even though I love her more than anything.
Does your boyfriend seem to do well at everything he does? Are his parents/family successful? If so, like me, he has it ingrained in his head that you simply DO NOT FAIL! But marriage is the biggest risk in the world, because 1.) the odds are bad (50% divorce rate), and 2.) despite everything you do and how hard you work at it, if the OTHER person doesn't play fair, then you failed...and sometimes as boys of successful people, we are TERRIFIED of that.
Good luck and be patient.
2007-06-18 14:51:52
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answered by rlfesty 3
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at 24 he is smart to question marriage. Need to make sure you both want the same future and can afford, set goals for the plans. Each guy is different. When my bf was 24 he said he would never ever get married, now 4 years later he jokes about when we are married. He's still not ready to propose it will probably take a few extra years for that, but Im comfortable knowing he loves me and only me, and no one else but me.... lol
2007-06-18 21:46:57
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answered by KAZ 4
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I've got to go along with the others on here. I was engaged for more than 5 years...and it didn't work. I knew my wife for 3 months before we got married...and it lasted over 15 years.
Now I'm with a beautiful lady...but we're both taking it very slow.
Marriage is something that you BOTH have to want...Once you both realize that you would rather be together forever than appart....then you'll know when you're ready...and it will be an easy descision.
2007-06-18 22:07:38
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answered by MACHNGUN 3
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It is different for every man and for every woman. My boyfriend is 40 and we have been together for 3 and a half years but he's still not ready. So your boyfriend's age is not the only factor. You just have to decide how long you are willing to wait on this man. For me personally I will wait for a little longer and then I am moving on. I already told him so he won't be shocked. You should let your boyfriend know that you understand that he needs more time and that you support him on that, but if you are only willing to wait another year then you need to let him know now, so he won't be shocked when you let him know that you are moving on.
2007-06-18 21:49:31
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answered by ♥itsme♥ 5
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I think he is cheating.. To just move out,, to figure what out..? And I would never marry a man under the age of 30,, because they don't know what the hells going on in their 20's.
2007-06-18 21:47:41
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answered by shawna 3
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It didn't take me long. My wife proposed to me after 5 weeks of dating. We were married the next day. That was 41 yrs ago. I know, we were crazy, but we just knew. Had NO doubts.,
2007-06-18 22:34:07
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answered by old beatnik 6
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Guys are ilprepared when it comes to relationships. Maybe you are talking about it too much or he feels like you want to force him into it. It leaves him feeling stifled... like u r trying to control his life. Give him some space and dint mention the wedding for a while. Give him the chance to want to get married. it better off that way. You aint got nothing to lose.
2007-06-18 21:48:31
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answered by Javon 2
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My x said that and after 5 yrs,,,, he was still trying to figure himself out. Finally he found another girl that I guess helped him figure himself out.. Hes married now to her......
2007-06-18 21:45:08
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answered by jms62394 4
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I don't know but it sounds like he just wants to have some fun before he gets married.
2007-06-18 21:45:29
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answered by Anonymous
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It is going to take a while. Ask him if he is ready for marriage when he is willing to give up his own wants for what the other person needs. Regardless.
2007-06-18 21:46:47
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answered by Anonymous
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