well ummm.... i was attracted to girls at first but until i found out that you had to chose i mean w/e so i was sitting at the park one day im 13 by the way and some guy came up to me and was like hey and being the kind person i am i was like hey anyway we became friends months later my mother and his decided to celebrate our birthdays together at our pool after a while we got tired and went inside and our friends followed we made a lil' fort out of his tee-pee that he brought over we were bored and our boredome somehow escaleded in some kissing and w/e his friend and older brother 14 was came to see where we had gone to find us inside a tent makin' out his friends brother decided to join and so did his lil' brother now you can imagine how it got out of hand. Anyway one day i spent the night at his house and i had wanted for us to you "know" but he said that he didn't realy want to do that stuff anymore and that it was what you would do if you were gay. But i asked myselfe am i GAY!??!
2007-06-18 14:05:42 · 18 answers · asked by Lil olD mE 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i've tried to make something like that happen w/other friends to find out if i am realy gay because until that day i had no idea you had to "chose" but i hate living w/ the fact that i don't know my true identity in that case. Since then i hace gone out w/girls but always find myself straying away from my male friends and being bymyself so i don't make it obviouse if i am GAY or not!?!?!? and i realy just want to clear this up before my childhood is over and i have no friends cus i never made any so plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz help me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-06-18 14:09:19 · update #1
well actually try to relate here i mean im 12 turning 13 in 3-days and i mean i'd realy like to know who i like like and well it just well i can't explain i wish noone ever told me you had to chose and i know im not bi cus i definitley don't believe in that i mean i just believe in being w/one type of person!??! I also hate when people you the GAY as an insult like that's GAY and i found my friend say that same word just yesterday and it worries me that i will never live the same life if i chose to be a certain way i've never told anyone about my ?'s not even my parents so plz try your hardest!
2007-06-18 14:25:39 · update #2
well i guess it sounds like you could be. only you know. if youd prefer to be with a man in that way, than your gay. nothing wrong with it though.
2007-06-18 14:14:55 · answer #1 · answered by amanda c 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
instead of trying to decide your sexual orientation, why not spend your time making friends, having fun with your friends and letting relationships just happen as they happen. That way you might get to date a few gals and a few guys and you will just naturally find out which you prefer and then be able to proceed to marry the person of your choice rather than locking yourself into one side or the other. I'm not saying you are too young to know, merely saying that you can take yoru time to figure it all out as you go through puberty, high school, etc. There's no rush at al here since you probably won;t be ready to marry anypone and settle down for at least a couple or three years.
2007-06-21 17:41:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same as Mythic Dawn.
I am so jealous. Oh well, I'll get over it.
Anyway, about your problem. You don't have to choose one or the other.
You'll know what you are soon enough. Don't rush yourself.
You never want to make the decision too early bacause there is always a chance that you won't feel the same later on in your lifetime.
Good luck!
2007-06-18 21:34:01 · answer #3 · answered by dannyboy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to chose anything, honey. If you are attracted to girls, that's fine. If you are attracted to guys, that's fine. If you are attracted to both, that's fine. If you aren't sure, and want to do some more experimenting, that's fine.
If you find yourself only wanting to be with other guys, then yes, you are probably gay.
If you want both, you are bisexual.
You are young, you don't need to worry about this right now. Don't let it stress you out.
If you ever need someone to talk to, or if you have more questions, email me - jmc337 at yahoo.com
2007-06-18 21:27:29 · answer #4 · answered by Jeannie C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are who you are. Believe in yourself. Enjoy what you enjoy -- and don't worry about the other questions. Everything will work out.
Having gay sex doesn't make you gay. One is an act, the other is your nature. If you are attracted to girls and prefer to have sex with them, then having sex with boys won't change that. If you prefer to have sex with boys, then having sex with girls won't change that either.
So, if you are gay you are gay, and if you are straight you are straight. As you get older it will become easy to tell what you prefer - but don't sweat it, just be whatever you are. You are wonderful no matter what.
Believe in yourself!!!
Kind thoughts,
Reyn
believeinyou24@yahoo.com
2007-06-18 21:58:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been gay my whole life. I didn't come out until 17 but I experimented and dated some girls to make sure...the internet pics of guys made me know I liked em.
Even before I was sexually active I had always felt an affection I couldn't explain towards my male friends. For instance I would secretly lay against them to make me feel safe when sleeping. Only God knows why I am this way but it doesn't matter because we deserve to be accepted either way.
Don't let the thought of what other people think get in the way.
There is only one girl in the world I would want to be with and right now she's in a relationship with someone else...I had so much time to ask her to marry me, many years, but because I needed to experience being gay to sort things out and not make the wrong decision (such as what some guys have done marrying a women then later in life at around 40 divorcing because they were never happy and were lying to themselves and others the whole time). Don't be like that. Others will always not understand. But I tell you...Even my conservative christian parents eventually warmed up to that I was gay after asking them to love me regardless and just treat my boyfriends nicely and if I decided to be with a man for life then I have asked them to join in the covenant ceremony.
I don't know if I'm supposed to be with a guy since I've had a LOT of failed relationships, way too many for a 22 year old to have had. And my heart is soul connected to this women I've been best friends with for 5 years but is out of reach at the moment.
Really what it comes down to after me going through all of this is that love is love. It doesn't matter what label you give yourself, that is just what people have made of it. You don't have to call yourself gay or straight just "be" who you are. If you happen to come across someone you love and want to be with regardless of their gender then go for it! You will have much more happiness in your life if you just let your heart be your guide to find your partner! Just because you like sex with one gender or another doesn't make you gay or straight, you could like sex with men but want to be in a serious and also sexual relationship with a women, or vice versa...
Being gay is more complicated than people realize. There are the gays that are really only sexually attracted, there are those that just have a loving feeling when there is touch and affection, cherishing and less sexual intimacy and friendship, and there are those that like both just as in a straight relationship, maybe even considering raising children.
It really doesn't matter what you choose. But I would recommend trying to find someone you truly want to be with for life. Of coarse there will be hardships on the way, but it takes hurt to ultimately get to the place we will be most happy at sometimes. Don't let anyone impose on you and stop you from loving someone.
That said, don't worry about labels, be what you are, love who you love.
~Matt~
2007-06-18 21:44:23 · answer #6 · answered by ZephyrZ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 13 you have YEARS in front of you to work out which way you lean. First priority is to just be happy with yourself.
Hetero / gay / bi? Who cares so long as YOU are happy.
2007-06-25 18:39:54 · answer #7 · answered by Subic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At a young age experimentation with the same sex is normal. Doesn't mean you or your friend are gay. However it doesn't mean you aren't either. Don't worry about it. You will figure it out.
2007-06-23 01:11:29 · answer #8 · answered by wellnotright 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to label yourself as of yet, you are still very young. Expermiting at your age is normal. In time you will figure out which sex you like more. Just have fun and be safe!!
2007-06-23 22:47:11 · answer #9 · answered by ziggy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sexuality is not a choice - its who you are. Kinda like your height, you don't really have a choice. The only thing you can choose is whether or not you will embrace who you are or be miserable trying to hide it.
2007-06-25 20:24:33 · answer #10 · answered by Boxer_gal25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋