I know most people will think i am full of it. I love sex (yeah, baby!) but i HATE men relationship wise. But as far as becoming a lesbian i really cannot see myself doing that either from a sexual standpoint. I find it so hard to believe that men and women have been put on this planet to coexist. Yes i am married and yes he is a complete loser. All of my friends are married or getting divorced and all of their spouses are losers. Cheating, conniving, lying, bass tards. Many of them abusive either physically or mentally (verbally)or both. And yes i know "not all men are like that...blah, blah, blah" well then who? Show me a man that loves his wife and devotes himself to his family as a partner with his wife instead of a drain emotionally! I have a friend who told my daughter, "not all men are bad just look at my husband" Two years later they are now divorced because he is a cheating @@!!!@*&. Can anyone help me get my faith back in men?
2007-06-18 14:01:23 · 7 answers · asked by effie r 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I didn't make fun of any particular type of man. you are putting words in my mouth. My friends were not chosen after my marriage in order to keep people around me who are in the same situation, these are school friends who encompass all levels of economic and social standing. and the one who has recently found herself divorced from her cheating and emotionally abusive spouse, he graduated from a respected four year college, and worked for a nationally recognized company making almost a six figure income. He considers himself a Christian and is a Freemason so not all churchgoing men are great either. Here is another question, why am i the one who needs counseling because of what men do?
2007-06-18 14:32:59 · update #1
Ha ha ha about the d battery operated device, just isnt the same is it lol.
2007-06-18 14:48:12 · update #2
Unfortunately, the only way to get your faith back is to deal with "the enemy" (Men) again.
I'll skip the "not all men are pricks" bit - as you have already mentioned those points...
Perhaps you need to see things from a different perspective - where guys AREN'T hitting on you left and right... Do you have any gay male friends? Try hanging out with one/some of them - they won't be a "threat" to you, and might be able to give you "inside information" on how men really think...
Best of all - no matter how much of a prick your husband is, he shouldn't worry about you hanging out with your "new friends" ;)
2007-06-18 14:14:36 · answer #1 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of assholes out there, arent there? I totally agree. But i have found that the nicest guys, which do exist by the way, can only be found in the weirdest ways. First of all, dont meet someone at a bar. Check out places like the beach, nice restaurants, stores. Dont try to hard to find someone, let them find you. Don't worry. Oh and if that doesnt work, look for a guy who is bi, yeah it may seem a little weird to you, but they are really fun, and very open about their feelings.
2007-06-20 05:08:15 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to lose that chip on your shoulder or you are going to be alone for the rest of your life. It takes two different people to cheat, so that as a reason to only hate men is sad. Women can be just as abusive as men and sometimes worse. My brother had his ex-wife throw a knife at his head and barely missed him. Your anger needs to be worked out with a counselor or you are going to hurt alot of people needlessly. Your personality also can cause negative things to happen if that is all your going to be. Seek professional help.
2007-06-18 14:07:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your post sounds very angry indeed....Sorry to hear you are feeling so bad...!
I'd also ask you to consider going to therapy or counseling, because anger and rage can be helpful in times of crisis, but if you hold on to them for too long they are like poison, and they will destroy you from within.
Perhaps a good therapist could help you deal with your feelings of hurt and disbelief in good men...We all have issues from our past, and we all deal with them- some do it in a constructive way; most self-destruct. This is why there are so many people hooked on different things: liquor, drugs, food, sex, porn, cigarrettes....you name it. We all find things that will temporarily block our pain so we can survive....But it is not the right way to go.
The right way is to decide to get help and to work at getting and feeling healthier and happier. If you are healed, you will no longer feel the anger and rage you feel now.
Good luck...I hope you decide to work on yourself so you can feel more at peace.
2007-06-18 14:41:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is unnatural for a woman to hate men.
This is a common chain of destruction that you have described though.
You ignored the warning signs and married a male, not a man. Then you probably had some kids thinking it would make you happy. Then you tried to turn your man into a piece of clay you could mold-but it didn't work. And, you carried on friendships with others who were in a worse predicament than you to make you feel better.
Anyway, real men do exist. They are the guys you made fun of. You called them religious nuts, right wing wackos, nerds, and gun toting animal killers.
Real men can't dance, are big and strong, shoot guns, and go to church. They play and watch sports. Usually their parents are still together and they watch out for their siblings. They eat meat. They don't drink often---but when they do, it is beer. They enjoy hanging out with their families and have never "not had a job."
2007-06-18 14:18:16 · answer #5 · answered by Mark M 3 · 0⤊ 6⤋
Effie what you are saying is true.
I hear it all the time.
A Good man is for and in between.
They are out there though somewhere...
2007-06-18 14:10:28 · answer #6 · answered by Mustbe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you find something that used D batteries and have a great life
2007-06-18 14:20:34 · answer #7 · answered by eddie9551 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋