2 days ago we talked and then he told me that he was a drugdealer and i told him along time ago that i dnt like drugdealers and hes just now telling me that hes a drugdealer. I asked him y he didnt tell me sooner and i wouldnt b as mad as i am. he told me he was scared to cause he dint want to ruin r realationship between us. I dnt want to break up wit him ai want to help him but i dnt know how i'm very lost and i dnt know what 2 do. If eny1 reads this can u help me cause i dnt know what ot do wit him and i been upset for a few days now and i dnt want to talk to him cause im afraid that he may b hiding sumthing els from me that i dnt know bout. HELP!!! PLZZZZ!!!!
2007-06-18 13:58:47 · 13 answers · asked by Sasso's Babygirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
There are several problems here. First, he lied to you. A relationship cannot grow and flourish with lies involved no matter what the reason. The trust is just not there for a lasting relationship. If you want to give him another chance but that is up to you. It is possible that you are a strong enough influence on him to make him give up being a dealer/user.
Him being a dealer also can cause several problems to you. Sooner or later he will get caught and he might take you down with him. Or use you to make delivers/pickups with you even being aware of it. Should you get caught this way he goes free and you suffer the punishment.
Almost as bad, he could get you hooked on drugs and force you into doing things that you do want to do such as prostitution. On the smaller scale he could get you high and force himself on you (if he has not done so yet).
The decision is yours but I would say so long until you can prove you are clean.
2007-06-19 08:17:01 · answer #1 · answered by scotishbob 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really hard once your trust is broken from a person. I guarantee you that he's that honest to specially he's involve in drugs even as dealer only. You should be careful and scared also for having a bf like that a drug dealer. Did you know him that well ? Do you think sooner or later he he'll not only be a dealer maybe he might use it too sooner or later it really depends on him if he's weak enough to use drugs also. Just try him on other instances and observe if he's lying to or not. If he's lying most likely he can do it over and over again to you it might just ruin your relationship. When that time comes your should think if he's worthy to be your bf.
2007-06-18 14:16:14 · answer #2 · answered by ☺ĦЄŖ§ĦЄ¥☺ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well here's a story:
A person that I am acquainted with sells drugs (he has for a long time). He got involved with a girl a while ago (not sure how long). He was recently caught and now guess who's going to prison? You got it! BOTH of them.
If you'd like to spend your days crying over a guy who ended up in prison, crying because you ARE in prison, crying because he got killed in a drug argument etc. then stay with this guy. If not then get out now and don't look back.
If you do choose to stay with him then be informed. I know that our state has MINIMUM REQUIREMENTS (mandatory minimum sentencing for drug offenders).. it starts at five years. I suggest you learn to knit or crochet because five years is a long time to wait for someone.
and by the way.. anyone who says they "won't get caught" is a fool. The guy I mentioned said the same thing.
2007-06-18 14:05:08 · answer #3 · answered by mosaic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, the fact that he lied to you is enough reason for you to end the relationship. You have every right to be mad.He said he didnt want to ruin the relationship, but he allowed you to believe that he was someone he wasnt, he obviously didnt care that much for you. Secondly, drug dealers... and drugs are dangerous! What if he gets caught with drugs in your house? What if he brings dangerous people around you? The fact is that this is who he is... either accept it or move on. I advise you to move on and find someone who is honest and not involved with drugs. You deserve so much better. Good luck!
2007-06-18 14:09:02 · answer #4 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i know that you don't want to break - up with or anything but honey you need to I'm sorry but it's what you got to do and you will be better off in the long run. But whatever choice you make isn't really up to me, it's up to you. Good Luck !!!!!
2007-06-18 14:08:48 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
an identical good element occurred to me in my final relationship..i continually asked my gf to hold with me and she or he continually had something happening and it stored happening each and every weekend...and the final time i asked she suggested she already made plans with acquaintances and then we began to argue because of the fact i did not like that she never made time for us...and then she broke up with me...which made no experience yet she became loopy to be effortless lol yet anyhow what i'm attempting to declare is i be attentive to the form you experience...and you do have a top to be mad because of the fact he could be making time for you, he sees his acquaintances perpetually and that is not honest to you. await him to call you, and then communicate issues out yet shop you're cool and merely tell him the form you experience, thats actually the final element to do.
2016-10-17 23:23:26 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion a drug dealer doesnt want a better life then what he has created for themself so about your boyfriend i would talk to him and ask him why hes like that what got him started into it and tell him it bothers u honesty is best even if it hurts and u might want to find out if hes hidding anything else
2007-06-18 14:11:41 · answer #7 · answered by Southern Princess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him then stay with him but tell him that you love him a lot and that if he wants to stay your boyfriend he needs to stop selling drugs or you'll break up with him. Also ask him if theres anything I mean ANYTHING else he is keeping from you and tell him that you love him.
2007-06-18 14:11:36 · answer #8 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe in love and forgiveness but i don't believe in lies. your boyfriend is showing you who he really is and it doesn't seem 2 suit u very much. i think this is your que to move on, or suffer a worse experience. if he gets picked up, could you be too? think about it, no man is worth that risk.
2007-06-18 14:13:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get away from him fast ---he may be useing to ----may get you into useing you do not need a life of trouble you do not know what people he deals with or who may want revenge or who has to pay up or who is involved get out move on
2007-06-18 14:04:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋