I thought I had found the woman I had waited on all my life, and come to find out.....so did several other guys. I admit she was good at her "craft", but she made the mistake of telling me about a couple of other guys she had been flirting with. As soon as I found out, I broke it off with her, but I'm still struggling with it. Any words of wisdom, or encouragement?
2007-06-18 12:25:51 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
"Moving on" is a hard thing to do, until you have given yourself sufficient time to heal. It varies with each individual, and can take from a short time, to years. It is better to have found out now, rather than later, though. Keep your chin up....better days lie ahead for you!
2007-06-18 12:49:56 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Are you sure you want to move on without her ? Breaking off with someone you considered your chosen one, is a terrible choice to have to make. Does she flirt when she's with you ? There are different ways of flirting. One is the promiscuous type. this is one I would worry about. I found you a great site on how a person flirts, their body language, etc. I read it + its really a good site : ) http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Flirting
I used to like having fun when I was a teen, still do, + my teasing (non suggestively) used to be taken as flirting.
Maybe she isn't interested in a lasting relationship, she maybe just out to have a good time + enjoy her life before she settles down. : ) Maybe with you, maybe with someone else. You haven't really said how you both feel towards another.
Find out what she does that she considers to be flirting. Opinions on most things can be different. Flirting with physical contact "can sometimes" be a problem
Talk with her that would be the best thing you should do next. Good luck + I hope she is "still" your chosen one. : )
2007-06-18 19:41:24 · answer #2 · answered by toobingaddict 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry this happened 2 u. I dealt with infidelity 4 years with my x husband...I wish I could give u the best advice but if she's still up 2 the same you need 2 ask yourself if this is the life u want . I realized that peace was more important 2 me than putting up with all the pain. So really it's a decision u have 2 make 4 yourself
2007-06-18 19:32:42 · answer #3 · answered by lovelylinda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU WERE SMART ENOUGH TO GET OUT, NOW BE SMART ENOUGH TO BE GRATEFUL FOR COMMON SENSE!
Start there, then realize that you love yourself not to put up with the bulls*it of others trying to use you. You have not lost much, you are just grieving LOVING SOMEONE~~ WHO WAS NOT RIGHT FOR YOU...the last part is the part that you keep loosing. SHE WAS A DOG!
Why should you, who has so much to offer, feel as if she is the only one who will see your qualities? Give yourself time to heal and then, go to work on yourself. Look and smell good. Get confident and selfish enough to spoil yourself a lot.
Cut your hair sharply/stylish. Wear clothes that make you look good for no reason~~you never know who is watching!
Stay busy with long baths, go to a gym, SOCIALIZE OFTEN, read a book, take up a hobby~~~stay so busy that you do not have time to miss what you really never had in the first place.
ONLY YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR OWN HAPPINESS~~~SO, GO GET IT BOY!
GOOD LUCK
2007-06-18 20:04:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry about that....here's my words of wisdom....take it day by day....let yourself grieve and once you've had enough, don't allow yourself to look back any longer. I found in my past that if I pretend and push away my sorrow, the "moving on" process is delayed.
The right one will come along soon....you'll see!
2007-06-18 19:35:19 · answer #5 · answered by Lovin' Life As Mama & Wife 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think by breaking it off now, that u may have saved yourself years of heartbreak. unfortunately we can't make a person who we want them to be, as we have no control over their choices. just be glad she revealed things about herself before u married her, instead of later on when u married her and had kids. just be glad u didn't get her, and all the problems that u would have had to deal with. if she loved and respected u she would not be flirting with others, u would be her one and only. it is hard to leave someone we love, and hoped to have a future with.
2007-06-18 19:39:27 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Grow up ...realize shes human... accept her for what makes her ...her... go get what you want and fight for" All " of her resinateing light... If you try hard enough maybe you will have her 100%... She can have anyone so what makes you special? You will have to show her . Woman love devotion...trust and someone that they have by thier side they can talk to... I pity you for your pride means more than the woman you love ..... THAT IS NOT LOVE!!!!. Anything worth having does not come EASY!!!
2007-06-18 19:57:19 · answer #7 · answered by quen 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I am sorry, there are lots of woman, pray, prayer opens the the door for God to work in our lives......Jesus loves you
2007-06-18 19:30:56 · answer #8 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋