My husband stated that it's hard for him to share his feelings and open up. What should I do?

Answer 1

The major reason behind that is the reaction you may give him after he lets his feeling out. Make sure you are listening before ever reacting because that will cause him to shut down and not want to let you in on how he is feeling. I am going through that right now with my hubby and as soon as he let me know that my reaction is what makes him close up I totally changed my attitude. I had no idea of the reactions I was giving off.

Answer 2

This is true with many men. They are more "action" oriented and not as "emotion" oriented as women.

Not all but many are this way.

I think it says quite a bit about the communication that he is even willing to say that it is hard to open up and share.

You can ask him if perhaps it is easier for him to write down what he is feeling and maybe you two can find a way to communicate including what he has written.

Some men need time to digest what has been talked about and come back later to discuss things.

If this is the case with your husband then could he write down what he is thinking, you could take it and read it and then the two of you could plan a time within a couple of days to sit down uninterrupted and talk about it together.

This could work also if you write down what you are feeling, give it to him and give him a chance to think about what he feels about the statements.

Answer 3

If you are from the baby boom generation, then don't be surprised. This generation (of men) was taught to be the man of the house, the provider. Taking care of the family was and is the main goal. They are not near as sensitive and talkative as the new generation.
If you are younger, look back at when you were dating. Was he really all that different? You might want to ask yourself what is more important - how he treats you and takes care of you, or how he expresses his feelings. Is he true to you, respects you and loves you? Sometimes, we believe men will change when we marry them, but he is what he has always been, and is that enough for you?

Answer 4

Its hard for 99% of us to open up and share our feelings,guys just dont do that easily,sorry. The other 1% that open up and share there feelings are gay so feel safe you married a heterosexual manly man

Answer 5

I had one of those for 20 years. He won't change so don't try to change him. You have two choices: either deal with it or divorce him. As for trying to probe his innermost thoughts and emotions, you'll tire of that soon enough. He'll only share what he wants to share. Be yourself and share your own feelings with him if you need/want to. Just don't expect reciprocation. (Didn't you know this about him BEFORE you got married ? ?)

oh, and Baltimoron: your name suits you. Cavemen died out centuries ago.

Answer 6

Enjoy the peace and quiet.
Who needs all that drama?
Tell him to say I love you a couple of times a week, then go talk to your girlfriends. Have a conversation about the kids, vacation the Yankees, what car to buy. At least then he'll talk.

Answer 7

Some men are just like that. My father was one. He had too much pride in himself . My husband is the same way. He doesn't want you to see any of his weaknesses just his strengths. He may be fearful of you using his feelings against him one day. Too much pride!

Answer 8

Accept it and support him. Men are curious creatures we have to be strong, we have to be able to take care of things without anyones help, and we have to keep our feelings inside, especially any feeling whereas we think we are not doing enough to take care of our families. Best bet is just to support him and let him know that you love him, and appreciate what he is doing. Will men the world to him

Answer 9

Accept his answer, and wait another 10 years to see if he wants to open up then. You're in this for life. Save something for when you're 70.

Answer 10

Nothing, just be patient if something is really on his mind he will eventually open up about it.