I don't speak up, stand my ground and keep firm to my decisions enough what do I do to change this?

Question

I'm worried that I might be too laid back with a lot of things, which is'nt good as poeple will walk all over me!

Answer 1

If you want to be more firm, then you just have to make yourself be more firm. If it really doesn't bother you, then don't bother.

I don't speak up, stand my ground much, but it doesn't bother me. Maybe I'll get taken advantage of once in a while, but, it doesn't bother me. I'm content.

If you want to change yourself, that's fine, maybe you'll be happier.

Sometimes we have to do things we don't want to do. That's life. And self-improvement is often difficult, but might be totally worth it.

Answer 2

You gotta realise that no matter what other people think, in the end what you think is what matters most. You have a belief or a certain way of doing something and you know in your mind that's what you want then don't let anybody change your mind about it or try to walk all over you. Any decision you make be firm with it and always remember the reason behind why you did and why you wanted it. People can be very manipulative so becareful not to fall for it. Always remember what it is that YOU want and just do it. Yes, some people won't like it but you can't please everyone, as long as you're content that's all that matters. Don't be afraid to say what you think when you find yourself in a situation that you don't agree with, if people are expecting you to follow them or agree with what they have to say, always remember that you don't have to because the person who's opinions matter the most is yourself & don't forget that! I'm not saying you have to be a really confrontational and out there person, just be assertive about what you want. Some people may reciprocate well and others won't but the people that don't are really not worth your time anyway.

Answer 3

does it bother you that people may walk all over you ? i used to be like u my mother said i was that laid back i was horizontal. didnt have a care or a worry in the world. becoming a mother and suffering from depression as a result of that has made me much more assertive to the point of sometimes i dont like the person i have become. at some point my mouth and attitude will get me into trouble !!. if you are happy the way you are stick with it, although i think if you make a decision of some sort if it is important enough you will find the will to stick too it. good luck xx

Answer 4

Is it because you lack confidence or just because you can't be bothered?
I'm much the same, I do lack confidence, however I am very much for a simple and peaceful life so I like to be left alone and don't want arguments or confrontations over things.
The most confidence building thing that I've ever done was amateur dramatics. I know it sounds a bit ponsy, but it's absolutely brilliant for confidence building and really really good fun. I don't have the time for it anymore, but would highly recommend it.

Answer 5

I used to think of I stood my floor o.k., then my little ones grew into childrens. That led to fairly some replace with the aid of fact there have been circumstances that I had not envisioned. existence stories replace my superficial ideals continuously. i'm particularly versatile there. yet deep interior i'm corporation.

Answer 6

Start by keeping in mind that to please someone while displeasing yourself, is not worthwhile--which is what usually happens when people do not stand their ground. I used to be like what you described, and I hated it because people would walk over me. But you know what I did? I got tired of it, I was tired of people always coming to me to fix problems that they could fix by themselves but just didn't because they knew I would do it for them, or taking advantage of me because I was SO "nice." There's not much you can do to change unless you WANT to change, and for me the only way to change is to get tired of BEING tired.

Answer 7

its really hard to change your ways, but you can. start with small things, for example someone wants you to go shopping with them and you don't want to. just politely tell them 'perhaps another time'.
once you are comfortable with the small things, then move up to bigger decisions. just take baby steps with it and before you know it, you'll be saying what you think and you will stand your ground.
like i said, its hard to do, but i did it! and so can you!

Answer 8

give yourself a break just because your voice isn't heard does not mean your opinions aren't valid try to see the wood from the trees if you we re not alive the world would be a duller place your time will come

Answer 9

Do nothing, let people continue to push yopu around & ride roughshod all over you.............

Or do something and be strong in yourself.

its a common problem that comes from being taught to be overpolite, when what you really need to say is..

"No, this is how I will act"

Answer 10

learn to grow a thick skin stand your ground do what you want to do people will have problem at first but they will get over it in my book people have to earn respect they dont just get it?