Has anyone ever regretted standing up to a bully?

Question

I'm just wondering. It seems that in every instance I have stood up to a bully, the ultimate outcome has been a positive one.

Is this a common experience?

Answer 1

I have a gift. I can talk circles around most people and I am not afraid to stand up for what I believe is right. Some people have not reached the point in their life where they can say that. I hope one day everyone can say that, but until they can I hope there are always people like me who will stand up for what is right anytime, anyplace. Even if I am standing alone. Right is right and I am strong enough to take the fall out from it.

I say BRING IT! I have a college degree, common sense and wonderful parents who raised me to know right from wrong. Bullies will not win! I have no regrets so far and as long as I follow my heart I am sure I never will.

Answer 2

I'm with you. How can you stand yourself if you give in to anyone that's a bully? Even if you lose hands down, you keep your self respect. The problem is that bullies get bigger and may have much more power as you get older and the question of standing up for your rights can have life changing repercussions. I still say find a way to fight the good fight. There is no other choice. Sometimes you can win if you don't stand up and slap them back in the face, but organize your thoughts and plan your actions. If everyone stood up to those that abuse us, this would be a very different world.

Answer 3

No,cannot say that this ever happened to me. Maybe once in grade school and it was addressed immediately by my family,and the perpetrator never came near me again. But the depressed part or regret that never occurred. Anyone being bullied address it immediately,as nobody ever should tolerate this,or be made to feel that way ever by anyone.

Answer 4

It can be a common experience IF when you stand up you are assertive and not hesitant. I stood up to an adult male bully, as an adult, and both times he backed down and never tried again and I am a female.

Answer 5

I had a new boss that was nothing but a Bully. I lost my job and am now unemployed. I had worked there 7 yrs. I don't regret it.
Had I sucked up and kissed A** i'd still be employed but have no self respect.

Answer 6

I used to be bullied, and the results vary:

Some bully because they want some strength in their lives and they actually long for somebody to stand up to them. Probably if they had very strong fathers or masculine influence. A male aggressiveness is focused on competition to see the winner.

Some bullies are genuinely sinister and contemplate your destruction or demise if you dare stand up to them...They torment others because they enjoy seeing pain and suffering that they identify themselves with. But they get very upset at someone who attempts to torment them more than they can torment others, so when you stand up it pushes them even more. I think that it is a result of strong mothers...A female aggressiveness is focused on revenge and redemption for past hurt. Non-reaction usually works with that type of bully, but it is immensely difficult to not look afraid of them whilst still accepting that they are going to harm you.

I think alot of bullying originates from the parents, and the exact nature of the bully depends upon which aspect of which parent (or both) that they seek to emulate or despise.

Heres a little "life story"

When I was young, I enjoyed receiving conflict from others and also starting conflict with others...In one instance, a kid stood up to me when I bullied him, I had befriended him in the past but I grew to resent him due to his weaknesses. Then something happened. I teased at him for a while, and I manipulated some one else to threaten this kid. Later I also physically threatened this kid because I could no longer stand him. The other kid whom I implicated later gave a very strong threat after that, then the bullied kid no longer came to school anymore and I was put on detention for 4 weeks. I was implicated because I had not kept my hands clean. It was not marketed as a punishment, but simply a means to protect the other kids from me until they thought I could be trusted again. So even the bully you think is to blame could be some other bully's puppet.

I'm a well-rounded man now just in case you were wondering...A lot of experience on all aspects of victim and perpetrator mentality.

Answer 7

Heck yeah! When I was in the 7th grade, I went to this rough middle school. One day I had gotten excused from music class to go to the restroom. In the hallway, this big ole evil chic comes out of the restroom with 2 or 3 other chics walkin' with her. I was new and kinda nerdy so she decided to mess with me. She said something like "What chu doin??? Goin' to change yo TAM-PON??? And they laughed. I responded by twirling my hand up in the air at her (It was a little gesture that we used to do that pretty much meant F&@*! you, but without the using the middle finger) and went on into the bathroom...Needless to say, after school, as I was walking home. Literally, a sea of bodies parted (Have you ever seen the movie "Hope Floats?"--just like that!) cuz she was waiting on the sidewalk for me in front of the school. She pummelled me and broke my glasses. My aunt tried to get the school to make her family pay for them (cuz back then, I was neither a lover nor a fighter). Obviously, I should've kept my mouth shut.

Answer 8

I have never regretted standing up for what is right, you not only force the other person to stop committing a wrong, you also boost your feelings of worth by not allowing others to treat you poorly, thus confirming to yourself that you are not unworthy or inadiquate

Answer 9

ofcourse one must stand up to a bully..even if he makes your life miserable, for standing up to him that one time, how can one live live with himself by giving in? cuz in an educational institute, the bully gets exposed if he/she crosses the line..

but then again, in a work environment, its different..one should knw exactly how much one can take..standing up to a "bully" per se everytime may not always be wise...tackilin the bully in a sly manner is best here..

Answer 10

My supposed "friend" that used to ride my bus got mad at me for no reason one day...and the next day and the next...She kept picking on me and calling me names. I got really tired of it so one day, I called her a name back. She stood up and punched me in the face...We were both suspended from school for fighting on the bus (even though I didn't even touch her) and she's hated me ever since. In fact, a year later, in P.E., she came up behind me, knocked me over, and started kicking me in the head for no apparent reason.

She's the only bully that I can think of that I regret standing up to. the end ^_^