Hey everyone!!!
I am 4 months 4 days pregnant with my first baby, by an amazing man, we have been together for a year and half and love each other dearly. The pregnancy slipped up on us but i couldnt be more happier.
The thing is I am 18 and he is 19, He has a great career and very succesful and established already because he is form jamaica and in jamaica u graduate from high school at 16.
He has been hinting marriage, His mom has even been asking me how i felt about it, And i am excited, my family likes him, his moter LOVES me, and things are good, we have are little arguments but thats with any relationship.
Are we to young to consider marriage??
Would it be weird to get married when im like 20?
I love him and this is something we are really considering.
I have a feeling he is goin to propose SOON.
Im excited!
Thanks people
2007-06-18 10:32:11 · 13 answers · asked by babiilove101 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do it to show God that yall really mean business, for yourself, do it for him cause when yall are married you show real love, through the ups and the downs, marriage and God are a good combination. Call it the triple threat, (you, him, and GOD) Nothing can get between that! But do it especially for the bun in the oven! Welcome he/she into this world with the family that you have always dreamed of and that you, he, and the baby deserves!
2007-06-18 10:40:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you weren't to young to behave like you were married. So no you are not too young to get married.
It would not be wierd to be married at 20- I know several people that were that young. You just have to make sure that you give up your immature ways that most 20 year olds have and that you are focused on each other and your child. You will make it if you are united and committed to making it work. Having a baby will mature you.
I would tell you to get married quickly before the baby is born. Make sure that child is born in a stable loving home. If you aren't married, then there is no stability.
You love each other- that is not always enough, but it is vital. You have a child to think about now, nothing else matters but the welfare of that child. Every child deserves an intact home so you need to put all your wants and needs aside and focus on that child and her happy home. If you can't do that and you can't provide a happy intact home for her, then give her to a family who can.
2007-06-18 18:07:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congrats! You sound very happy and in love. I'm glad he is thinking about marriage with a baby on the way. If it feels right and you both have the same goals I dont think you are to young. I would suggest talking to him with a counselor or Pastor. Some things should be discussed before gettin married, It is for the rest of your life. Good Luck
2007-06-18 17:46:58 · answer #3 · answered by T I 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it's much more weird to have a child when you're like 19 than to consider getting married when you're like 20. Having a child is a much bigger commitment, and a much bigger responsibility, than marriage could ever be. Now that you have already taken a more serious step, getting married should be a piece of cake. If it feels right - do it.
2007-06-18 17:38:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is between you and the him, I was 20 when I got married, had a daughter 12 years later, oh well. Young yes, can you make this work, yes and it will be hard but it can be done.
2007-06-18 17:44:27 · answer #5 · answered by kim t 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you want at 18 is very different than what you will want at 28, and at 38, etc. Maybe you should wait a while to get married and figure out if he really is the one. Congrats on your baby and good luck.
2007-06-18 17:35:14 · answer #6 · answered by Clicker 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, since your boyfriend sounds like a decent chap and you're already pregnant, why not?
But if you had not been pregnant I would have said that you should wait until much later to get married.
2007-06-19 00:35:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i met my husband when i was 18 and he was 21. i got pregnant almost a year later. we got married a month before my due date and have been married for 9 years now. it was hard in the beginning moving in with him and getting use to leaving with each other and then adding a baby to that situation, but we grew with one another and learned from each other. we got threw our rough patches that we had in the beginning of our young marriage and we now have a happy marriage and a beautiful little boy.
2007-06-18 17:48:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're young, but you're both legal, and love each other and the families agree it's a good idea, so I don't think you're TOO young.
Just be prepared for the both of you to grow and change over the coming years, and learn to adapt with those changes.
2007-06-18 17:37:53 · answer #9 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I say you marry him and anyways hes the love of your life and hes going to be a dad go for it its better if your commited, you may be young but yall are going to start a family soon!
2007-06-18 17:42:00 · answer #10 · answered by In love! 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋