He thinks I do not know about it, but because he is computer illiterate, he does not know that I can look up what sites have been visited.
2007-06-18 10:30:20 · 20 answers · asked by snowflake 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There are many levels of cheating. Emotionally he cheated on you. If he's honest and you knew about it then no big deal. Since he's keeping it a secret then yes. Anything that hurts the other person while in a relationship involving porn, strippers, dancers, magazines, etc. is considered cheating. It may not be physical but it sure is the hell emotional. I know from personal experiance. He only did it once and that's all it took for me to tell him it's either me or that nasty crap. It was a very emotional thing for me to go through. I disagree with porn. I find it degrading and he knew that. He did this out of sheir stupidity and I felt so betreyed and disgusting. I was wondering how he could do that to me if he said he loved me. Everyone's view on this subject are going to be different and I repsect that. It is cheating on a certain level. I let my man know how I felt, besides seeing the effect it had on me; that and it tore him up to know how bad he had hurt me by doing it. He promised never to do it again. I told him I don't care if it's 5 years from now or 50 years if it ever happened agian I would leave him. I won't be put on the pedestal next to some plastic, silicone bimbo for his moment to jerk off and be the biggest jerk in the world. No man would like the fact that there girl is looking up other men naked, it makes them feel like there not good enough. All cheating starts somewhere. Something wasn't good enough for someone so they find it elsewhere ergo porn for example. I respect others opinions mine is that it's just wrong and yes it is cheating if the man or woman have to hide the fact that they like that sort of stuff. Anything kept secret in a relationship is usually not a good sign of faith.
2007-06-18 11:39:18 · answer #1 · answered by tazzyp01 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most men do look at porn in my opinion. That doesn't mean they all do but the chances of a man looking at porn are good! Wether it's cheating or not....who knows. My fiance knows I don't want him looking at that stuff and I trust him enough to know that he is not. He's too bz playing that WoW game anyway! I think you should confront him about the matter and talk about it in a mature manner! Getting all upset won't help! You need to set him down and tell him how you feel and what you will tolerate! If you don't want him doing this, then let him know girl! Don't be afraid, you should never compromise the way you feel towards something! GL!
2007-06-18 10:47:31 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. Martin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i dont think its cheating but there could be a problem at home he is not getting something at home that is why he is looking at porn or he is a horny little devil and he constantly thinks about it . Here is a idea maybe it will ruin it for him start watching it with him you start looking up porn and see what he does i know you dont want nothing to do with it but see what happens let me know
2007-06-18 10:41:28 · answer #3 · answered by rick k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not cheating in any way, shape or type. there is not something incorrect with it as this is a organic interest. You sound such as you're insecure and hence threatened in the adventure that your husband have been to do it. Dont be, executed take it own. The extra you're against it, the extra advantageous the probabilities are high that he will (or already is) doing it. It gets previous like something, dont situation approximately it.
2016-10-17 22:53:57 · answer #4 · answered by xerxes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on....how is he cheating? By looking at some pictures? Gee, does that mean you are cheating if you happen to admire the way say Johnny Depp looks in that paparazzi shot at the beach? Or how about Brad Pitt? Admiring something or fantasizing is just that...a fantasy. Humans have imaginations, we should be thankful for that. Without one, we would be so very boring. Why not let him know you know..oh but wait..you're not being honest with him by telling him that you're snooping. So who's the one with the trust issues here anyway?
A true relationship requires honesty, communication and trust. Sounds like you two have some things to talk about.
2007-06-18 10:45:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
This is one, I said one of the reasons why I'm divorcing the SOB, I have a list two feet long, not really, why should he do this, he does not find you pleasing to the eye, HE has a problem, you can back track on anyone on the computer as you know!!!
2007-06-18 10:59:35 · answer #6 · answered by kim t 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is cheating because I told my husband that it makes me feel uncomfortable but he still looks at it.
2007-06-18 12:07:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
-You will feel "cheated on" by your partner because he needs something other than you in order to become aroused.
- You will feel insecure about your body, your sexuality and your ability to satisfy your partner.
-You will feel emotionally distant and separate from your partner during sex, worrying that he is not completely "there" with you.
- You will feel angry and resentful towards your partner for not respecting your feelings..
- You will eventually feel turned off to sex, since for you, it is associated with humiliation, control and a feeling of inadequacy.
2007-06-18 10:50:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally would be upset. Simply cause why is he looking at it when yor not home? And what else is he doing?? Thats something as a couple you should only share to together in my opionion!!!! good luck
2007-06-18 10:44:37 · answer #9 · answered by april s 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If this is bothering you now you have no idea what this kind of stuff morphs into later. My X went from magazines to videos to having hookers over while I was at work.
Lock your computer down and see what happens.
2007-06-18 10:41:39 · answer #10 · answered by Ker Plunk 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋