Tell me your problems...?

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Have just posted this as an answer to another question...

I am waiting for Natwest to tell me if I can remortgage - and have been waiting for eight weeks after one mistake after incompetent mistake.

My beloved parrot died at the weekend and now I have no-one and nothing in the house when I come home.

I have a weird telephone stalker who says he's gonna come round and 'rape' me and he knows I am on my own.

The Inland Revenue are after five grand they deemed 'correct' to pay me as tax credits three years ago and now want back.

My ex gives me constant barrages of abuse and has even got 'physical' over what he sees as my 'reluctance' to remortgage when nothing could be further from the truth.

I need a freaking holiday and can't afford it.

I just want some PEACE.

Or someone to help me cope with it all!

So - got anything worse? Make me feel humble...and glad I have MY problems and not YOURS!

Cheers Basketcase - right back atcha babe x

Thank you Happy Trucker! Just nice knowing someone is there to throw it all at - even if only once before you run off!

Tracey J - You are getting agoraphobic girl. You HAVE to have a reason to go out. Please find some so that we don't worry about you. I fell truly humbled by your posting!

Good Egg...I just don't know what to say...sorry mate.

Answer 1

no shame you have it bad, hope things get better for you.

Answer 2

I am so sorry you lost your parrot, I would be crazy if I lost mine.to hell with the ex,relax with the revenue, it was their mistake and it took them 3 years, they can take a little each year from your taxes, take a holiday in your mind honey. buy a tape of the ocean waves, a couple of candles that smell like the beach, put on a bikini, spread out a blanket, turn on all the lights, grab your sunglasses and a great book and escape to your own island maybe a little calypso in the background......... enjoy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 3

I am over 5000 dollars in debt right now and I'm pregnant. Making 5.65 an hr and only got 18 hrs this week. Definantly cannot top your problems but just might make you feel better that someone else has problems 2.

Answer 4

I understand when a pet dies, but get another pet doesn't have to be a Parrot, get a dog or a kitten.

Change your phone number and make it unlisted call and call the police put a report in for this man stalking you. like a restraining order.

for the revenue start paying it off.

for your ex go to court make it legal

take off 2 days or call in sick you can afford it you can make it better by helping yourself and now waling in self pity.

Answer 5

I am sorry...I have a friend who has somewhat huge debts at the moment, & I also have some sociapaths trying to ruin my life (I am going to deal with it though,I am a fighter!!) & although it doesn't amount to yours, it' also very painful....I have decided to say f*** it, what will be will be....
I sometimes listen to these songs which although don't give an answer to the problems, it helps 2 make me feel abit better:

Always Look on the Bright Side of Life Monty Python
Don't Worry,Be Happy by Bobby McFerrin

when life gets too much, you can say this prayer which has helped me tremendously: "Mother & Father God, this problem is too much for me to handle right now, please You deal with it.Thank you" I promise you God will hear you & help you. & ask God to put the white light of the Holy Spirit around you, to absorb any negativity & protect you from harm.

also I don't know if you believe in angels, but i do know they exist & they are there to help us when we need it, becos we're only human & sometimes we take on too much & then we can ask & invoke the angels to help us,they'll come to anyone who asks but they never interfere with our free will & won't help us unless we ask them, all you have to do is say: Angels please help me!" & they'll be instantly by ur side & you can mentally ask them for help with whatever proble you have...you can only try this & find out & u have nothing 2 lose by doing so!

also, whenever I have a problem (as I always do!!), I say this affirmation: " All is well,everything is working out for the highest good of all, only good will come out of this situation, all is well & I am safe." it'll work miracle in your life....

I am so sorry, I wish there was sth more I could do...
xxChoo

PS> have u contacted the CAB for advice about the re-mortgage? they are usually very helpful & might be able to offer some advice.
you can find out ur nearest centre from this link:

Answer 6

I'm with you sister, sorry about Parrott. The answer is simple they all need you to survive. They won't tell you, they will deny you every inch, but when it comes to crunch time they will all go your way. Hold out, give em hell and tell your ex not to be so childish and sort his own affairs out. Join me on a holiday away from hell........

Answer 7

I'm sorry for your troubles. My problem is that I've been the guardian of my 3 year old grand daughter and now she is back with her parents, which is a good thing and right, but I am very, very sad!!! I miss her so much.

Answer 8

Don't think I could really compete with that :

I found my partner dead, tried to revive him. Am now suffering with PTSD, Chronic Grief & Depression. I keep getting flashbacks from then. I have now remembered some really bad memories from childhood, which are now also giving me flashbacks. Can't sleep for having nightmares.
Lost my job, because became to ill to work and have had 2 knee ops in the last 12 months. Too scared to go shopping and in crowds anymore.

Miss my partner and could really do with him here to help me.

:-)))

Answer 9

Goodness you sure do need a holiday girl and I wish I had the money to send you somewhere hot and exotic so you could get away from your worries and woes and chill out as you sure do deserve to, I have no worries but wish I could help you with yours.

Answer 10

My boyfriend and I got together in August 2005. He has two very beautiful little girls 6 and 3 years from a previous relationship... When they split up she took the kids back to Montana. I told him that I would do whatever I could to get those kids back. December she finally agreed to let him take the children back to Iowa. Biggest mistake she could have ever done.
As soon as they got back in the state of Iowa, we contacted a lawyer and served her on Feb 14th.... Not once did she ever appear in court or have a lawyer appear in court... so therefor she fell into a default judgement. On June 20th 2006, he won full joint custody... where they are only to go out there for one week at Christmas and one month in the summer.
All the while I am pregnant, so tens times more stress then someone should have to deal with. Second weekend of July 2006 the children went to see their mom. Once she got them back she refused to let them talk to their dad. She filed a complaint about mental, physical, and sexual abuse against us. When it came to returning them a month later, she would not... We had to drive all the way to Montana and get the police involved before we could finally get the children back. I will tell you what Montana law are shady as hell.
Since then we have been down on our luck with money and our living situations... Just recently on the 3rd of June we were kicked out of our house. (our landlord sold the house we were renting out from under us.) So for the past couple weeks we have been move from hotel to hotel, doing our damnest to keep a place over all of our heads.
The last couple weeks I have bashed myself and told myself that I can't provide for my children. I feel more and more like their mom... a complete failure. Everyday the kids ask us where are we going to stay tonight or next week.
Let me give you a little breakdown of their mom... she doesn't want to take care of the kids... when they visited last summer, she was out every night. She has no secure place to live, she moves from house to house, family member to the next. The oldest child told us that when they went out there, they used to bribe both child by telling them they would get them something if they would not tell they were smoking pot. She told us that they would smoke pot in a back bedroom and put the children under the bed... she remembers feeling really sick and dizzy.
Previously I said she never appeared in court. Not once did she ever comply with the court. Never contacted them, or sent in the appropriate documentation. So she pretty much lost the kids because of her own ignorance. She refuses to do anything legal... She will not take the correct steps in order to get more time with the children... she believes by calling the police or welfare workers on us every other week, she will dig up some kind of dirt on us, she then can use against us.

Here we are coming up on our 2 year anniversary of dating, and we have been through moving twice, custody battle, having a beautiful daughter, and now the most recent living in a hotel. I tell him everyday that I know that we will work out because we have been through a crap load in a year - year and a half.

I keep telling myself, what doesn't kill me will only make me stronger. Everything will work out for the best. I will keep my prayers with you. Take a step back and look at the good that you have in life and not focus on all the bad... Sometimes I have to pull myself out of the daily grind and crap and tell myself you have three beautiful girls with you and not with some welfare worker. You have the most important things in your life right now by your side through all of this.

I wish the best for you, and I hope everything will work out the way it was intended. Take a holiday it is very much deserved... even if the holiday is spent with a couple great friends and a pitcher of margariti's. Or do some research on the internet, there are a lot of great little po-dunk towns with a lot of history and great sights

Answer 11

Wow, I really feel for you. Such alot of cr@p for 1 person to have to deal with.
I'd call the police about your phone stalker though. That must be awful for you.
chin up xx