We never had a wedding, we just went to the justic of peace, and now I want to have a wedding to renew our vows, but my husband thinks it is dumb, and it is to soon to be renewing our vows.
2007-06-18 09:54:10 · 12 answers · asked by RJ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I say do it! Nothing wrong with telling your husband that you'd marry him all over again, no matter how long you've been married.
2007-06-18 10:26:32 · answer #1 · answered by wc2ketey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if your husband thinks it is dumb, then yes: it's too early.
Renewing your vows should have meaning. If one party in the marriage sees no meaning in it, then the act itself is pretty pointless.
In my opinion, vow renewal should be done when a couple has experienced a significant change; either grown together over time, seen their lives unfold in new ways, found a new appreciation for each other, or simply want to find a new way of expressing their commitment to each other given what they've been through and how they've grown as a couple since they were first married. The amount of time that has spanned between the two is irrelevent, but both parties in the marriage must feel the desire to renew the vows for it to have any meaning.
It is not a reason to "have the wedding you never had".
2007-06-18 10:06:02 · answer #2 · answered by Courtney 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go ahead and do it. It's for the two of you anyway so who cares if it's 5 years or 5 hours. You deserve to have a wedding and renewing your vows it like committing to eachother all over again!
2007-06-18 10:08:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is never too soon. You guys should do what is right for you..if you think you should renew after 6 months, then go for it!
Now, for my personal opinion. I wouldn't do a wedding vow renewal I would have a big anniversary party and celebrate the marriage to date. You have already made your commitment to one another, now celebrate how far you have come in your marriage!
2007-06-18 10:16:49 · answer #4 · answered by joellemoe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 22:46:55 · answer #5 · answered by goulette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's never too soon. You can renew your vows every 5 minutes if you feel like it. I say go for it!
2007-06-18 10:04:26 · answer #6 · answered by Clicker 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go for it! You never got your wedding that evry little girl dreams of, I would do it. Heck I did it, we just didnt wait 5 years, courthouse marriage and then had a ceremony. It was great. Go for it, enjoy it, its not dumb, its a great idea and its never too soon. Your doing it for yourself and your husband not for any possible guests, so if they dont agree whats it matter, its for the two of you- live it up and have fun!
2007-06-18 10:01:36 · answer #7 · answered by cait5156 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I strongly disagree with him. I think it is a wonderful idea and very romantic too. Just remember to let the invites know that there is no need for gifts outside of maybe a bottle of wine or champagne.
I hope you wear a white dress & have a reception too.
2007-06-18 10:01:10 · answer #8 · answered by theladygeorge 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well people normally do that when they have their 50th year. I would have more of a reception rather than renewing your vows. That is a good idea though. Ask your family and friends. Good Luck
2007-06-18 09:57:53 · answer #9 · answered by chihuahuas rock 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You can do whatever you want honey. You never got your wedding and now you want something. Go ahead and do it!
2007-06-18 09:57:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋