I caught my som masturbating, to porn online, what should i do. He is really embaresed, to talk to me? what do i do?
2007-06-18 09:38:51 · 19 answers · asked by jake g 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
Welll, embarising. Defenitly
More for him then you....way more.
guys dont want to talk about that stuff, and even less for parents to know or talk to them about it.
But point is it happend.
He know you know that he dose that now, you might have known before, but it was an unsaid thing for him.
If you dont think that its right then I would talk about it with him and tell him that yeah even though its embarising you dont think its right to do. the porn anyway.
if hes masturbating telling him not to wont help, sorry.
you can tell him you dont think its right and you can tell him why and all that, but addictions have to be broken individualy.
2007-06-18 10:06:23 · answer #1 · answered by robertt223 4 · 1⤊ 5⤋
Masturbation is normal. Period. The end. There's no "catching" someone doing it, as though it were some evil or wicked thing. There is, however, "seeing" or "discovering" someone doing it which is quite another approach. Don't make a big deal out of this. He's just doing what guys do.
Online porn - well, some people think it's dreadful; but at the same time everyone knows that men like porn. As long as he's not sitting in front of the computer for hours and days on end, what's the real harm?
2007-06-18 18:21:17 · answer #2 · answered by Richard B 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
To me it sounds like you need to have a talk with your son. I know I wish my Dad had had the sex talk with me when I was younger. It's not something to be embarrassed about, but you just need to talk about masturbation and porn and explain it is not all evil or terrible and it's normal, but definitely set some rules about porn. But if you just try and stop him from seeing it completely it could just drive him to see more.
2007-06-18 17:20:43 · answer #3 · answered by xmanconti 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would not say anything more about it. All boys masturbate, most watch porn and it is perfectly normal. If you make a big thing out of it then he is going to still sneak around and do it so why say anything. At least he isn't out making some girl pregnant yet.
2007-06-18 17:21:09 · answer #4 · answered by howard 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Simply say. Son I believe it is time for us to have a talk. 1. Explain to him on the need to avoid porn and how porn is not honest in its representation of sex. 2. explain to him that the masturbation is good for him and needs to be as often as possible in private so do so with out the porn. 3. Talk about how you will work hard to honor his privace and will try to avoid future embarrassing moments that you did not mean to invade his personal privacy while he was involved in sex and you will always knock on the door in the future. 4. explain again the need to not get hooked on porn.
2007-06-18 17:01:51 · answer #5 · answered by Geo 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You dont say how old your son is, if he is a young teen explain to the realities of porn versus real life and buy him some wipees for the community keyboard. If your son is forty a good toss out on his as* is in order.
2007-06-18 17:00:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is a very sensitive subject and it is probably hard for your son. What he was doing was all part of the growing up process. About watching porn, you should tell him that it degrades women and is not good to get into. It will be hard for him to come around, but he will talk to you about it eventually.
2007-06-18 17:38:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Remind me of - American Pie.
How many of us masturbate when we were teenagers and thought our parents didn't know? How many of us use some magazines when doing it? Not everybody but probably many of us did at one point.
If you are really concerned, you might want to sit down with him and address this. However, this as part of the growing up. Don't worry, as long as your son has the right attitude of the whole sex thing.
2007-06-18 17:27:23 · answer #8 · answered by White Polar Bear 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well, thing is, hes bound to do it, theres loads of it on the net, he only has to trip up on it, to start realising he likes it, so its normal, maybe you should talk to him, though if you leave him im sure he'll be perfectly happy to carry on with out your interfering, thing is just to say 'its ok, but those people are acting' though i think he will find most of it out for himself
2007-06-18 18:49:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now would be a good time to have the "facts of life" talk, if you haven't already. If you already have, then I wouldn't say anything.
2007-06-18 19:15:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋