My husband Lost his wedding ring recently and we've only been married for a year.?

Question

Supposedly he's asked people at work if they've seen it but he hasn't looked hard enough for it. It's already been 3 weeks and no ring. I am very upset that he was careless about it and didn't even realize he didn't have his ring. I would totally frake out if I would loose mine. Do you think I've over reacting? He wouldn't like it if I were roaming the streets or at work with out my rings.

Answer 1

My husband lost his too. We both searched high and low for it, then finally after a month we bought him a new one. Then 2-3 years later, we were moving, and we found the ring under our water bed. I have no idea how it got under, but it was. So now he has a spare. I didn't really freak out about the ring as far as it being the actual wedding band, it was more about the cost. Just because he didn't have the band, it didn't make him any less married or committed to me. That is what marriage is. A commitment to each other. it's not about the ring. If I lost mine I would freak out and so would he, but for the cost of the replacement, not the sentimental value. It's just jewelry. It's your commitment to each other that really matters.
If this is the worst thing that happens in your marriage, consider yourself blessed.

Answer 2

Unless there are other activities or actions that have you unsettled about your relationship with your husband, then I would say that you are definitely over-reacting. If the thing slipped off and fell into a gutter somewhere, he may literally NEVER find it. So what is he supposed to do? Search for it until he dies an old man with a crooked neck? If it doesn't turn up, then he can get a new one. The symbol of a thing is not as important as the thing itself. You should be more concerned about your marriage itself, and less concerned over a material possession that is not nearly as important as your relationship, which you might damage if you over-react to everything. That said, all I've said here goes right out the window if you have other suspicions that are leading you to react this way. If it is honestly just the ring, then get over it. If not, then investigate your feelings. Good luck!

Answer 3

some times when your use to wearing something after time it will feel like its not there at all , so maybe thats what happened so he didnt realize that he lost his ring , is the ring insured , if so see wha tthe insurence company says , , the ring is only a symbol of your love for one another , so if you really love him and he loves you the ring is only a material item , what if he had lost his ring finger or something that wouldn t mean that hes not married , alot of pepole dont wear ther ewedding bands , that dont mean they r not married or not commeted to one another , maybe the ring is down the drain , alot of rings get lost in the sink , double check the drain catch under your bathroom sink as well as kitchen sink , if u have a washer and dryer check those as well , , i understand how upsetting this may be but rember were all humans and things get lost , , the ring doesnt replace the love you have for one another and your love isnt based on the rings on your fingers its a symbol only , if him wearing a ring is so important go to a pond shop or somewhere and get him a new one and make sure it fits his finger tighter than the other on e ,,, my hubby and i hav e been married for 7 yrs and together for 16 yrs , he dont wear a ring becaus e of the type of work he does and it can be a safty hazard , i dont lov e him know more because of this or no less , i just know that he loves me and i him and that ring isnt worth him loosing his finger at work so i rathe r him not wear it at all

Answer 4

Instead of arguing, just go the jewelry store with him tonight, and pick out a simple, inexpensive band - it's the symbol that matters more than the price or fanciness.

As far as over-reacting that all depends on the two of you. My dad never wore his ring because he was an electrician and having metal on his fingers would have been very dangerous for him. Did women hit on him? Probably - but did he ever waver in his faithfulness to my mom - no way!

I promise you, even with your ring on, men will hit on you. The symbol of the ring is important - but what's a hundred times more important is your own integrity and faithfulness.

Answer 5

Rings are, or should be a symbol. The question I would pose to you is, other than the fact that he lost it (more of something a kid would do, but as all women know most of us are kids anyway so...) why is it bothering you. It is a piece of jewlery, nothing more. I know guys who rarely if ever wear their ring. Granted it is mostly because of their jobs, but still, do you think if he doesn't have it, he will cheat?? Do you think he will forget he is married?? Do you think without it you will somehow sudenly be less important to him?? Was it a $10,000.00 ring?? I think instead of being so mad at him for losing it, you should examine exactly why it matters so much. I am not saying it is not an irresponsible thing for him to have done, but really, what is it in the end, a piece of jewlery.

Answer 6

"he hasn't looked hard enough for it."

Compared to what? Should he be putting adds out in the paper? Lost signs on the phone polls? Stop everyone in known existance if they have or have seen his ring?

You are overreacting. Men's rings aren't normally expensive at least in comparison to women's rings. You know what, Wal-Mart has a titanium wedding ring for $45. If he is like some men who lose anything then that is a cheap and easy replacement for when this happens again.

Answer 7

A lot of people don't even wear rings. In some professions (welders, doctors, surgeons) wearing a ring is an occupational hazard. Other people don't think a material object is necessary to commit themselves to one and other.

What does it mean to you to wear a ring? Is it a powerful symbol you truly believe in (the notion of the circle, etc), or is it a means of control/warding off all those "predatory" single women who are trying to destroy your marriage? (Sounds pretty ridiculous when you spell it out, doesn't it?) Why are you worried? This sounds like a trust issue.

Talk to YOUR HUSBAND about this; explain why it bothers you, and ask that if he can't find it in another week or so if he plans on replacing it. To him it's probably not as big a deal because he doesn't see it at a "collar" (like a dog wears a collar, so its owner can control it...); he knows he's going to be faithful to you, ring or not.

Answer 8

I lost my wedding ring one year after we were married. I was swimming in the ocean right after a bad hurricane passed through. The waves were intense and fabulous. Didn't realize I lost my wedding band until I went back to the Hotel room. Nevertheless, I bought another one matching the one I had. My husband and I have been married now for 18 years. They say it could be bad luck, but maybe it is good.

Answer 9

Of course you're not overreacting! The ring means unity between you too! Maybe you should sit him down and talk to him about it. Honesty always is the key to happiness, even if there are consequences. But if you are the revenge type of person, maybe you should get him another ring and tell him that it cost A FORTUNE. He may feel bad about losing the original ring... But don't do that, it's not a good thing to do. If I were you, I would do the first thing that I said.

Answer 10

What is he supposed to do? If he lost it, he lost it. There are only so many places you can look for a ring before you just have to accept the fact that it is gone; it happens. Maybe one day you guys can go out and get him a new ring.